Giver Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 Well I actually did it, I went round to my ex's last Friday had a beer or two and told him that I thought it was a good idea if we didn't see each other for a few months. He was completely fine with it (which kind of upset me in a weird way....he didn't seem upset about it at all). I didn't think that I would be able to go through with it but once I got there it really felt like the right thing to do. There were no harsh words, just a few tears and a big hug goodbye. I felt a bit crappy for the next couple of days but I haven't been tempted to contact him at all. He won't hear from me over xmas or new years and right now I'm in a position where I'm honestly feeling indifferent as to if we will be friends or ever see each other again. I've become a bit angry about what he has put me through the last few months (complete hell -- felt worse than a death in the family) and I don't trust him not to hurt me again....so how can you ever be friends with someone like that?? I don't think you can. But right now, I'm totally fine with that. All I have to conquer now is the ability not to look at his myspace page (I only did that once this week so it's getting better)!!!
Jane Doe Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 Congratulations! You've made a great start. Just take everything day by day and don't look too far ahead into the future. If someone is going to treat you badly, they don't deserve to be in your life. If we could all remember that and apply it liberally, the traffic at LS would be cut by 2/3. I think so many of us feel we have to remain friends when it's over. There's no need to. If he was treating you properly you'd still be in a relationship with him. Let him find someone else to mistreat. Spend your time focusing on developing healthy relationships. You're worth it.
bubbalump Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 CONGRATS! Im going on week 6 of NC! I can tell you it does get easier. Everyday is another day closer to your happiness.
Author Giver Posted December 6, 2006 Author Posted December 6, 2006 thanks you two!!!! It's good to know that it does get easier, and reassurance that I don't owe him anything, because I DON'T!! You're right!!
Trialbyfire Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 Congratulations! You've made a great start. Just take everything day by day and don't look too far ahead into the future. If someone is going to treat you badly, they don't deserve to be in your life. If we could all remember that and apply it liberally, the traffic at LS would be cut by 2/3. I think so many of us feel we have to remain friends when it's over. There's no need to. If he was treating you properly you'd still be in a relationship with him. Let him find someone else to mistreat. Spend your time focusing on developing healthy relationships. You're worth it. *standing ovation*
FallenTree Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 Congrats to you! It's been 23 days for me. It sucks but I know it should get better. All I have to conquer now is the ability not to look at his myspace page (I only did that once this week so it's getting better)!!! I have a problem with doing that too. Lately I just don't log on to myspace except every week or so & avoid looking. Every time I do look, it makes me mad.
Author Giver Posted December 6, 2006 Author Posted December 6, 2006 Congrats to you! It's been 23 days for me. It sucks but I know it should get better. I have a problem with doing that too. Lately I just don't log on to myspace except every week or so & avoid looking. Every time I do look, it makes me mad. I'm not even a myspace member, I was considering starting a page but with him and her on there that's not such a good idea right now...it makes me really mad whenever I see it........I was even going to make a shirt that said F*ck Myspace!
FallenTree Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 I've considered deleting my myspace account, but I've numerous friends on there from years past (I've moved a lot)...and sometimes that is the only way we keep in contact. I don't want the loserass to make me want to delete my account, although looking at the page pisses me off. I've done well this week, no peeking.
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