Leave me alone you freak of a family

[My Fair Katie]

I'm sort of estranged from my family of origin. Sort of because my parents don't seem to recognize or accept it. They vary between poison pen emails, vulgar voice mail messages, sending the cops to check on me and on the other end of the spectrum leaving normal messages such as "Hey Katie, just calling to check in on ya," all friendly like as though we have a relationship. I've had to change both my home and cell phone numbers to escape the harrassment.

 

It's enough to drive me insane.

 

Anywho, 'tis the season I guess. I got a holiday card from them. I really just wish they'd leave me alone. But, because I'm firm in my cut off from them I can't tell them that so instead I'll tell it to you strangers.

 

I really and truly hate the holidays.

[SmoochieFace]

I would simply write "Return To Sender" on the card and drop it off at the nearest P.O.

 

I do not accept mail or phone calls from dysfunctional folks. Find someone else to unload your insanity on please.

[My Fair Katie]

I would simply write "Return To Sender" on the card and drop it off at the nearest P.O.

 

I do not accept mail or phone calls from dysfunctional folks. Find someone else to unload your insanity on please.

 

LOL. It truly is tempting. But any sort of communication with my parents (including an RTS stamp) is considered an invitation to a debate and to reopen communication. So, into the trash it goes. Outta sight, hopefully soon it'll be outta mind.

 

Stupid holidays.

[magichands]

It's enough to drive me insane.

Are we there yet?

 

I want to steal that line. I always wanted somebody that loves me to death. Maybe I'm aiming too high?

 

"Baby, I'm going to love you all the way to insanity. Jump on."

 

But, yeah. It totally sucks. I mean, you seem so lovable to me. Beyond question. You just lucked out with the crazy parents. I've got the opposite situation going on... I drive them up the wall. It's quite satisfying, really.

 

If we swapped it could be a lot of fun. I dare those suckers to out-crazy me.

[My Fair Katie]

Are we there yet?

 

It's the next exit.

 

"Baby, I'm going to love you all the way to insanity. Jump on."

 

That is so hot. Hey baby, let's set ourselves up a thread over at the infidelity forum. RAWWWRRRR! Just don't leave no hickies in my bathing suit areas, the falling down the stairs excuse only works once.

 

If we swapped it could be a lot of fun. I dare those suckers to out-crazy me.

 

Steel cage match, Magichands v. Katie's insane mother. Be sure to duck when she starts throwing the stemware and ashtrays.

 

My husband actually once got so fed up with my mother that he squirted her with those water gun hose sink attachment thingies (I can't think of what you would call it). When she finally calmed down enough to yell "why the h3ll did you do that?" he yelled back, "I dunno, but it works when the dogs are fighting!"

[magichands]

That is so hot. Hey baby, let's set ourselves up a thread over at the infidelity forum. RAWWWRRRR! Just don't leave no hickies in my bathing suit areas, the falling down the stairs excuse only works once.

And to think I really believed that your love for me is unconditional. What a sap I am. Taken for a fool. I might have to rethink the whole unbridled-passion thing, now that you're telling me some bits of you are off-limits...

 

Okay, I guess I can try to be gentle.

Steel cage match, Magichands v. Katie's insane mother. Be sure to duck when she starts throwing the stemware and ashtrays.

Nothing says "I win" like an ashtray bouncing off one's chest. It's touching that you care so much, but there's no need to worry. I normally wear a helmet on such occasions. Or go all-out for the quarterback sack.

My husband actually once got so fed up with my mother that he squirted her with those water gun hose sink attachment thingies (I can't think of what you would call it). When she finally calmed down enough to yell "why the h3ll did you do that?" he yelled back, "I dunno, but it works when the dogs are fighting!"

Now that... that is so hot. I bet your husband makes a habit of getting women wet.

[CardPlay3r]

Wow that sucks...congratulations on keeping the NC thing going tho, have you considered filing harassment charges?

 

I don't know what they did to you...maybe you want to share...anyway, I'm glad there are some people that don't take all kinds of BS just because it's there family...so congrats on that:D

[My Fair Katie]

Wow that sucks...congratulations on keeping the NC thing going tho, have you considered filing harassment charges?

