Guest Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 My name is Sarah, I have been married for 17 years,and 9 months ago i found out my husband had been cheating on me.At the time i was absolutely devastated,i really went to hell and back.At first i blamed myself,thought i was ugly,unworthy.Then one day i woke up and i felt anger,i was not a bad person,i was not ugly,and once i realised that i was able to let go of a marriage which had been slowly destroying me for years.I realised that he was not worth it and i deserved so much better.I told him i was going to file for divorce,and i felt so good about taking that first step.At the moment im going through a divorce,but i really cant wait,its accepting that the bad part of my life is over,and my life can only get better. I have met the most amazing man,he truly is the man of my dreams.He loves me so much and is so romantic.He truly cares about me,he takes me on weekends away,buys me champagne,but its not the gifts he gives me,its the love and respect he shows me at all times.I am so glad my husband cheated on me,as i would of still been miserable with him,and would not be with this wonderful man im with now. Anyone reading this who has just discovered about their spouses affair,take heart as i have been there.I promise you it will get better,and if your marriage cant be saved there really is someone better out there.
Guest Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 My name is Sarah, I have been married for 17 years,and 9 months ago i found out my husband had been cheating on me.At the time i was absolutely devastated,i really went to hell and back.At first i blamed myself,thought i was ugly,unworthy.Then one day i woke up and i felt anger,i was not a bad person,i was not ugly,and once i realised that i was able to let go of a marriage which had been slowly destroying me for years.I realised that he was not worth it and i deserved so much better.I told him i was going to file for divorce,and i felt so good about taking that first step.At the moment im going through a divorce,but i really cant wait,its accepting that the bad part of my life is over,and my life can only get better. I have met the most amazing man,he truly is the man of my dreams.He loves me so much and is so romantic.He truly cares about me,he takes me on weekends away,buys me champagne,but its not the gifts he gives me,its the love and respect he shows me at all times.I am so glad my husband cheated on me,as i would of still been miserable with him,and would not be with this wonderful man im with now. Anyone reading this who has just discovered about their spouses affair,take heart as i have been there.I promise you it will get better,and if your marriage cant be saved there really is someone better out there. Good Evening, My name is janet, and I am the woman who found her husband of 35 years had been cheating on her for 29 of those years.. I feel like I am mourning a death of someone.... This letter gives me some kind of hope.. thank you for writing this. Sincerely, Janet
BeenAround_N_Back Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 Dear Guest of OP, Good for you!! Affairs are definitely an eye opener!!! one way or another... I am happy for you!
syz Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 Congratulations on a happy turn around. I'm still dealing with all the fall out of my discovery and am dealing with all the anger/hatred that ensues. I'm hoping for someone who can finally love me the way I want to be. It is great to have posts like this. Hopefully your H is also learning his lessons in the process.
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