Art_Critic Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 go to about . com and type Engagement Ring Laws into the search box.. That explains all the laws and which states have what type of laws. I didn't know this but there are even no fault engagement states.. Montana seems to be the only state that wouldn't require your ring to be given back
Author Rooster_DAR Posted December 6, 2006 Author Posted December 6, 2006 That could work too. But if she's the sort that checks into things, she might figure you out. Make it harder for her to check by getting someone who can pretend to be a lawyer and put their phone number on the letter in case she decides to do some checking. It's not illegal to impersonate a lawyer is it? Or maybe go to the library, look up the laws, make her a copy, highlight the important parts, and send it to her with a letter that says, "B*tch, gimme my ring or I'm suing your *ss!" ...or something along those lines. Well her degree is in law, so I'm going to assume she won't fall for the "ol manufactured letter trick". I'm just trying to forget about it.
whichwayisup Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 My question is, why the F does she want it?? She's obviously with someone else now, so what is it with the ring? It was to be hers, but you two aren't getting married (her choice by cheating) and it's over. Unless she's planning on selling that ring??? I'm sitting her shaking my head. What a beyotch! My other thought is, I'm sure the OM isn't really gonna like that she's keep her engagement ring! WTF.
Author Rooster_DAR Posted December 7, 2006 Author Posted December 7, 2006 Well according to her she wore it everynight to bed a couple of weeks ago because she missed me, but we all know that's a load of crap. When I had the ring in my posession she demanded it back or she was going to have the insurance company come after me. I don't know what she's doing, why can't she understand it's my ring and she broke the engagement? I do know she is broke and struggling with the house and finances since I moved out, maybe she has plans.
tanbark813 Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 Wait.. Rooster, if you technically own the ring because it's a gift that's conditional upon getting married, can't you call the cops and report it stolen and have them go get it from your ex?
Author Rooster_DAR Posted December 7, 2006 Author Posted December 7, 2006 Is it insured only under her name? Yes, through the company she works for. I have the receipts and invoices from when I bought it though.
luvtoto Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 So my EX decided she is going to continue her affair and I have moved out. I originally took the ring ($11,000.00) with me when I left. When she discovered that I took it, she said that she would have to report it stolen and the insurance company would come after me first and if I had it I could go to jail. I told her that the ring is a conditional gift, but she came off to me with the angle that I gave it to her as a gift. She is lying, I gave it to her when we proposed. Eventually I broke down and took her the ring back and she said if we reconcile she wants to get married. After a few days she started the same old confusing messages again, and was going out of town to what I presume is her affair parters state to visit him. After I saw no motive on her part to reconcile even after she swore that she wanted to do everything to gain my trust back, I finally realized she is still seeing this guy and I am on the backburner. So I sent her a text message saying I'm through with you and all your games, I'm done. Now, I'm regretting giving her the ring back. She already stiffed me with the house and all the belongins we had (long story, house is in her name). I realize there is not much I can do with the house and belongings, but I spent a lot of money on the ring and I feel I'm being duped. I also have a feeling she is going to snare this guy and marry him, hell he's already been introduce into our house and his vehicle is there. What do you guys think I should do? Cut my losses, or try to get the ring back? Regards, I was sued by an X for my engagement ring. I would have given it back, but he cheated on me...and I figured screw him. In court, the judge told him that it was a gift. That it is mine to do with what I want.
Author Rooster_DAR Posted December 7, 2006 Author Posted December 7, 2006 I was sued by an X for my engagement ring. I would have given it back, but he cheated on me...and I figured screw him. In court, the judge told him that it was a gift. That it is mine to do with what I want. The only time an engagement ring does not go back to the donor is if the donor broke of the engagement or cheated. This is exactly what the law states, otherwise the donor always gets the ring back.
whichwayisup Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 Well according to her she wore it everynight to bed a couple of weeks ago because she missed me, but we all know that's a load of crap. When I had the ring in my posession she demanded it back or she was going to have the insurance company come after me. I don't know what she's doing, why can't she understand it's my ring and she broke the engagement? I do know she is broke and struggling with the house and finances since I moved out, maybe she has plans. I am SO mad at her for you!! You better get that ring, it's yours!! Not hers.
luvtoto Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 The only time an engagement ring does not go back to the donor is if the donor broke of the engagement or cheated. This is exactly what the law states, otherwise the donor always gets the ring back. That's funny...the judge didn't know he cheated on me. Oh well...maybe the the laws are different in Nebraska.
