Guest Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 My bf broke up with me for good yesterday. I love him very much and the breakup wasn't an argument..actually I dont understand it at all and am very sad about it. Anyhow..... I am in the NC mode right now trying to move on (even though my heart doesn't want too) He lives very far from me and I would like to return his shirt and hat, but I also was thinking of giving him a Christmas Card too....letting him know that i still love and miss him. Should I do this?? It will take two weeks for the package to get to him for where he lives. Is this enough time for him to have and maybe reflect on why we are sooo good together? I would leave it simple and only say that I miss him and love him still.
notmakingsense Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 NO!!! Send his stuff back with no note in it at all -- and stay No Contact with him. He already knows you love him and miss him. He needs to start thinking that you are moving on now. If your intention is to get him back to you, you need to start behaving as a woman that doesn't want to waste one more minute of time on someone who doesn't reciprocate your feelings. It is not your job to keep someone who broke up with you educated about the merits of your relationship. If he can't figure this out on his own, then he isn't good enough for you anyway.
Guest Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 NO!!! Send his stuff back with no note in it at all -- and stay No Contact with him. He already knows you love him and miss him. He needs to start thinking that you are moving on now. If your intention is to get him back to you, you need to start behaving as a woman that doesn't want to waste one more minute of time on someone who doesn't reciprocate your feelings. It is not your job to keep someone who broke up with you educated about the merits of your relationship. If he can't figure this out on his own, then he isn't good enough for you anyway. Thank you.... you are right..it was his choice.
pjammer Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 NO!!! Send his stuff back with no note in it at all -- and stay No Contact with him. He already knows you love him and miss him. He needs to start thinking that you are moving on now. If your intention is to get him back to you, you need to start behaving as a woman that doesn't want to waste one more minute of time on someone who doesn't reciprocate your feelings. It is not your job to keep someone who broke up with you educated about the merits of your relationship. If he can't figure this out on his own, then he isn't good enough for you anyway. strong words, but true words...I, myself, have done things like this since my gf broke up with me. She hasnt reciprocated, and obviously I am upset about it because I do love her, and the break-up was my fault. Best thing to do if you want them back is to move on for yourself, and stay in NC. If they care about/love you, they will eventually get in touch with you
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