i wonder if he still cares?

[lost06]

me and my ex dated about 2 years ago, he was my 1st bf and i was so devestated by the way we broke up out of nowhere he called me a psycho that i was smothering him, and etc,..he never cheated so thats a plus, well anyway i moved on in some way but i couldnt go out cuz every place i would go to he would be there so i just stopped going.about a year and a half after we broke up, he meets my friend in a street and asks her for me constantly, tells her how much he messed up, that i was so sweet bla bla...anyway u know how the story goes i fell for it, and things happened and we got back together cpl months after...well i ended up breaking up w/ him cuz i couldnt deal with him anymore i felt like he was still the same like before, or he was starting to so i got scared and broke it off. after that he told me he only cares for me as a friend and nothing more, well eventually i started dating other ppl and i've been w/ this guy for a while now, my ex when i c him never says hi to me when my bf is there but says hi to him even though i know for a fact he cant stand him, when im out w/ my friends he is all smiles and touches my hair or something similar to it...well another thing he constantly asks for me and brings me up as im told by 2 of my bffs, and every time he says something negative about me how he doesnt care for me but my friends tease him that he still does....im so confused about him...i just want to know if he still cares or not, and plus this last weekend my friend asked him if he has seen me and he said no,if he didnt care i feel like he would just say i dunno or w/e...but anyway im so confused about him, and my friends tell me for some weird reason they think he still cares. i never said anything bad about him, but he is acting like he did 2 yrs ago telling my friend how im a psycho again but i never even look at him...i act like i dont c him in the room at all...i mean i dont know where he gets those comments from?anyway so much to write....do you think he still cares for me or not???

p.s. when asked by my friend if he has a gf which i know he does he replies no every time:(

[sarah05]

Where did you guys meet in the beginning? I think it sounds like he just wants you all to himself, almost like a double standard. If he has a gf, which you know that he does, and wants to get backwith you then that means he isn't happy with you going out. I had the same issue, my bf is my first one and he thinks that he can runout and have fun but as soon as I go out its a big no-no. Was it an official break-up or just a break? He sounds immature and unsure of what he really wants.

[lost06]

we met over friends, and he really was my first love sometimes i think i still care b/c i feel like he does too...that is y im trying to figure out if he still does or not...cuz if he doesn't,,,i feel like that gives me a chance to completely forget that he even exists....he never had a problem w/ me goin out,the only reason i stopped goin out the first time was cuz i couldnt stand seeing him cuz i though i was gonna break down or something.....dont know what to think really...i just wander if he really still cares....

[sarah05]

see this is where I think we're in the same boat. Yet my boyfriend and I haven't seperated long enough to his ideas. But he told me the other day that he loves me but doesn't feel anything anymore. I am unsure if he's being truthful or hurtful. Has your bf pulled out the friendship card? Min has and says that he thinks we both hurt each other too bad and need to restart as just "friends". Maybe your's hasn't said that yet, but would you be happy with that. It would at least buy yourself more time.

[lost06]

yea actually he did say that like after we broke up completely he told me that he doesn't care like that anymore and that we just hurt each other 2 much so its better we stay friends b/c "i only care for u really as a friend"...those were his words, and that was over 8 months ago...and here he is saying all these rude comments about me but not to an extreme but i would think if he just decided to b friends he would finally stop and just be friends w/ me, which im really ready for, but in my face he is always so nice and does everything to get my attention, but when he is talking to 2 of my bff i feel like he is telling them all those mean unimaginable things just b/c he knows that they will tell me every single word he mentioned. not so long he told them that my bf now is a abusive that one time he hit me...omg u have no idea how much i laughed at that b/c if u would c my bf now he is just the sweetest person, and omg it was so funny when he told them taht....of course my friends didnt believe him they just laughed it of....but he i feel like he is going to an extreme now....saying anything to them...i dunno if he is saying those things just to hurt me,and make me really like i really dont care about u anymore,....but then again i never give off any signs that would ever let him know i care u know what i mean?so he just confuses me....and the thing is if i went to talk to him or try asking him "y ru saying all those things about me, i thought we were gonna be friends and just let it go", i feel like he would just say "i never said that, and he just would not admit it and would probably call me crazy....and find more things to talk about me to his friends and every person alive lol ....i guess ur kind of in the same situation as well....

[lost06]

i meant to say ONE TIME HE SAID TO 2 OF MY BFF THAT MY BF NOW HIT ME ONCE LOL sorry girl

[rosebud6712]

it sounds to me that you already moved on. you attempted to try to regain what you both had when you decided to date him the 2nd time, but something told you to end it. why is it that you want to know if he still cares? i can tell you of course he does, i have an ex from 5 years ago, that i still care about, and i know he also does, but both of our lives have moved in different directions.

i think you are taking way to much of your time trying to determine something that is from your past. if your meant to be with this man, believe me, you will end up together. you know what they say? if it's meant to be, it WILL be!!

in the meantime enjoy yourself and your new b/f.

[lost06]

yes rosebud,you're completely right...the 2nd time around i felt exactly the way u explained it...and i completely agree w/ everything u have said its just the thing is sometimes it annoys me that this man who was my first bf says all those things about me...but last night i had a talk w/ one of my bff...and she said the same things u said....i already moved on..its he that wont let it go,and this was really stupid of me to consume so much of my time trying to figure out if he cares or not...cuz at the end it really does not matter because i have somebody much better and i truly care for him,my ex will always have a special place in my heart obviously b/c he was my first bf after all, but the way im starting to c it, thats all i really want him to be and nothing more....now the hard part will be trying to ignore everything he says about me still, but i feel that i will brush it off just like i did so many times before....thank you so much for your comment it just made me realize all over that it really does not matter what he says b/c i really am happy w/ current bf, and like u said whats meant to happen will happen its just that im not letting hope get in my way again the way it did before....u know how they always say when u have nothing left there's always a bit of hope left....i feel like thats what kept me going before...but thats not what i want anymore whatsoever....again thank you so much you're a sweetheart