rosebud6712 Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 good morning everyone. i finally got in touch with my ex last night, after going on a horrible date, i could think of nothing but him. i decided to call him, and he ended up calling me back. i needed to get alot off of my chest. i proceeded to tell him my feelings, and he told me to STOP thinking bout him, and what's going on with him, so i tried to explain to him that if he felt that way he should of never contacted me saying he wants to be friends. i told him that he has a habit of treating people like.......and he completely HUNG UP the phone on me!!! and he hasn't called me back. i kinda expected a call back, but for what? he is just way to immature to even have a phone conversation with me. so i guess i should take that as my closure and move on. i didn't call him back, nor am i going to call him, i can take a hint. my only question is why/how can he just push me aside in such a cruel way? does he feel bad for hanging up the phone? probably not, cuz he doesn't feel bad when he ignores me, so what's the difference. if he does contact me again, which i highly doubt, i have no choice to act cruel back. i have plenty of friends and don't need an extra one like himself to treat me like crap!!!! does anyone think he'll eventually come around? or should i just say screw you? like he has done to me?
Krytellan Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 does anyone think he'll eventually come around? or should i just say screw you? like he has done to me? No, but why do you care? Easy question to ask, I know. He's gone. Don't forget to wave to him. I'm surprised you still don't despise him enough to not still care at all about him.
TigerCub Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 Hey Rosebud, I just read the backstory on your guy to get more info, and hun, he's 22!...he's still would be immature and too much of a bother to handle. I mean, I'm 25 and I wouldn't date a 22 year old. I tend to go for older guys because they know what they want, the act like men and don't mess with your mind....(well not as much) But as far as the way he acted on the phone, and if he will call you back. You know what. From what he's done before, there is a chance that he will call you back because he seems to be doing this thing where he will push you away, and then try to draw you back in, but even if he does, I personally don't think you should give him the time of day, because he hasn't treated you so well, and he's just caused nothing but heartache and confusion. And if he doesn't call, then screw him, who cares, you'll just move on, and find a nice MATURE man that can treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Good Luck! p.s. there is no need for you to be "cruel" back. I think by just ignoring him and moving on, you're telling him that you don't care about what he does. If you go out of your way to make him feel bad, then he'll just think that you haven't gotten over him and that he can still push your buttons...and I'm guessing that you probably wouldn't want that.
D-Lish Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 Bad dates have a way of making you pine for what you had with your ex. I too have felt that way after going out with a couple losers. If your ex is playing cold and heartless with you, it's best to cut him out of your life. It's too hard to remain friends after a break up. If there's a chance at friendship, I'd wait until you're over him.
bluescreenlife Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 he's right, you should stop thinking about him and what he's doing. As for hanging up on you... i don't blame him for wanting to avoid some of the post-breakup drama and parting shots. You were about to say something angry and he cut you off - well that's not really such a bad thing. that kind of words can't be unsaid and don't really do much good, especially if you want to be friends later on. It sucks that he took away your voice so to speak, but you have lots of other people to talk to here and in real life.
Kamille Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 The way I see it you have three ways of playing this. He does care for you and this is why he wants to be friends, but being friends is extremely confusing. I think the best thing you can do is both agree that you both need time to process what happened and not contact each other for months and months. The other option is to try to keep figuring things out, get into fights, in the hopes that you will get back together. Bad choice, as all you would be doing is continue on the same track that broke you up in the first place. The third option it to stop interacting that way. Friends means he doesn't owe you anything. He doesn't owe you any kind of explanations. Friends could be the lever where you get to be your old self, a fresh start away from all the issues. Friends could be the card you play to make him regret breaking up with you in the first place. But again, this is a tricky road to take, since it means you keep hanging on to something that did not work out in the first place. I personally believe, from experience, that once broken up, it is better to walk away.
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