Krytellan Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 That's awesome Luminous... is it still going strong?
Author LuminousZ Posted January 29, 2007 Author Posted January 29, 2007 That's awesome Luminous... is it still going strong? Just when I started feeling very comfortable with her.., I see on her cell phone she has been speaking with her EX.., (only 4 - 5 minutes.., ) while I'm at her place visiting her! WTF is that all about? (Something about a bad hair cut he recieved - she's a hairdresser - I told her he wants to see her and I'm not comfortable with that) There are no children involved so I don't understand why she continues to talk to him.., There can only be one reason right??? Last night I informed her we have NO FUTURE if she is unable to let go of her PAST.., She tried convincing me she loves me and I have No reason to feel insecure about her speaking to her EX..., I just don't understand WHY she would continue talking to him after 3 months with me and some incredible travel plans in the very near future. I think I'm gonna take a few steps BACK from her.., Give her some time to either let go of her past OR go back to it..., I'm very confused at this moment..,
Arianna72 Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 I had nearly an identical conversation with my guy last weekend. I certainly know how hard it is dealing with someone who is still heavily involved with their ex but if it genuinely was just a 4 minute conversation about getting a hair cut I wouldn't worry about it too much at this point. Even if he is wanting something more it sounds like she is happy with you. How long ago did they split? If however she is wanting to maintain a "strong friendship" with him and is talking to him or seeing him more regularly it would probably be a good idea to take a step back. Think things through before deciding or saying anything further about the possibility of a future with her, don't say anything you will regret later.
Salicious Crumb Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 I agree with the others here....break her off like a self lighting flare and throw her on the street. Any other guy would say..."sweet!!" and just use her for sex without any strings. but you, you have some decency and sound like a man that does the right thing....so having said that, this is a girl that does NOT do the right thing and therefore you don't need that in your life. Find a decent woman.
Author LuminousZ Posted June 2, 2007 Author Posted June 2, 2007 topic subscribed. Time will tell, please update us. "Thank you" to everyone who posted comments to the issues I had trouble understanding..., My delimma Regarding communicating with the EX took some time but was completely resolved about two months ago - she changed her phone # and deleted any email address at a moments notice..., she has let go of her past and WE are building a future together! Our relationship has flourished and We tied the knot last weekend!
nittygritty Posted June 3, 2007 Posted June 3, 2007 Congratulations and Best Wishes! Interesting beginnings. I'm glad that you two were able to work thru your problems. Take Care
nittygritty Posted June 3, 2007 Posted June 3, 2007 after 6 months? Whatever floats their boat. I have heard of stranger things. They have already tied the knot so I wished them well. Not much else to say other than keep updating and Good Luck!
MissKissNada_Gal Posted June 3, 2007 Posted June 3, 2007 I've been dating this woman since early October.., Nearly 3 weeks ago she invites me back to her place and completely seduces me. She is very attractive in every way in my view.., so I was unable to resist her allure! We continue to see each other several times/week & always pick up where we left off last..., during one of those encounters - she says to me she wants only a physical repationship with me.., (WTF???) NOTE: some alcohol was involved My friends tell me I have found the perfect woman! However, sex is not my main focus..., She is very attentive to body language and noticed something amiss one evening.., So, in my most honest and straight forward way, I explained to her I am unable to seperate this fascinating physical relationship from experiencing some emotional connection with her. I continued to explain If she didn't feel it I would need to leave soon - not to return (Meaningless sex just seems like such a waste of time to me at this point in my life - am I wrong to want more?) Plans were already made for the next two days.., I cooked what turned out to be one fantastic dinner for her and worked the rest of the evening satisfying her needs! (I am a MALE after all!) We talked about my dilemma and then she suddenly wispered those three little words in my ear. It made me feel so good BUT.., Is that possible?? She said of course she had feelings for me but she didn't want to scare me away. HUH?? I'm afraid she said that simply to appease me. SO.., Can someone PLEASE decipher this for me? Why would a woman go from "only a physical relationship" to wispering those "three little words" within a few days? she is probably pretending to play u to make u jealous and want her more. ; ) hehe!! what a seducer, u might consider her a tease.
MissKissNada_Gal Posted June 3, 2007 Posted June 3, 2007 oh. ok. i didnt read the "i tied the knot post"... WOAH. 6 mnths? and all that was going on in the begining... i bet that would have nvr happened if she had been the guy doing all that stuff, and u the girl. different story though. CONGRATULATIONS. better luck to the rest of us. lol
Walk Posted June 3, 2007 Posted June 3, 2007 Congratulations! Remember, tackle problems early. Don't let them fester until they're so big you can't fix them. Be proactive, communicate often, and ask questions if you don't understand. You'll save yourself a lot of headaches in the future if you do that.
Topper Posted June 3, 2007 Posted June 3, 2007 No matter what we all say here, nobody can predict where this relationship will go. One can end up being hurt even after years of a loving marriage. Proceed, take some risk...it may work out in the end! Good luck! This might be the best of the best here. We never know. She could be rebounding, so what? Sometimes the Rebound guy does win the heart of the woman. Just enjoy her going out with her. Have some fun and see what happens. Opps didn't see the the post on getting married. See the rebound man can work into a long term thing. Personally I'm getting tired of being used by rebounding woman for my body
Author LuminousZ Posted June 3, 2007 Author Posted June 3, 2007 after 6 months? Actually 8 months.., we met Sept. '06. I could have dragged my feet for another year or so but what would that accomplish?
Lishy Posted June 3, 2007 Posted June 3, 2007 Actually 8 months.., we met Sept. '06. I could have dragged my feet for another year or so but what would that accomplish? You would know her better?
Author LuminousZ Posted June 4, 2007 Author Posted June 4, 2007 Congratulations! Thank you Walk..., you give great advice! The perspective you offered in post 13 I think the invite to hang out with the parents is a strong sign of her desire to have a relationship. was a turning point for me..., Most guys were encouraging me to stay disconnected / just use her for sex - I was nearly considering this approach, it just seemed so empty / meaningless. As it is now.., Two hearts - One love! We are building our future together.
Recommended Posts