27...wanting to get married?

[Guest]

Hello,

 

I have a question about marriage and my relationship.

I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. He is 27 I am 21. We have an extremely good relationship when it comes to pretty much everything, I KNOW he definetly wants to have children and get married in his life.

 

Ok so my question is, he always talks about it being with me like for example its kinda in a joking way I guess thats why Im asking ill say "what wife is going to put up with your messyness" (as a joke) and he says "well I guess i should be asking you that".

He always talks about kids with me, moving into a house with me, his family with me etc.

He is started to get a lil older and he knows this. He is very serious with me, do you think since he is older and wants to start a family soon that it is in his mind that he wants that with me? He says he doesn't want to waist anymore time on meaningless relationships so he would never hurt me or wreck thigns.

 

His brothers talk about us being together, his family and well he pretty much always mentions little jokes about our kids and getting married.....I usually don't ay anything. I love him more than anything and do want all this too with him (from what I know) I have been in a 4 year relationship that didn't work so Im not stupid in thinking I love him because its been two years.

I just don't say anything back, I do sometimes but he is always the one to bring it up never me.

 

I don't know if I explained this properly Im sure i didn't I don't know how to give enough deals and explain what I mean because I guess im writing to strangers! but if anyone has any comments or input please let me know!

 

Thank you

[Aloros]

I'm really not sure what you're asking here. It seems that your boyfriend is getting ready to settle down, but you're not certain?

 

You're 21, and that's young by most anyone's standards to be getting married and starting a family. He's 27, and although he may be ready, don't let him pressure you into settling down when you're not ready. I'm sure you've heard this, but you have so much growing up to do.

[My Fair Katie]

Okay, I'll fess up, I got married young (22).

 

I love my husband, I like being married to him.

 

That said, if I had to do it over again, I would've waited. I'm JUST now coming into myself, it'd be a lot easier to process if I didn't have the larger construct of a marriage to also deal with. I wouldn't divorce my husband because of it, I'm just saying, adding being newly married to just getting out in the real world and it's a doozy. I feel like I went from daughter to wife without getting to just be "Katie" in between. So now I have to be both wife and figure out "Katie" at the same time. Do-able, but a pain in the @$$.

[jenniferlm]

Why are you in such a hurry to get married? Most of the time when people that are still in their early 20's get married it ends in divorce. Don't you want to live a little and experience some of life on your own before you start a "shared" life w/ someone else?

I dunno. Just doesn't sound all that healthy to me. He's obviously thinking of getting married though. But I wouldn't do it if I were you. There is nothing wrong w/ dating him for a few more years, and then having a LONG engagment. He says he doesn't want to waste any time, but at 27...honestly he's got a lot of time left and so do you.

I mean, you want to be Britney Spears and have two kids and be divorced by 25???

[Mythical]

my fair kaite and Jennifer I totally agree with you guys even if I do feel that way and think I want that there is nothing wrong with waiting a couple years instead of ended up in something I don't want to be in/not ready.

 

Thank you very much for your opinions I appriciate and really took it into consideration thanks!

[Pyro]

my fair kaite and Jennifer I totally agree with you guys even if I do feel that way and think I want that there is nothing wrong with waiting a couple years instead of ended up in something I don't want to be in/not ready.

 

Thank you very much for your opinions I appriciate and really took it into consideration thanks!

 

Mythical, were you the guest?

[Mythical]

Mythical, were you the guest?

 

Sure is, I was stoned at the time and forgot to long in j/k yea I relised that when I couldn't find it in my previous posts.

[Pyro]

Sure is, I was stoned at the time and forgot to long in j/k yea I relised that when I couldn't find it in my previous posts.

 

Yeah right, you were stoned and forgot to log in. Smoke another one.

[Mythical]

Yeah right, you were stoned and forgot to log in. Smoke another one.

 

realize I put "I forgot to long in"...im stoned right now

[Pyro]

realize I put "I forgot to long in"...im stoned right now

 

I see by your pic that you are posing with some greens as well. Is that a big bud next to you?

[Mythical]

I see by your pic that you are posing with some greens as well. Is that a big bud next to you?

 

it really is, I couldn't wait!, Its like half that size now though

[Pyro]

it really is, I couldn't wait!, Its like half that size now though

 

Well, you are quite the smoking fiend. Do you think its possible to find a big enough zag to roll all that up in?

[Mythical]

Well, you are quite the smoking fiend. Do you think its possible to find a big enough zag to roll all that up in?

 

Im sure its possible they have rolled some crazy big ones! Im tired and I have to work in like 4 hours!! Hope your alomost done your Christmas shopping....very frustrating...way too many ppl to buy for

[Pyro]

Im sure its possible they have rolled some crazy big ones! Im tired and I have to work in like 4 hours!! Hope your alomost done your Christmas shopping....very frustrating...way too many ppl to buy for

 

I'm abouts to crash myself. I have two down and about 9 more people to go. I agree, its a pain in the arse. Have a good one Cheech, I mean Mythical.

[Mythical]

I'm abouts to crash myself. I have two down and about 9 more people to go. I agree, its a pain in the arse. Have a good one Cheech, I mean Mythical.

 

lol you too ttyl