the_alchemyst Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 So, I was talking with this cynical bloke yesterday, and the topic of long distance relationships came up. He asked me what I thought about them, and I told him that I think they can work. I didn't elaborate then, but what I meant to say was that I think they can work if both parties are willing to put in the necessary effort to make it work. In this sense, I don't think there is much difference between LDRs and any other relationships because all require work, but it just so happens that LDRs possibly require "more" work, maybe. And while the concept of LDRs does feel kind of strange to me, probably because I have never engaged in one, I don't think they are "absurd," like I know some people think. Anyway, this guy replied, not by saying that he doesn't think they can work, but but by saying that they "don't exist." WTF? What are your opinions on these types of relationships? Do you think they can work or not? Or do you think they are nonexistent altogether?
bab Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 Nonexistant huh? I like that take. :lmao: I think they can work, but for them to work well I believe that there needs to be a light at the end of the tunnel. Like 6months from now we will be in the same place. I know of married couples that live in different states. I wouldn't want to do it, but it is done.
norajane Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 Don't exist? I have no idea what that guy even means. LDR's do indeed exist, and they can and do work. I've had two. My first - we were together 2 years, LD 2 years, and together another 2 years before we broke up. My second - we knew each other for many years prior, were LD for 18 months, and have been living in the same city for the last 6 months...still together...
alphamale Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 I think you can have a casual LDR for fun for a period of time. But to have a real and serious relationship you need to have proximity.
burning 4 revenge Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 I think you can have a casual LDR for fun for a period of time. But to have a real and serious relationship you need to have proximity.Yes, I think you put it perfectly. The thing that could really complicate it is developing a strong emotional attatchment with no hope of proximity.
lovestruck234 Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 Yes, I think you put it perfectly. The thing that could really complicate it is developing a strong emotional attatchment with no hope of proximity. *nods* I agree with that...perfectly put. I don't know that I could do it, but I think for some people, they could work...
magichands Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 Teledildonics. http://www.thetoy.us/ Just kidding.
magichands Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 Absolutely. They can work. Absolutely. LDRs are cool because you can write poems and stuff. The Internet is definitely a boon for LDRs. No more three-digit (or even four-digit!) phone bills. What could be sexier than writing a loving note for each day you'll be apart, and sticking it in a jar for them. It's the anticipation that makes these things HOT. The day finally comes, and all that tension gets released in a giant flaming ball of passion. :bunny::bunny:
lovestruck234 Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 Absolutely. They can work. Absolutely. LDRs are cool because you can write poems and stuff. The Internet is definitely a boon for LDRs. No more three-digit (or even four-digit!) phone bills. What could be sexier than writing a loving note for each day you'll be apart, and sticking it in a jar for them. It's the anticipation that makes these things HOT. The day finally comes, and all that tension gets released in a giant flaming ball of passion. :bunny::bunny: Wow, Magic, I think that's the nicest thing I've ever seen you write... It's nice to see you've finally showed your true colours...I always suspected it!
alphamale Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 Absolutely. They can work. Absolutely. LDRs are cool because you can write poems and stuff. The Internet is definitely a boon for LDRs. No more three-digit (or even four-digit!) phone bills. What could be sexier than writing a loving note for each day you'll be apart, and sticking it in a jar for them. It's the anticipation that makes these things HOT. you've been drinking again MH...
magichands Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 Unless it's with me, it can't work. I really like the idea of you being far away from me.
lovestruck234 Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 you've been drinking again MH... Hahahaha, now why did that thought not cross my mind?? Duh!!
BareGoddess Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 I really like the idea of you being far away from me. Yeah, I know what you mean.
magichands Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 Yeah, I know what you mean. I had no idea you felt it too.
BareGoddess Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 I had no idea you felt it too. Oh yeah, it's palpable...(by the way, what is "it?")
Lauriebell82 Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 yeah they can def. work. i am in one right now and although we are only an hour 1/2 (i go to graduate school in another town) we see each other every weekend. i miss him so much during the week but it makes it extra special when i see him on the weekend. i love him with all my heart and i love what we have. in order for one to work however u need a couple things: if the distance is drivable and u can at least see each other on some weekends then it could work if eventually u do end up living closer. same thing applys to long proxity then its a little different cause u cant spend as much time together. it could work though as long as u could see urself moving closer to each other.
burning 4 revenge Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 Teledildonics. http://www.thetoy.us/ Just kidding. I didn't click the link earlier. Haha I guess I stand corrected.
che_jesse Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 It could never work for me, I'm far to of a physical person for it. I need to be with the person that I am with, if I'm not then it just makes no sense to me why we are even together in the first place. We started out together... I don't date people online or anything, so why is someone no longer there? If the relationship mattered enough I would have moved with him if he had to, if I didn't it just does not matter. But thats just me, other people are perfectly happy seeing each other once every 3 months and cybering the rest of the time.
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