 

No congrats needed. I make it a habit not to associate with people crazier than myself. So far that only truly excludes my mother (and father by marriage). Plus I'm Irish and stubborn as h3ll.

 

I actually did consider filing some sort of charges when the police department showed up at my doorstep at 8:00 am demanding to see me to ensure I was alive (and presumably not being regularly beaten and prevented from phoning my folks). When the officer noted my none-to-happy expression of annoyance he asked, "I take it your mother should not be surprised she hasn't heard from you?" No, no not so much.

 

In the end I didn't. I can't really get a restraining order, they live five hours away and so far have never shown up uninvited (knock wood, this is my biggest fear at the moment, just don't want to deal with that Jerry Springer drama).

 

I don't know what they did to you...maybe you want to share...anyway, I'm glad there are some people that don't take all kinds of BS just because it's there family...so congrats on that:D

 

Oh I'm sure plenty of stories will come tumbling out as I purge on this site. But for the truly curious (or if you're just nosey like me), I will say that when I was 20 and home from college for the holidays I noted my mother was under a lot of stress. This of course caused my mother to relay all sorts of information about why she hates her sisters and they are NO help with her ailing mother. I nodded (I assumed sympathetically) and said, "well mom, I don't really know how to help you, have you considered seeing a therapist?" WOW, bad idea.

 

So after being treated to a tirade of how the reason she is stressed is because she has an ungrateful, selfish, child who is NO help whatsoever, she declared Christmas was over, went downstairs, pulled a completely trimmed tree back up the stairs and tossed it out the front door. Dad stormed out because mom was being an @$$ and my mother told me to get out of her house and go to my boyfriend's (now husband) apartment. So I did. Then she called me New Year's morning to chew me out for not calling her to wish her a happy new years the night before at midnight.

 

And that's just one instance.

 

I snapped in March. Got the "you can either be part of the family and take what we dish, or leave the family" ultimatum one too many times and finally decided that staying was the wrong dang decision, so I held them to the threat and cut myself off.

 

Most people don't get it and I'm constantly hearing "but she's faaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaamily." To that I think, so what, blow me.

[magichands]

Most people don't get it and I'm constantly hearing "but she's faaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaamily." To that I think, so what, blow me.

I'm hearing you on FM, dude.

 

Blood might be thicker than water, but you can still shake it.

 

I don't mean to be rude or insensitive... really. Like I said, you seem so funny and lovable - the whole thing makes no sense. No sense at all.

 

I still say the swapping thing could work. My parents finally get to say "I'm proud of you, darling," and I get the excitement in my life that I've been craving for so long. I just think it would be so badass to take your mum down with a running hug, and then scream "sack!" in celebration. I do agree that it could get old after a while, but it's a promising start, I think. Dammit, we're going to bond if it kills me.

[CardPlay3r]

Most people don't get it and I'm constantly hearing "but she's faaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaamily." To that I think, so what, blow me.

 

I'm sure many of them would like to...lol kidding sorry had to say that

 

Seriously tho..I totally hate that school of "thought" as well...it's like so what being family doesn't mean they can do anything to you...it's like most people think you should sit there and take all kinds of abuse and do nothing...hell even most rapes by family members go unreported because of that, so it won't look bad the victims get pressured to "keep it in the family". Bleah.

 

I'm sure you have valid reasons to be off contact with them, with many other stories besides that one...they don't deserve you giving hugs or anything of the sort the pink elephant with a christmas hat suggested.

 

Maybe you can get the post office to keep the mail from them...and the phone company phone calls from them etc. ?

[My Fair Katie]

I'm hearing you on FM, dude.

 

Blood might be thicker than water, but you can still shake it.

 

LOL, I always figured that quote just meant it was harder to get the stain out. I'll do my best Lady McBeth impression.

 

You're not being rude or insensitive, or if you are I'm not noticing. I have fairly thick skin.

 

CardPlay3r--They don't have any of my new numbers and they are all unlisted. Prior to that my husband would answer the phone for me. Speaking of hot, one time he lost his temper and I heard him yell, "This is my g-dd-a-n phone, you don't TELL ME who I HAVE to put on MY phone that I PAY FOR. She has your number, she'll call if she wants to... How do I know she doesn't want to? Because I TALK TO MY WIFE." Roar!