Author Rooster_DAR Posted December 7, 2006 Author Posted December 7, 2006 That's funny...the judge didn't know he cheated on me. Oh well...maybe the the laws are different in Nebraska. Yes, there are a few states the the conditional condition does not apply, I'm sure that's the case there.
luvtoto Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 Yes, there are a few states the the conditional condition does not apply, I'm sure that's the case there. Oh, sorry! Well, IMO it sounds like you have a case.
Author Rooster_DAR Posted December 7, 2006 Author Posted December 7, 2006 I've decided, Whether I lose or not I'm going to fight with every last breath I have to get my ring back. It's the principle, she has this guy practically living in our house, put me through hell, so I'm not backing out without at least so fight. I have been insulted, used, and toyed with mentally and now I'm just plain pissed off. I will never let someone insult me like this again and that ring deserves to be on the finger of someone with great character and is not superficial. Regards,
HeadlessZebra Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 Motherf*cker, you better get that ring back or I will kick your a$s! It is NOT that expensive to file a lawsuit. You don't need a lawyer, just go read up on the laws and Do It Yourself. Yeah, and while you're at it, ever heard of palimony? If you made payments on that house and the things in it, it doesn't legally belong only to her just because her name's on it. You should take that to court too, show a few checks and receipts to prove joint ownership. Chances are good that you'll come away with restitution. Oh, BTW, the judge would totally give you everything you want just based on the fact that she cheated.
Art_Critic Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 You have to fight for what is right ... Give her hell Rooster
Author Rooster_DAR Posted December 7, 2006 Author Posted December 7, 2006 Motherf*cker, you better get that ring back or I will kick your a$s! It is NOT that expensive to file a lawsuit. You don't need a lawyer, just go read up on the laws and Do It Yourself. Yeah, and while you're at it, ever heard of palimony? If you made payments on that house and the things in it, it doesn't legally belong only to her just because her name's on it. You should take that to court too, show a few checks and receipts to prove joint ownership. Chances are good that you'll come away with restitution. Oh, BTW, the judge would totally give you everything you want just based on the fact that she cheated. I had already filed a lawsuit against her for the two years of mortgage payments I made agains the house. I wimped out and took back the suit, jesus I don't know why. The name of it eludes my right now, but you can file suite for this even though your name is not on the mortgage. The catch is, she will not have to pay anything until the time she sells the house, so that slap a lien on the home. If the home burns down or is destroyed, it's tough luck and no tamale.
Author Rooster_DAR Posted December 7, 2006 Author Posted December 7, 2006 Oh, BTW, the judge would totally give you everything you want just based on the fact that she cheated. That is a totally different court and matter all together. That is costly and you need concrete evidence of the affair. I'm not going to pursue that. Thanks
Author Rooster_DAR Posted December 7, 2006 Author Posted December 7, 2006 So she calls and leaves a message for saying: I don't know why you are doing this, things didn't work out and we are trying to be friends. It was an amicable split, we just could not work things out. She is texting me back saying now I'm just trying to hurt her because I am hurt. B.S.
Art_Critic Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 But she didn't offer to give the ring back... hahahaha amicable hahahaha amicable would be her returning the ring
IpAncA Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 If the ring means that much to you and I do think you should get it back, then do it. The only reason she wants it is so she can turn it in herself and get money for it. Thats what I would do. Also I might just keep it because I know you would want it back. You can do a number of things here: 1.) Lawsuit 2.) Brake in and take the ring 3.) Get back together long enough to get in there and take it 4.) Have a lawyer send her a letter just to scare her 5.) Ask for it back 6.) Forget about it and move on 7.) Say it was stolen but it has to be in your name to do that. O when she said that she would have had the insurance comp. come after you. She had no proof that you had it because all you had to say was that she must have lost it or something because she never gave it back to you. Then just had one of your friends hold onto it for a while until things calmed down.
Author Rooster_DAR Posted December 7, 2006 Author Posted December 7, 2006 O when she said that she would have had the insurance comp. come after you. She had no proof that you had it because all you had to say was that she must have lost it or something because she never gave it back to you. Then just had one of your friends hold onto it for a while until things calmed down. That's what I originally planned, but I loved her so much I decided to take it back to her plus I didn't want any thing on my record in case I did get into trouble.
IpAncA Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 That's what I originally planned, but I loved her so much I decided to take it back to her plus I didn't want any thing on my record in case I did get into trouble. The only way you would have been in trouble is if you said you had it. Just had to play "stupid." For all you know she was bluffing.
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