NIKI 28 Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 My buddy and I have been friends for 20yrs and basically I consider her like a sister. Anyhoo when we graduated from college she got with the love of her life got pregnant they moved into an apartment yada yada and you know how that goes. Well as years went on they bought a condominium and things were going good until her son's father would hardly be there or come home late so my buddy was depressed and she met this guy at her job that was I admit a hottie so they hooked up and basically she was going behind her child's father back. Anyways the soon to be ex wasn't standing up to his male duties in the household or sexually from what she said and they end up loosing everything and she had to start over. Well she remain talking to this guy and she end up moving in with my Aunt and Uncle so she can get herself together and he would come over but leave at a certain time and she never knew where he live even to this day she doesn't know where he lives or hasn't met his daughter or immediate family this guy has lied about being in the hospital, he would make promises about taking her out of town and never keeps his promise. I knew something was up with this cat because I use to deal with guys like him so I was hip to his freakn games well anyways she ended up getting her own house and they were still kicking it and when her son was turning 10 her hottie friend treats the son and all of his buddies to go laser tagging. We were all taking pictures just enjoying ourselves and I kept looking at him because it was like he was hiding in the background. Later that week she goes to a bar with her cousin and a friend of her cousins and they're just laughing talking about the laser tag party and my buddy pulls out the pictures and you won't believe this get ready the friend of her cousin sees the pictures and said she knew the guy because her sister was married to him!! My friend calls me crying about the whole situation and I'm telling her basically to leave him alone supposingly the wife found out and put it this way my friend still is dealing with this guy.
CardPlay3r Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 Hi...first of all try using paragraphs, they're everyone's friend Ok well...what advice are you looking for here? She knows he's married, she knows he lied to her on several occasions, she keeps seeing him... That is her choice and there's nothing you can do about it except tell her it's wrong...but if she doesn't listen nothing you can do... She doesn't seem to have too good of morals anyhow, seeing how she cheated on the father of her child, figures she isn't all too bothered by being with this guy who cheats on his wife
WhiteKnight Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 Pretty much I agree with CardPlay3r as well. If your friend enjoys or likes seeing this guy, its her choice to ruin her life. Not yours. Unfortunately you get people like that around everywhere. The only way to say it to her is that its wrong to continue doing it and probably you could advise her to say that it will affect her mentally and emotionally as well. You could explain that she doesn't need this kind of depression and she would be better off without this kind of guy. There are plenty more guys out there. She doesn't need to worry or be so attached to this one person. Arguably, she would have to ask herself 'what if' the guy would leave her as well by doing the same things he is doing to his other half now? But that's my thoughts.
Author NIKI 28 Posted December 5, 2006 Author Posted December 5, 2006 First, I want to thank you both for your advice on this but to Cardplayer if I could remember this isn't a English class this is a chat room so therefore it shouldn't really matter how I this type message as long as I spell the words correctly it shouldn't even matter . Next, I'm not trying to really get any type of advice it's just that I'm venting and basically that's what everyone is doing in these chat rooms so please don't feel obligated to give me any advice because I already told her what she should do it's just that I'm venting right now okay!!! THANKS
Author NIKI 28 Posted December 5, 2006 Author Posted December 5, 2006 First, I want to thank you both for your advice on this but to Cardplayer if I could remember this isn't a English class this is a chat room so therefore it shouldn't really matter how I type message as long as I spell the words correctly it shouldn't even matter . Next, I'm not trying to really get any type of advice it's just that I'm venting and basically that's what everyone is doing in these chat rooms so please don't feel obligated to give me any advice because I already told her what she should do it's just that I'm venting right now okay!!! THANKS
CardPlay3r Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 Sure thing, vent away, just wanted to say it's not about any English class...but paragraphs make it much easier to read your story...that's the reason you only had 2 people replying to your thread
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