db75 Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 Just figured I'd stop in and whine a bit. Been about 5 months since me and my ex split. 3.5 year relationship. Anyway, I've been doing well, but I guess this festive season has me down a bit. My thoughts linger on holiday's past and the times spent with her and her family. It also doesn't help matters I guess that our 4 year anniversary would've been this month. In addition to this, I've got other issues as well. I inhereted the dog during our break-up. Things have finally gotten to that point where I have to give him away. Just can't give him the quality of life he deserves, so that's just killing me inside. There are financial woes as well I'm dealing with, but aren't we all? There are even more problems I'm facing, just too numerous to list here. It's just a really crappy time of year to be feeling down. I know it will pass in time. Just makes you feel so lonely, makes you feel disheartend. Anyone else having a difficult time with the holidays approaching?
freckles73 Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 Yes. Christmas feels like a party I wasn't invited to. My family is gone, and my ex is gone, and there's no one to have Christmas with.
Rooster_DAR Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 Yes. Christmas feels like a party I wasn't invited to. My family is gone, and my ex is gone, and there's no one to have Christmas with. I'm in the same boat, as it get's closer to the big day I get a little closer to death.
kjo314 Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 Hi Guys/Gals, My g.f broke up with me on Dec. 3rd of last year after being in a 3 year relationship. I was a wreck for the longest time. When the holidays came along I felt like there wasn't going to be anything there. I felt empty and drained, it was the first year I didn't even send out Christmas cards. Then something happened! As Christmas came I was getting more and more depressed so I went to my parents house for Christmas. Being that they have 4 more kids besides me (all younger) it is always a crazy time. The family ended up getting into a fight and so I ran outside and started crying (yes a 21 yer old guy was crying). I had so much emotional turmoil in me I couldn't help it. It was raining and all I could do was sit down on the ground about 500 ft away from the house and yell. About halfway through this, I came to the realization that I didn't need her anymore. She was always there to calm me when things got rough and I was lost until that night without her. After that it was an upward hill I had to walk but eventually (Valentines Day) I was completely over her and ready to start dating again. The hardest thing is accepting the end, and then also accepting that time is the only way to heal yourself. Sleeping around or searching desperately for that emotion again will only hurt you more. You can do it and I have faith in you! If you want to talk more send me a PM and I will respond with my e-mail. Best Regards, Kenny
freckles73 Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 This is how pathetic I am. The other day when the Charlie Brown Christmas Special was on TV and the characters sang "Christmas time is here", I cried.
KittenMoon Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 Weirdly, I don't miss him any extra right now, but I do miss certain things, like making cookies to send to his 90yr old grandad, and giving him the special fruitcake my mom gets him every year. However, there's a certain relief that I won't get a lame, barely thought out gift this year from him, or have to deal with the "So what do you want for Xmas?" question with it's usual "What's the easiest thing I can get away with?" undertone. (P.S. this was always extra painful because I am the easiest person on the planet to shop for and we'd go to stores ALL the time together and I'd point out stuff I liked)
Bittersweet603 Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 I can't agree more. My bf and I of nearly 3 years (off and on but very serious in the end- I was expecting a ring this christmas as we talked about alot, and he told me in an argument 2 weeks ago that he had gotten one) have just split up for good, now I wonder if he really got me the ring or if he was just bluffing to make me wonder. Most likely for the better, but it is very difficult, especially since he has hardly any family and I was looking forward to him spending time with me and mine. I also bought him a crapload of presents, very thoughful things-some special ordered and personalized, and had to figure out how to get rid of them all just this week. I've been going to bed with him on my mind and dreaming of him every time I fall asleep. And the pathetic thing is, he is the biggest A-hole for all he is done to me and I'M the one crying and miserable! ugh.
Author db75 Posted December 6, 2006 Author Posted December 6, 2006 This is how pathetic I am. The other day when the Charlie Brown Christmas Special was on TV and the characters sang "Christmas time is here", I cried. How ironic....that song is on playing on the radio right now. I just feel merely irritated by it though.
notmakingsense Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 Talk about ironies.... last year at this time, my on-again-off-again gf of 2 years broke it off with me. My Xmas was miserable, I was in a deep depression, no XMas cards -- if it wasn't for my kids, I would have been alone XMas eve. My exw got them x-mas day -- when they left I started drinking and crying to every sappy song or movie that came on. We got back together last February, but...... This year (my 3rd year with the gf), just about a week ago now, I broke up with her when it was once again evident that she would not commit to me seriously. So here I am again. Same person, same season. The big difference is that I'm the dumper this time (albeit I was "forced" in to the job), so I don't feel nearly as depressed -- just sad and angry. So far, no major tears -- but then again, I havn't watched "its a wonderful life" yet I'll do a little better -- maybe I'll send out e-mailed xmas cards!
MOMMIE Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 Just imagine having to relocate to a place where you didn't know one single person...Well, I had to do it to get away from my ex-psycho-H...Anyway, I met a man here who I just "cut off" after 2 years of "i don't know what"....He can't seem to decide if he wants to be anything more than FWB...So I guess I'll be here in this place with a broken heart and no good food:) ...But where there's life there's hope and I fully intend to carry on...It will be 1 month NC(sex)...I'm just looking forward to the new year(My Year)....Just keep your heads up (Tupac)..Things are going to get easier..Happy Holidays Anyway!!!
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