chill chic Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 What does that expression really mean? Like the person you can't have is unavailable? In what way? Why can't you have something that you want. What if this guy told me that about his friend that I like?
BARBGURL Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 In my opinion, what people usually mean is that you don't necessarily want something or someone unless you find out you can't have it or them. Unavailability usually makes things more attractive.
Rooster_DAR Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 In my opinion, what people usually mean is that you don't necessarily want something or someone unless you find out you can't have it or them. Unavailability usually makes things more attractive. This is a fact for most people. Goes back to childhood and the instinct to rebel. Just like when your a kid and you parent tell you you can't be out past 10 or you can't day so in so, you sneak around and do it anyway. That's why when you get dumped, you pine for the person that dumped you and you think you are totally in love with them.
alphamale Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 its human nature and a business principle all rolled into one. The law of supply and demand. When supply is low, demand is high....and vice versa. Why are diamonds so treasured and regular rocks worthless?
silentalways Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 wanting something u can't have is kinda silly right? and i don't think all dumpees want to get back with that person because they 'can't have them anymore'. all these 'games' and 'ways of positioning' what are really human beings is so weird. if u want to know what i want now, its simple - a normal life, the love of a good woman, a healthy, safe fun home where the kids play and that's it. i get that again - i know it.
IWalkAlone Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 Maybe that's why whenever I meet a woman who is intelligent, interesting, attractive, and likes talking to me she's always married or in a serious relationship.
blind_otter Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 What does that expression really mean? Like the person you can't have is unavailable? In what way? Why can't you have something that you want. What if this guy told me that about his friend that I like? Probably that the guy you have feelings for is emotionally unavailable for whatever reason, so you're setting yourself up to be more attached to the man than he is to you, an imbalance of power that is not cool.
distant__nebulae Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 Maybe that's why whenever I meet a woman who is intelligent, interesting, attractive, and likes talking to me she's always married or in a serious relationship. I walk alone - you took the words right out of my keyboard.
SmoochieFace Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 Sorry, but that concept just doesn't resonate with me. There are lots of things that are in 'high demand' but I do not care to have them. Plasma teevees immediately come to mind. So do 'hot' women. Some of us haven't been 'conditioned' to fall for those things. With that in mind, who REALLY is the 'rebel' here - as Rooster DAR mentioned - the person who validates the 'want what he/she cannot have' mantra or the person who marches to his/her own beat? Hmmm...
Guest Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 It's bunk. People want something. Then find out they can't have it. That can make you want it more (think of a chocolate craving when you have no chocolate - since you didn't satisfy it, it get stronger). It's not the initial not having that makes the thing attractive, but rather the continued non-fulfilment of the desire. Unavailability doesn't make things attractive; it's just frustrating.
NIKI 28 Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 I know this is like an old posting, but that figures why I still want my baby daddy sometimes.
monkey00 Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 It's the law of scarcity. Subsconsciously and instinctively we desire what is low in availability and high in demand. In the end it's about placing the importance of 'perceived value' on something/someone.
Trialbyfire Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 If you consider human nature since time began, we've always manipulated our environment to get what we want. The wheel and tools didn't come into existence because someone was laying on the ground having a nap and the idea just popped into his/her head. These things came into existence when people had the need, desire and drive to create them because they could not get what they wanted without them. It's knowing when to draw the line between the ethics and the need of what you want, that defines you as a person.
SmoochieFace Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 Still a dumb concept in the end though...
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