missmebaby Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 my ex boyfriend broke up with me 4 months ago after being together for a year. i have been in no contact for exactly 2 weeks now because i was having a very hard time getting over him. well his cousin and good friend talked to me the other day and said that my ex told him that he thinks i cheated on him. i was appalled when i heard this. i never ever would have even thought about cheating on him. hes the one that cheated on me and i took him back and i think cheating is a horrible thing that i would never do to anyone and he knows this. now im so tempted to send him a text message telling him that i never cheated on him. i already have it typed out, i just need to press send. it says "so someone told me that you think i cheated on you. i really dont care what else you think about me but i never cheated on you." i just dont know if i should send it or not. ive been doing really good with NC these past 2 weeks, but if i send it, its not like i really talked to him or anything. i dont know, what should i do??? i want him to know what i never cheated on him
rp107 Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 does it matter? The reason I ask is... do u still want to be with him... if so, then maybe have the friend you talked to tell him.... and see what happens.. but if you want to move on from him and don't care.... don't let it bother u.... U know u did nothing wrong.. thats all that matters to u... I was told today someone dear to me needs space... so I know how tempting it can be to want to call and stuff, but unless u have motives to get with him again... my opinon would be to not send it.. wish u well..
silentalways Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 no don't do that. if u never did then don't bother telling him u didn't. a quick question - when u broke up [if it was u] and did nc - maybe he's just trying to figure things out and it probably isn't a 'hit' against yer character - he might just be searching for a reason. plus, depending on how the relationship ended, if it was messy, sometimes people do go towards others - but i think u mean while together. during a delusional stage of nc, i actually thought my ex did that - gawd, i really was all over the map because of nc. but even thinking that didn't make me feel bad because i thought if i had hurt her enuff to leave - hey, anything is possible [which i know now is a whacked thing to actually think] well, i did alot of cooooo-coooo bananas things for a while - never been thru a breakup like my last one - wow! not letting that happen again - gonna make sure of that - wink i trusted the ex completely. speaking of the ex - today i felt something weird - instead of remorse, or wanting her back, i simply missed her. that's a great no-stress out feeling to have.
All_Cried_Out22 Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 personally i think he just wants to know what you are up to especially being that there has been nc of two weeks now, don't text him and even if he contact you dont even stay on the phone past three minutes and dont bring up the situation,you owe him no explantion!
Krytellan Posted December 9, 2006 Posted December 9, 2006 Of course he says that about you... why wouldn't he? The fact that you even care shows that you are in NO WAY ready to break NC.
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