Waiting for an answer - should I wait or say have a nice life?

[highdensity]

Once again - this weekend I did the same thing I always do and managed to push the guy I was dating away. He sent me a text saying we should go our separate ways. I called and asked that he call me. He said he would, but couldn't at that exact moment - he would call later. I send him a text saying, "here are all the reasons why I think we should work it out." I said, "Are those enough reasons?" He text back with "Yeah." He said he would call me the next day.

 

Guess what? he didn't call. I text him to say, "what is up?Where are we relationship wise?" Nothing. I say after an hour, "take all the time you need to figure it out, but let me know either way."

 

Here is the thing, when I don't hear from him EVER I assume we are breaking up and then I get mad and immediately break up with him. I am messed up I know.

 

What can I do? I don't want to bombard him with calls/texts because 1) it won't work 2) if he was even considering talking to me again he won't if I call like a crazy woman.

 

I hate that he isn't saying anything. At the very least say...."thought about it some more. don't want to see you again..." How hard is that? argggg

[justagirliegirl]

I think you mean well in what you are doing but the texts on reasons for being together and so on come off a bit like "please like me" It is like you are trying to sell yourself to him.

 

I wouldn't wait on him to decide. Take matters into your own hands and text him with something like you have thought about things and that you'd rather not continue seeing him as you see a few areas that are lacking in what you are really looking for.

 

Remember you are the prize and you don't have to convince someone to like you.

 

No you don't have to text him 50 times. That would just be annoying. Just sorta imply that he isn't quite good enough for you and then let it go.

[tinabean]

I've done this before..trust me..it makes you look crazy. I hate being ignored. Even if I'm not that interested in a guy I feel like I need the last word. Trust me when I tell you this..it does make you look a little crazy. Let go of this guy. Any guy that you need to push to make a decision like this or try to egg on to get a reaction from is worthless..and pointless. He sounds like my ex..i was always trying to get a reaction from him by breaking up with him..but I never really meant it..always just looking for him to stand up and fight a little.

 

Tell me he doesn't want me to leave, he was wrong..yeah right. In the end it just made me look weak with all the threats, and he started to take me for granted, knowing I wasn't going to leave when he did crappy things to me. Let this guy go. I know the future on this one.