Love 88 Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 Hi everybody...i met a married man during our outing six months ago. We were in different states..Initially, i didnt know he was married. I was the one who email him first and he only can reply once a month since he is always on travelling. Recently due to some unforseen circumstances, he gave me his handphone no. so i always text messages him but he seldom replied, the reason being he is very lazy to text messages and despise it. I really miss him and thought of calling him but hesitate b/c i dont want to disturb him working. After he gave me his hp no. he mentioned it ok to give him a tinkle once a while...but why he despise text messages?? Is it that i smothered him with too many text messages?? Please help me... I'm going out of my mind already..i think of him everyday and miss him so much.... do you think he miss me??
noforgiveness Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 wake up. He's MARRIED. He was haivng fun with you that's why you don't hear from him much. Leave him alone and his family.
whichwayisup Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 ..i think of him everyday and miss him so much.... do you think he miss me?? You're trying to have an inappropriate relationship with a man who is married. He isn't answering your text messages because he has a wife. Even if he is flirting with you - It's wrong of him to do because he's married. And, it's wrong of you to pursue him, to chase after another woman's husband. Go read some threads in this section and see your future. DO you really want to be his affair, his other woman on the side? You deserve better, so find yourself a single available man to date. Leave this MM alone, he isn't yours for taking.
puddleofmud Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 He won't accept your text msgs because that is probably too much evidence. Also: It is likely he wants things on HIS TERMS, only, and that is probably all you are going to get! This is letting you know that he and only he will control this and you have none, zip, nada... He is also letting you know that you have become too excitable (pushy--clinging) and is putting the breaks on that--another means of control. Most likely he may be seeking a silent, compliant mistress available for his needs and is feeling pressured because he seeks just an outlet and not any kind of emotional attachment. If the relationship should continue you may wish to continue to check it for other control issues. This kind of thing is usually just the tip of a big ol' iceburg... I am sorry you are frustrated and it does hurt! You will have to decide if this is the kind of relationship you are willing to accept. Best wishes and good luck!
Author Love 88 Posted December 8, 2006 Author Posted December 8, 2006 Thanks for replying.... I also dont want to be like this but things are all getting out of control and it really hurts. I tried many a time not to text msgs him but in the end i message him again in 3 - 4 days time. I dont want to lose him. I'm afraid if i didnt text message him, he would forget me. Am i crazy? Actually, all i want is an email friend, nothing more than that...i know he has family, i dont want to spoil it..but i cant help myself thinking of him. Even if he text message me once in a blue moon, i feel very happy. What am i going to do????
Author Love 88 Posted December 8, 2006 Author Posted December 8, 2006 Am i developing feeling for him already??? Why he doesnt had any feeling for me?? Is it that man dont have any feeling?? Are they all hard hearted person??
Seen_It_All Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 Hi everybody...i met a married man during our outing six months ago. We were in different states..Initially, i didnt know he was married. Come on, Love 88. The guy was away from home and wanted to get a little side action. He sounds like an utter scumbag because he didn't come clean about being married when you met him. I'm not surprised. His goal was to get laid and he did. Big surprise to find out he lied to YOU in order to get sex. BIG surprise - not. Bottom line - he wasn't looking for a girlfriend, he wasn't looking for a mistress, and he's not looking for a text message 'pen pal.' The guy wanted sex, plain and simple - and he got it. It's done for him. You sound like a stalker at this point. I dont want to lose him. I'm afraid if i didnt text message him, he would forget me. Love 88, you never HAD him. You had sex with him. That's it. That's all he ever wanted. It sounds as though you're scaring him with the constant clinging and text messages. I'm imagining this guy sweating bullets, wondering when you're going to show up on his doorstep and blow up his happy little home life. Leave him alone. He's a lying scumbag who tricked you into giving him sex. The last thing you should be doing is stalking him.
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