forbidden fruit Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 I e-mailed my mm last night and let him know we cannot jeopardize what we both have since we are both married. Here is where i believe I went wrong. I said in the next line but we can still be friends. Did i leave the door open purposely? Shouldn't nc be no door open? Anyways his e-mail back crushed me because I have tried to end the affair since it started, but just too weak everytime and he would not end it either. Way too weak. His e-mail back confirmed that in fact it was over , but he loved me and wanted to be my friend. Well not more than 24 hrs later he shows up where I am at and acts like nothing has ever happened and we are back to being the friends we were before the affair started. Then he starts calling me just to ask me stupid things and his wife is at home. I wanted to pull him through the phone and say are you crazy? What i did say was i am busy and i cannot talk. He was stunned and could not believe that i actually hung up on him. What am I suppossed to make of this situation. the reason we did not continue with the affair besides the obvious reasons is because i wanted him to leave and he could not because of house, kids, comfortable situation. He has been wanting to leave since I met him. He made a decision and it was not me!! He is such a coward. He would always tell me if we were single I would be with you for sure. I was ready to give up alot to be with him and when i realized he was not I ended it or is it? Totally confused on how to proceed from here. Is he still getting the best of both worlds the EA with me and his comfortable situation .
bonehead Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 What am I suppossed to make of this situation. the reason we did not continue with the affair besides the obvious reasons is because i wanted him to leave and he could not because of house, kids, comfortable situation. I dont buy these reasons. He has been wanting to leave since I met him. Has he made any headway in getting out? Has a plan been laid out with a time line?? How long have you been involved with him? I havent gone back and read your posts.
BARBGURL Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 In my opinion, yes you definitely left the door open on purpose. For one reason or another you were not ready to close the door forever. Your head says to do it, your heart won't let you. One thing I have learned the hard way - You absolutely can never be friends. It just won't work.
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