Guest Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 I am a married man who has lived with the knowledge of my wife wanting to be with a creepy character who manipulates her like a pawn. This has gone on for two years now. I have tried in every way possible to be patient and understanding. I have set aside my huge ego for the sake of my family for a long time but I'm afraid my will is whithering. I was always told that this man openly flirts but it is not reciprocal. That her feelings by enlarge were hidden from coworkers. I was approached via email at work anonymously the other day by someone at my wifes office. I do not no who,nor do I recognize the address. It was simply an email detailing conversations between my wife and the om. Basically it discussed times and places they had met and how they planned times alone at the office and how my wife confessed to this person the effort she has put in to have sex with this man. I don't know how or why but somehow the om's daughter even wound up on my basketball team - I am the coach.I have noticed my wifes anger toward the om's wife, who is no prize herself but is nonetheless adequately paired,is venomous. For all I know they're together now. I thought that her honesty about the situation was all that I had left, however I realized last night that I've been had and it's not the first time. I am going to see the om once or twice a week for a while now and I have a wonderful vision of knocking his lights out which would not be much to brag about but what's to lose at this point. At least I'd have a place to move on from. I would appreciate any advice as I haven't been able to sleep since the email, and I figured someone might tell me how they would like their partner to act.
Guest Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 I am a married man who has lived with the knowledge of my wife wanting to be with a creepy character who manipulates her like a pawn. This has gone on for two years now. I have tried in every way possible to be patient and understanding. I have set aside my huge ego for the sake of my family for a long time but I'm afraid my will is whithering. I was always told that this man openly flirts but it is not reciprocal. That her feelings by enlarge were hidden from coworkers. I was approached via email at work anonymously the other day by someone at my wifes office. I do not no who,nor do I recognize the address. It was simply an email detailing conversations between my wife and the om. Basically it discussed times and places they had met and how they planned times alone at the office and how my wife confessed to this person the effort she has put in to have sex with this man. I don't know how or why but somehow the om's daughter even wound up on my basketball team - I am the coach.I have noticed my wifes anger toward the om's wife, who is no prize herself but is nonetheless adequately paired,is venomous. For all I know they're together now. I thought that her honesty about the situation was all that I had left, however I realized last night that I've been had and it's not the first time. I am going to see the om once or twice a week for a while now and I have a wonderful vision of knocking his lights out which would not be much to brag about but what's to lose at this point. At least I'd have a place to move on from. I would appreciate any advice as I haven't been able to sleep since the email, and I figured someone might tell me how they would like their partner to act. NEVER TAKE SOMEONE ELSE'S WORD....you never know if it is true or not. and not only that he could have sent you the email because he may have the hots for your wife and that he was shot down and he is just stirring up trouble. what I would do is some investagations of my own. first ask her about it and show her the email you recived and you know your wife.....you know if and when she is lieing to you. it is like my husband when he lies his face turns red and I can tell by the look in his eyes. you and only you know your wife and if she is cheating it always comes out!!!! it always come out!!!!! so I would 1. show her the email, 2nd. I would defently confront her. 3. if she denies any of this do your own investagations (follow her or have her followed) I would also confront the other man and say the wife has told me everything and you just wanted to know why and if it were true before you talked to his wife and he will then tell you it did or did not cause the last thing he wants is his wife involved. hitting and fighting only brings you down to there level. the only way to get even is to know you caught them and be the better person and just say see ya. kindness kills worse than meaness because it eats at you and you then have to feel sorry for what you have done.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 Did you reply to the email? I would collect all of the information that I could first without telling your wife. When you have thought it out and are calm, one day after practice surprise them by asking them to explain these things to you. I can't imagine having to play nice to the parent. I would not have trouble with the child. I can't imagine your pain and frustration. Someone though was nice enough to fill you in, I would want to know who eventually - any chance it's the wife?
BeenAround_N_Back Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 Guest, you should try posting this at the Infidelity forum here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/f35/ Have you tried to talk about this situation with your wife at all?
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