jgaz3124 Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 Ok guys and girls I have a questions about a guy I am somewhat dating. Ok we met over yahoo personals and we hit it off on our first date. He didn't call me for like a week and half after the date so assumed that the date must not have gone as well as I thought, but just as I was about to write him off he calls me. As it happens I was sick with the flu the day that he called me so he told me to call him the next day or whenever I was feeling better. Well I did call him the next day and he was eating dinner and I told him to call me back later that night. Well ended up not calling me again for about 2 weeks. When he did call again he asked me out on a date and again we had a great time. So he told me on this date that he really likes me and sees potential for us. He also said he would call me that weekend and see if we could get together again. Well this was on friday and it is now Tuesday I know its not so long that he hasn't called but the thing is, is that he seems really inconsistant when he calls and I am wondering if I am going to have to wait another two weeks before I hear from him again. I guess what I am really wondering is, is this the kind of stuff guys do early on in the dating game? I mean do you think he is really interested or merely just trying to get sex out of me(which by the way we have not done, he wanted to but I refused and told him I don't give it up that easily.) ?
Krytellan Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 Unfortunately dear, you are his "backup plan". He does not have enough interest in you to give you his full attention, but he is interested enough to keep you around for when things are slow or in case something else he is likely working on doesn't work out. As guys, if we really want something, we wouldn't act the way you describe. You are not his priority, and I would strongly recommend just not answering your phone anymore. The fact that you even wonder about whether he likes you after the way he has already treated you (he has already established a pattern of disrespect with you) leadds me to believe you are perhaps a little vulnerable. If I can tell that so can he. There is nothing good in this situation for you. Hope I havent offended you. I just know that you need to protect yourself from guys like this.
jenniferlm Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 Hmmm. Seems like you are the backup plan. If you are looking for someone to get serious with this probably isn't the guy. If I were you, next time he calls and asks you out, say this "Oh, I'd really like to see you, but I've already made plans for this weekend! I wish you'd asked sooner! Maybe next time!" He should get the point. He'll either realize how rude it is not to call someone until the last minute or when he has nothing else to do, or he'll call up some other girl to be his backup...either way, you probably don't want to be going out with this type of guy.
missydismay Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 Haven't you read "The Rules"? Do not accept a weekend date after Wednesday!
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