TylerC Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 I have been dating this girl (total about 2 and a half months, officially a little over a month). In the beginning, and up until a couple of weeks ago, she was affectionate to me and she would make time to talk to me and acted like she wants to be around me. Then, like a switch was flipped, she stopped being as affectionate and one of my main needs is to feel cared about, which I really haven't been the past couple of weeks. I told her that all I want is more time with her (we don't spend that much time together anyway, to be honest) even if it is just talking, and just for her to be more affectionate to me. She said that's who she is and she can't change, but she just flipped a switch out of nowhere. I'm not asking for affection and attention all the time, I just want to feel cared about, and I don't see how that can be an unreasonable want. I told her that and she just shrugs it off and thinks "oh well". Before any of you say something about her wanting to break up with me, that's not it, I asked her point-blank if that's what she wanted and she said no but wants to know what we are going to do since she claims she can't make me happy. I said that's not it because she did before and she just stopped. I want this to work, but I need to feel cared about at the same time. Any advice would be appreciated.
BARBGURL Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 Hmmmm, she sounds passive-aggressive. She wants you to break it off so she doesn't have to look like the bad guy here.
Author TylerC Posted December 7, 2006 Author Posted December 7, 2006 I also forgot to mention I asked, point-blank again, if she wanted this work or not, and she said she does.
gfto Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 I asked her point-blank if that's what she wanted and she said no That doesn't mean anything. The best indicator of her interest is her ACTIONS; not what she says.
westernxer Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 I also forgot to mention I asked, point-blank again, if she wanted this work or not, and she said she does. LOL. They all say this.
UCFKevin Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 Yup. She can say she wants it to work out with you until she's blue in the face but in reality she's probably already finished in her mind. It sucks but that's the way it goes. If she wanted to make it better, she would've by now. And two and a half months in, this is already happening? Not a good sign at all.
whichwayisup Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 I agree with the others...Actions speak louder than words.
Krytellan Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 I screwed up, but I married a woman who was not good with affection which is something I need. We divorced as it got to be too much to go without. You have to decide if she cannot give you what you need. Don't go without affection, it only gets worse later on. You need to break it off if that is "who she is".
Waldin Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 I agree with the others...Actions speak louder than words. yaeh you right about that...
Lauriebell82 Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 yeah i agree with everyone..just because someone says they want it to work out doesnt really mean they do. if her actions are telling u she doesnt care than u should find somebody who does.
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