 

As far as the post office, heck, we can't avoid junk mail, not gonna be able to avoid their letters. I love my house, I don't' really want to move. Honestly, I'm pretty good at just tossing letters unopened. My therapist helped me get to that point.

 

Thanks ya'all for the reassurance though. Most of my friends look at me like I've got 2 heads over this. My husband gets it, but frankly he thinks my family is nuts. When I got a very nasty email from dad after mother's day for not calling my mom my best friend (who may not do very well with the shoulder to lean on thing but has EXCELLENT tastes in shoes) said, "well, Katie, it *was* Mother's Day."

 

Oy.

[coco_milkshake]

Hey Katie,

 

Well done for that. I honestly admire you and I wish I had the courage to do the same but unfortunately a part of me does think "they are family and I dont want to tear them apart" in my head too.

 

When I got shoved around the room by my sisters and when they spat on my face saying I deserved it for having a bf I was tempted to call the police but then I thought it would tear the family apart and the police would only caution them but I would bear the consequences of calling them in the first place afterwards.

 

Im getting out after I graduate and it does feel like I am using them until then but they have treated me like **** so this is the least they deserve and when I do get out I am going to maintain NC.

 

You are my inspiration I hope you can guide me and snap me out of it if I try to back out of moving out because I feel that is the best option for me.

 

well done you!

 

Coco

[VandGsMom]

While we are all swapping, can I throw in an alchoholic father for the spitting sisters? I always wanted sisters......

[My Fair Katie]

While we are all swapping, can I throw in an alchoholic father for the spitting sisters? I always wanted sisters......

 

We need dysfunctional family member trading cards. Instead of coming with gum it should come with a Xanax.

[coco_milkshake]

Can you handle four of them spitting at you?? Yeah ok I will swap my sisters for him lol. I can handle one crazy person better than 4 lol.

[coco_milkshake]

We need dysfunctional family member trading cards. Instead of coming with gum it should come with a Xanax.

 

:lmao:

[CardPlay3r]

Hahah may I join in? I can only trade one deceased father tho...any takers? rofl!

[VandGsMom]

4 sisters???

 

Ok, well then, if we are going evens-stevens, you take the alchoholic father, and I will throw in the two cousins who slept together as teenagers, and the uncle who is in the KKK.

[CardPlay3r]

you have an uncle in the kkk? hahah that is funny....do you ask to borrow his robe if you run out of sheets? LOL

[coco_milkshake]

4 sisters???

 

Ok, well then, if we are going evens-stevens, you take the alchoholic father, and I will throw in the two cousins who slept together as teenagers, and the uncle who is in the KKK.

 

Im sure me and your uncle will have thrilling dinner conversations LOL. Eww your cousins slept together?!?!

[TYASAFAHICSI]

I used to crush on my cousin---she is hott. But never more than that! Besides the medical stigma has been disproven--the offspring of first cousins do not necessarily have a greater risk of mental retardation.

[CardPlay3r]

Oh hey V, pay some black dude to be your pretend boyfriend and go with him to your uncle's and say "we're engaged and I'm pregnant!!"

[coco_milkshake]

Oh hey V, pay some black dude to be your pretend boyfriend and go with him to your uncle's and say "we're engaged and I'm pregnant!!"

 

:lmao:

[VandGsMom]

Oh hey V, pay some black dude to be your pretend boyfriend and go with him to your uncle's and say "we're engaged and I'm pregnant!!"

 

 

Lol... no really... his son did almost that exact thing to him ... except he didn't marry her, lol. He lives with his black gf and her 5 kids and one of their fathers in Dallas. Love it!

 

 

And the cousins... I do have to say for them that one of them is a step cousin and not really related, but the way the family talked you would have thought they were molesting girl scouts with pitchforks.

[coco_milkshake]

Lol... no really... his son did almost that exact thing to him ... except he didn't marry her, lol. He lives with his black gf and her 5 kids and one of their fathers in Dallas. Love it!

 

LOL that is class