addicted2love Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 (author of True Love or bs?) aka slave2love For those of you who have been so supportive on LS I really want to say THANK YOU!!! I'm still having good days and bad...every day gets a little easier. I'm so glad I've found this forum...you folks ROCK! I've taken a lot of the advice I've gotten here and put most of it to good use. I still think about my situation a lot but as the days go by it's getting easier. For those of you that are still in pain over exMM/MW here is my advice to you....take all of that negative energy and do something possitive for yourself. I promise you this works...get out of bed every morning and look at it as a brand new opportunity instead of just another day without him/her. Here's what I've done....I've been over weight for 13 years now...when my exBF/MM contacted me back in July I started to care about my looks again. I dropped 20 pounds (walking and cutting portions in half) in two months! Well when he broke my heart I decided that I still wanted to feel good about myself and the way look so instead of pigging out to comfort myself (like I normally would) I started working out! I dropped 15 more pounds and am starting to see definition in my abs again. My friends are all envious of my backside these days and ask me to walk in front of them (when we go for long walks) so that they can be inspired to lose weight too! I've been dreading the holiday's because MM and his W will more than likely be in town to visit family and I am paranoid to run into him. Instead of preparing myself for the worst I've decided to look and feel as good as I possibly can...I have this vision of his eyes popping out of his head and thinking to myself...eat your heart out buddy...ya can't touch this! Ok..so maybe it's only a fantasy but it gets me through! A girl can dream right? Either way I still feel good about me and that is what is most important...the better I feel physically the more I start to get over my situation emotionally. Thanks for reading...didn't mean to brag...I wanted to inspire those who are feeling hurt, sad, and angry. It will pass...you'll still have bad days (I do) but think of it this way....If every minute of every day was a dollar how would you spend your time? Would you waste it? I know I've wasted millions of dollars (minutes) on someone who will get me nowhere! If it's to be it's UP TO ME!!!! Hope this helps! A2L
puddleofmud Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 You just go ahead and brag all you want!!! Wow! you are motivated and proud and if that isn't something to brag about I don't know what could be! You just keep walking around with the cute little hardworking hard earned tiny butt! Don't forget to stick your cute little confident nose in the air while you're at it. Hold that head high and sashay, baby!!!!
Author addicted2love Posted December 7, 2006 Author Posted December 7, 2006 POM you crack me up!!! Thanks!
Marielle Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 I m really glad for you. You are right now an inspiration to me and I'm sure to many others, I really hope each day is better for you YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :bunny: :bunny: :bunny:
kymberann Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 Heya A2L, you keep going at it! You worked hard, have fun showing it off. If that's what works for you then work it. What kind of program are you doing? I am running (6 miles today) and I teach fitness classes. MM and i used to run all the time. When the "break up" happened I thought "no more running for me" why bother running without him. But I've turned it around, because it is just such a high and I want to prove him wrong. I don't need him to help me run, I don't need him to be there. I can run faster and stronger without him. So eventualy I will comlete a marathon, and I will do it without him! Best to you!
Author addicted2love Posted December 8, 2006 Author Posted December 8, 2006 Kymberann...no program for me. My motivation at first was to look my best for the "reunion" with the exBF. I hadn't seen him in 13 years and the last time he saw me I was in great shape. I used to be a dancer...jazz, tap, ballet..etc. But the motivation changed into doing it for myself because it made ME feel good to look good again. When I got married my H stopped paying any kind of attention to me so I let myself go. It's funny...hubby has found the 35 pounds I've lost! I used to work at a gym and helped women tone up after losing weight so I just use the skills I learned years ago. I can't run because I've had back surgery so I just eat better, walk and added a light weight lifting routine. I guess this whole experience with exBF/MM has opened my eyes. I'm such a giving person...I give give give and constantly find myself getting used for a door matt. I've been good at boosting the ego's of the men in my life but none of them have ever returned the favor. So now it's my turn to be selfish. It feels good! ha ha! Keep running...you don't need anyone to run to or away from...all you need is you! Words to live by....Don't wait for a man to bring you flowers...plant your own garden! A2L
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