Art_Critic Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 Yes, this is stupid! I agree completely. I'm waiting with baited breath to see what his next move will be ?? the package was crushed and you need to reimburse him for the toothpaste
Author luvtoto Posted December 8, 2006 Author Posted December 8, 2006 I'm waiting with baited breath to see what his next move will be ?? the package was crushed and you need to reimburse him for the toothpaste The thing is is that I could mess with his head soooo bad. He is pissing me off and I am tempted to bring him down a knotch or two. But my momma taught me better than that.
blind_otter Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 Good for you, lt. I would be freaking pissed off right now if I were you and you seem to be handling it very well.
Author luvtoto Posted December 8, 2006 Author Posted December 8, 2006 Good for you, lt. I would be freaking pissed off right now if I were you and you seem to be handling it very well. Well, I have learned that it's a decision the amount of drama I allow into my life. I am not making his issues, my issues. Thanks, B_O.
Spinderella Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 This just goes to show you how the prototypical Nice Guy never really is. Underneath it all they get to be extremely bitter about the fact that their Niceness never yields the kind of payoff that they imagine it will. The fact that it's really just a (conscious or unconscious) manipulative ploy to get a good response from women just means that it's actually fake. It probably did work on Mom, which is probably the only person in the world who would have provided the positive reinforcement for that behavior. But what other woman in the world wants to relate to you like Mom did? Whether you're faking niceness or faking being a "Jerk/Bad-boy", the results will always be the same. The ploy will somehow backfire, and you'll end up feeling ripped off. The behavior that results in the greatest possible long term positive outcome is to be honest with yourself and the other person about who you are and what you want. Sometimes nice, sometimes not. Just you. If they can accept that, then chances are they'll like you more in the long term. And if they can't, there's truly no reason to worry about it. Someone will. EDIT: I think Art's advice about sending the package to work is probably not a good way to go. Fantasize about it, maybe. But don't actually do it. Damn. This really hit home for me. I think I have just escaped from one of these. Luvtoto: I agree with Arts advice to just take it to him, you don't want this dragging out, and he is going to do all he can to make that happen.
alphamale Posted December 9, 2006 Posted December 9, 2006 i am always very wary of men & women who are overly nice. no one can be nice all the time with so much bad stuff happening to everyone. they're usually nice cause they are hiding something or are very insecure and think the only way people will accept them is if they go out on a limb 24/7/365. Just put all his krap in a box and leave it outside on your front porch. What a miserable a-hole he is. I've never asked for anyting back from someone I dated unless it was very very important that i couldn't do without. If he was here i'd beat the living daylites out of this a-hole mother ****er
Author luvtoto Posted December 9, 2006 Author Posted December 9, 2006 I just sat down after wrapping presents for my kids. I was in a great mood. But, I got another email from him tonight. States: Do you want your toto stuff? If so, then I need yours. (Meaning my address...Toto stuff meaning his doggie water and food bowl.) I totally forgot he had them! Didn't really care I guess. Nothing that can't be replaced. This is never going to end!!! I didn't think I left anything at his house. Damn! Now, he'll drag that on and on. :mad:
Art_Critic Posted December 9, 2006 Posted December 9, 2006 Do not reply to his email.. not even with the nicest email.. He knew that the bowl was there when he started this mess.. now he brings it up even though he knew about it earlier this week.. The contact will not stop unless you stop it first... DO NOT GIVE HIM YOUR ADDRESS The cost of the dog stuff is cheaper than it will cost to hire a bodyguard or for the court costs it will take to get rid of him..
Author luvtoto Posted December 9, 2006 Author Posted December 9, 2006 Do not reply to his email.. not even with the nicest email.. He knew that the bowl was there when he started this mess.. now he brings it up even though he knew about it earlier this week.. The contact will not stop unless you stop it first... DO NOT GIVE HIM YOUR ADDRESS Rodger dodger!! I only sent him 1 email with two lines. I am not kidding! I didn't reply to his email any of his emails. But, he is having a freaking conversation with me. I am doing nothing. What is wrong with him?? OMG!!
jerbear Posted December 9, 2006 Posted December 9, 2006 Hey Luvtoto, You just have to stop. One of my ex's did that and I had to stop responding. I even told her off and never initiated contact or return contact. Only contact that was made was because I picked up the phone without looking at caller id. The only way to stop his contacts is for you to stop responding; just ignore him.
alphamale Posted December 9, 2006 Posted December 9, 2006 The only way to stop his contacts is for you to stop responding; just ignore him. agreed! institute total and unadulterated NC. See No Foolin's guide if you need assistance.
Author luvtoto Posted December 9, 2006 Author Posted December 9, 2006 agreed! institute total and unadulterated NC. See No Foolin's guide if you need assistance. I don't need no guide to quit contacting him! I am not the one contacting him, he is the one doing all the conversing. I initiated NC three damn days ago.
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