Chapter2 Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 Yes, AC, actions do speak louder than words... Any question for the OM/OW can be asked of the BS... Obviously a MM tells his wife he loves her does he not, especially when he is "caught" and doesn't confess on his own? Then, his actions, seeing another woman (or man) behind her back show otherwise, hence, allowing his wife to live a lonely life that is a lie. He is just telling his wife he loves her to maintain his income, status and standing with his family, children and community. You're right, it is something to think about. I would put to you to look at things with a role reversal look since you are set to believe that the MM really feels what you feel... Him telling you he loves you doesn't mean he does.. actions speak louder than words and by him staying married and letting you live a lonely life that should tell you that he doesn't really love you.. he just tells you he does to keep you hooked and to keep the sex coming in. So... speaking of role reversal... while you would rather take that chance on the .5% because a single guy worships you and you don't feel the same... Well ??? Are you the single guy in this instance and the MM is you, who does not feel anything for you ? Something to think about....
yousaveme Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 I am so confused right now. I think I missed something... Yes, AC, actions do speak louder than words... Any question for the OM/OW can be asked of the BS... Obviously a MM tells his wife he loves her does he not, especially when he is "caught" and doesn't confess on his own? Then, his actions, seeing another woman (or man) behind her back show otherwise, hence, allowing his wife to live a lonely life that is a lie. He is just telling his wife he loves her to maintain his income, status and standing with his family, children and community. You're right, it is something to think about.
herenow Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 Yes, AC, actions do speak louder than words... Any question for the OM/OW can be asked of the BS... Obviously a MM tells his wife he loves her does he not, especially when he is "caught" and doesn't confess on his own? Then, his actions, seeing another woman (or man) behind her back show otherwise, hence, allowing his wife to live a lonely life that is a lie. He is just telling his wife he loves her to maintain his income, status and standing with his family, children and community. You're right, it is something to think about. When the affair is reveled, that is the time we see who the MM truly is. He can decide to fix the problems in his marriage and prove his love for his wife. He can leave his marriage and prove his love for the OW. Or, he can continue to lie to his wife and continue having affairs and prove his love for himself.
whichwayisup Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 I hope this is right...I can't wait for MM's life to fall apart. (he married his ow from first M...and started A with me.) But, unfortunatly it looks like things are going strong...2 years for them in this Febuary:(. when is the Karma or at least Statisics gonna kick in? He cheated on his first wife with an OW, then divorced and married his OW. Now he's married to OW, and he's having an affair with you. And you want his marriage to fail and end in divorce so you can be wife #3????? Sorry, but I don't see how the heck you could ever trust him 100%. IF they did split up, and he ended up with you, wouldn't you be terrified he'd find OW and cheat on you too?
peacelove Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 I am so confused right now. I think I missed something... JUST LIKE YOU TOLD ME NUMEROUS TIMES, ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS. ON YOUR PART & HIS!!!
pricillia Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 listem reguardless of weather a person is Married or not... in any relationship people look for excitement, but basic human need is for love and intamacy...
herenow Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 listem reguardless of weather a person is Married or not... in any relationship people look for excitement, but basic human need is for love and intamacy... Yes I agree that love and intimacy should be a basic human need. There are many people who fear those needs and resist true love and intimacy. They are afraid to get hurt or afraid to let someone know the real person behind the facade. I know this to be true, because that is exactly the type of person I married. He admits it and is working on letting others into his heart. Every day I see small changes and realize that my husband is a much kinder, compassionate and loving man now that he has let go of his fears. I love my new husband!
BUTAFLY Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 I think Karma is already living with both of them. Look at it this way, they are both cheaters and they are living a life with no trust. He will most likely continue to "date" while married and due to the fact that she was the OW herself, she will most likely just live with it or "date" herself. Even if they stay together, they will never experience true love. You, on the other hand, have that opportunity and as they say, the best revenge is for you to live a better life than he does. I hope that makes sense, I tired today! Thank you I needed that boost of encouragement . On some level I know your right, but I want to see it just it yaknow.
