My first ever REAL breakup

[sillyguy]

I'm 28 Years old and have just had my first ever real breakup with a girl i really loved. It might seem i deserve everything that happened once you read this but sometimes it takes a major event like this to show you reality.

 

I come from a well of family and have always had to be a certain way and act a certain way because so many people know who we are. This might sound great to some people but to be honest i have never been a "normal" person.

 

Anyway, Up to 3 years ago i had it all, flash car, lots of cash , nice house etc until a member of my family decided that by using my mother as a shield they could steal everything i had knowing the only way I could do anything was by hurting my mother which i decided against.

 

At this point i ditched my model GF and started seeing another girl which lasted about 2 months then we split up (my fault). I went back out with the model again because who to be honest does love me but is very self centred and stuck up

 

So i realised that i was only going with her to keep the respect of some people and started spending time with my ex of two months, we could be together , have fun and it was based on real love as opposed to lifestyle

 

In the last 3 years so much has changed, I lost my car, house, cash etc and the people who set out to screw me decided to take it further by using contacts to make sure i could not even open a basic bank account. They tarnished my name around town and did a right good job of stitching me up for stuff i had nothing to do with.

 

So i ended up skint, had a $100000 car and no cash for gas! I could not afford a big mac and all the so called pals around be walked away apart from about 3 people.

 

So back to the situation

 

Things have started getting better and I managed to start a small business and earning some cash. Me and the model are still together but to be honest its more a friendship than relationship. We do out own things and rarely even cuddle

 

Last week the other girl told me she wanted to end everything between us, I was shocked I mean this girl had spent time with me during the worst years of my life and we have always been so close, she always resented the fact i had a GF but also knew it was more of a business choice than anything else.

 

When she told me i was devastated and for the first time in my life i realised what its like to be rejected and hurt by someone I love.

 

In the last week i have never felt so much emotion, i cant eat, i cant sleep, I feel sick, I get up and cant work , its destroying me.

 

I spoke to her and offered to do anything she wanted, she says I'm to late and its all over for ever.

 

So I'm left with a dilemma, For the first time i have found myself in love for me and not for other people. I had the best girl in the world and I messed it up

 

Its not in my nature to lie down and take it, I will take anything on no matter what the odds and in this case I am super motivated to win her back. For once in my life I don't care what people who know who i am say or what the consequences are she means everything to me.

 

So what would your advice be to making it up to her and giving her everything she deserves

[bluescreenlife]

Man I know all our lives sound like soap operas sometimes, but yours is right out of melrose place or something. Who are all these enemies who are out to get you?

 

If you want to make it up to her, build a time machine, go back and choose her instead of the model. You made a decision to date someone else and she took it to its logical conclusion for you. You can try to convince her you were wrong, superficial, that you really love her and want to be with her, and I wish you luck with that. If you really want to prove it, break up with the model. You'll be taking a chance on ending up single and not impressing your peers, but if you really love her and you see a future together if this works out, I say go for it.

[Krytellan]

I'm sorry to offend, but I am inclined to think that you should see a doctor regarding the perception you have about your past. To me, a mental health professional, this rings as an illness. Seriously, would you consider seeing a psychiatrist to help with your situation?

[sillyguy]

I'm sorry to offend, but I am inclined to think that you should see a doctor regarding the perception you have about your past. To me, a mental health professional, this rings as an illness. Seriously, would you consider seeing a psychiatrist to help with your situation?

 

Nothing personal but if you know me or who i am you will know Im 100% stable and comments like yours are worthless

[bluescreenlife]

Yeah I'm not sure what rang as an illness either... enough things do around here but I didn't really pick anything up. Krytellan, can you elaborate on that?

[princessa]

I think as long as you keep working on her and showing that you are sincere, and if her feelings towards you were really genuine in the first place, then you have good chances of getting her back. Ditch the model GF and ask the other girl if she wants to at least be friends if nothing else.. then slowly win her back..

[Krytellan]

Yeah I'm not sure what rang as an illness either... enough things do around here but I didn't really pick anything up. Krytellan, can you elaborate on that?

 

Yeah, I know my comment really came off as me being a jerk, but I just had concerns. Just to give you some insight I work with mental illness a lot and see many people that struggle with fantasy and delusions of grandeur and have a hard time dealing with and staying in reality.

 

I just got the impression that the emphasis that was being put on the large amounts of money and belongings, combined with the statements reflecting paranoia about people being out to get him, it just all rang of someone struggling to stay in reality a bit. I repeat that there was no offense meant (though I understand if it was taken). Even after writing this, I get the feeling that there are some delusions going on here.

 

Only you know though, sillyguy. If you know everything to be what you say, then don't bother acknowledging my statements.

[silentalways]

wow. nice.

 

i don't think something like that is funny at all.

 

i just went thru a horrible psycotic episode that was extremely dangerous to my health. and it all started 8 months ago because someone left me at a horrible down time in my life and because her reactions were the opposite of what they had been and hadn't recovered fully enuff to realize every single thing i did that hurt her, i though this vanishing woman was actually suffering from PTSD and you should have seen the looks on peoples face as i explained what that is about. so, i was honesty conerned. then any attempt was treated with amazingly harsh responses [i give prezzie, she calls police], and all i was doing was trying to tell her 'hey, no worries, its just me'. then her friends really made me feel like dirt, and i recovered, got treatment, and just as i was making great progress, i am pounded by memories of every mean thing i did, to someone i loved [during the depression / addiction] and the fact that she now feared and hated me and did everything to avoid me, hurt me deeply, then my daughter got assualted, my credit card stolen, house broken into, ebay account and comp hacked, and i had started dating [bad move] and i just went into really bad abuse for a whole month to the point where i became delusional, thought my ex hated me so much see was dating a pinecone band member, and because i had admitted my addiction i had gone thru months of bad looks etc. then, my ex-wife with the help of my ex gf and 3 pathetic losers take my daughter away even though i had already removed her myself, and because everyone was treating me like dirt [and my friends had me arrested 3 times in front of my house simply because i was losing it and asking for help] so i abused, and actually went into a serious parnoid state where for 6 hours, i was chased by police, ditched my car, and broke a few ribs, i lost my wallet with everything in it, glasses, and i was taken into the hospital covered in mud, just jeans, and questioned for hours after being roughed up by police, and left on a hospital bed without blankets. all this because way back when a woman i love decided that NC is a great thing. now i am going to two addiction programs, ROH, work, lawyers, CAS, court, no friends, sold home - and i am still kicking. pretty kewl eh.

[Krytellan]

... and it was because of a psychotic episode. That's all I'm saying here is that it seems that something else is going on... not trying to be funny.

[silentalways]

i know u know i know that's what u meant

 

in my case, going thru that actually cleared the cobwebs.

 

i have never felt more 'aware' in a long time

 

a little brain fart every 40 years is acceptable i believe

 

so, i have a while until my next check up!

 

lol

 

no offence taken really

 

have a great day

 

tonight i buy a new home!

 

wooooo hoooo