Antheia Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 So... speaking of role reversal... while you would rather take that chance on the .5% because a single guy worships you and you don't feel the same... Well ??? Are you the single guy in this instance and the MM is you, who does not feel anything for you ? Perhaps I am, but that is fine with me. How I feel about someone is what matters to me. Sure, I would want it to go both ways but it rarely does. Given a choice of being with someone I'm in love with who isn't in love with me vs someone I don't love who is in love with me, I would chose the first option. Every. Single. Time.
BUTAFLY Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 He cheated on his first wife with an OW, then divorced and married his OW. Now he's married to OW, and he's having an affair with you. And you want his marriage to fail and end in divorce so you can be wife #3????? Sorry, but I don't see how the heck you could ever trust him 100%. IF they did split up, and he ended up with you, wouldn't you be terrified he'd find OW and cheat on you too? I want things to go bad for him because he doesn't deserve anything good in his life. He almost brought me to the point of insanity. my best friend was about to strap me in a little white jacket and lock me up. I want to see things fall apart so I know there is a GOD, so I know their is justice in this world and for the satisfaction of saying I TOLD YOU SO and laughing in his face. I know I am wrong for saying this but its how I feel...at least at the moment . He life is peachy- keen and I just want to see his house of cards he collapes so I can exhale. I do not want to be W #3. Besides I truly don't think they will ever seperate. He said his divorce from his 1st wife was not his choice and was a really low point in his life and he deosn't want to do that agian. Plus, they are one in the same 2 people with no morals, in some way they belong together or they are really inlove and where destined to be together .
Art_Critic Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 Perhaps I am, but that is fine with me. How I feel about someone is what matters to me. Sure, I would want it to go both ways but it rarely does. Given a choice of being with someone I'm in love with who isn't in love with me vs someone I don't love who is in love with me, I would chose the first option. Every. Single. Time. Why not try and find a single guy who loves you and you love him ? ( this by the way is a healthier alternative than being with a MM that doesn't love you ) Win/Win situation- Just because a guy is single doesn't mean you can't love him- Married men are not the only lovable men on the planet
BUTAFLY Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 AC, If you love someone tell them, because hearts are often broken by words left unspoken ~~ I wish the guy who told me he loved me would have kept his mouth shut...because his words were all LIES
Meaplus3 Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 I think it is a challenge and it's filled with lot's of drama, passion and romance, a true feeling of " I am young, I am so alive". I have revisted my youth many times while in the A with MM. He brought out all of my hopes, desires, passion and strengths. It's funny, I am an Art major and while thing's were GREAT between us my art work was amazing. Now well, I have to try and think outside the box! That's what MM did for me! Made me think outside the box. He have me a new perspective on life a refreshing look at thing's. I MISS that and need it back. Is is possible, probably not! AP:o
GirlFromOz Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 I hope this is right...I can't wait for MM's life to fall apart. (he married his ow from first M...and started A with me.) But, unfortunatly it looks like things are going strong...2 years for them in this Febuary:(. when is the Karma or at least Statisics gonna kick in? Gee, he sounds like a real catch.
Chapter2 Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 You're really extrapolating...has anyone anywhere said married men are the only lovable men on the planet? Why not try and find a single guy who loves you and you love him ? ( this by the way is a healthier alternative than being with a MM that doesn't love you ) Win/Win situation- Just because a guy is single doesn't mean you can't love him- Married men are not the only lovable men on the planet
Art_Critic Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 I would rather take a 0.5% chance on things working out with someone I'm in love with than 99.5% with some single guy that worships the ground I walk on but I feel nothing for. Perhaps I am, but that is fine with me. How I feel about someone is what matters to me. Sure, I would want it to go both ways but it rarely does. Given a choice of being with someone I'm in love with who isn't in love with me vs someone I don't love who is in love with me, I would chose the first option. Every. Single. Time. You're really extrapolating...has anyone anywhere said married men are the only lovable men on the planet? Actually if you read the posts by Antheia that I was responding too and read between the lines she does say that she can't find love with a single guy..
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