thinisin Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 Hi, I have never thought there was a problem with my weight until recently people always comment how thin I have become. I am 5' 4" and 97 pounds. I had an EMT do my BMI and it was 16. I do admit I recently lost 15 pounds, but not deliberately. My eating habits are the same and I have seen a doctor and had some blood work done to rule out disease. I like my new look. I think everything looks better on, and my face has really thinned out nicely. Some one said I have "calista flockhart" arms....which creeped me out cause her arms are gross skinny, but I don't see mine like that. Any advice? Is my weight too low for my hieght? At first I wanted to gain my weight back, but now I want to keep my thin body as is..... Thanks!
persistant Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 This coiuld be a troll thread or not... I'll bite it. I'm 5 ft 4 1/2 Inches tall and weight !20 lbs. For years I weighed between 109-115. I was cronically sick. If there was a cold or flu going around I got it and it hit me hard. I had a fairly good appetite but couldn't eat much in one sitting so I grazed all day. I was told I was too skinny. My body may have looked good in a picture and such since photo's and video is suppose to add about 5-10 lbs visually but I know I was too skinny for my height. Even my doctors were concerned about my weight. I have a small to med. type bone structure. My job back then kept me on my feet and always physically moving. It was somewhat like walking a 8 hr marathon. I was in my teens and 20s during my low weight time. I was a cheerleader and in danceline in High School as well as I did areobics 2xs per day. After my son was born I stopped exercising regularly and I slowed down as the years went by. I gained 5-10 lbs and I'm sick less frequently and I get more attention from men. for my height according to medical standards I should weight between 120- 135 lbs for healthy weight. Do a search online for height and weight charts you will see where you ideal weight should range from a woman who is 5'4" should weight around 133lbs. You also need to remember muscle weights more then body fat so according to the chart I was looking at I'm either underweight or I don't have enough muscle and knowing my profession I would admit I most likely don't have enough muscle mass because I sit most of the day.
blind_otter Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 how you view yourself is rarely how others view you in reality. People tend to ahave very skewed self images. I believe that under 100 lbs. at 5'4 would be horribly skinny, especially when you do a search about healthy weight and BMI. Do you work out? Lift weights? How can you possibly have any muscle tone? NOt trying to be mean, I'm really curious?
IpAncA Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 I'm 5'2' and considered underweight at only 104. I used to weigh 120 about a year ago and I just hated it. I joined an aerobic class and gained 20 lbs. Yeah I looked great with all those definitions in my arms and legs but I didn't like weighing that much and I didn't like the fact that I had to go up a size in my pants. It made me feel like I was a guy or something. Crazy I know. Even my H loved it and every now and then he says that he liked that look but I don't think I could do that again. If you like yourself the way you are then keep it. Who cares what others are saying because if your healthy and your happy, then don't worry about it. Just don't become obsessed with weight like I have.
BARBGURL Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 A BMI of 16 is scary. I believe super models are now required to have a BMI no lower than 18 to walk the runway.
BareGoddess Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 I'm going to disagree on the person who said you're HORRIBLY skinny but as someone who is your same height and around your weight, I will say that this is underweight. It's weird with me because my "trunk" as in bust, waist, hips are fine...in fact I wouldn't mind losing a little from my waist but my arms and legs ARE too thin. They've been too thin my whole life. I HATE my arms and legs. That being said, I don't go by those "tables." I'm very small-boned and I think 110 would be a perfect weight for me. Why not try to gain the weight back. Eat 5 to 6 small meals a day. You can gain 10 lbs in a matter of months this way. In fact that's one of my goals for 2007...to reach 110. It concerns me a little that you do NOT think your arms are too thin. You don't see yourself as too thin at all? Do you WANT to gain some more weight?
IpAncA Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 Why not try to gain the weight back. Eat 5 to 6 small meals a day. You can gain 10 lbs in a matter of months this way. In fact that's one of my goals for 2007...to reach 110. Yeah 5 to 6 meals a day would do it. I couldn't get enough food in me when I was gaining. Gezz...that sounded bad. Anyhow I don't know how you got down to 97. I can't even get to 100.
yousaveme Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 Everyone says that I am too thin...Im 5'7" and i am 105. Dr would like to see my gain 15 pounts at least but I just cant. I need to start eating a little better. But I do not think I would ever be more than 120 in my life.
IpAncA Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 Everyone says that I am too thin...Im 5'7" and i am 105. Dr would like to see my gain 15 pounts at least but I just cant. I need to start eating a little better. But I do not think I would ever be more than 120 in my life. Why can't you?
coco_milkshake Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 I am 5'2" and I am 92 pounds. I have been struggling with weight problems for almost a year now and its getting ridiculous. At first it was because I did not eat properly, barely struggled to eat 3 meals a day without feeling sick to the point where I had to force myself to throw up. I didnt eat because of the stress I was going through with the breakup with my ex and the grief that my family put me through because of it. I was under 80 pounds at one point. Last year I was over 120 pounds and I looked great. Now I look like a bag of bones and I feel sad that despite starting to eat 3 meals a day I am struggling to put on weight but have no problem losing it. Though on a high note Ive gone from 87 pounds to 92 due to me starting to eat more but it took a long time for that to happen. However, I managed to lose over 14 pounds in a 2 week period, and the shocking part is losing 7 pounds in one day. I think that has contributed to my chest pains and recent seizures.
CardPlay3r Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 thinisin, I think the problem is you care more about "looking good" than being healthy...yes you are underweight, a healthy weight would be between 109-136, according to this at least : http://www.healthstatus.com/calculate/iwc
yousaveme Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 Why can't you? Gaining weight isnt something I like doing. As soon as I allow myself to put some weight on. I think its too much. But for health reasons I really need to start eating better.
dgiirl Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 I'm 5'4, and all my adult/teen life I weight about 103-107. After my divorce, I expereinced the divorce diet and that brought me down to 92-96lbs. I was EXTREMELY boney. *I* could even tell in my own pictures, and when I put my arms around myself. I was so tiny. Sure, some of those new tight jeans fit nicer, but I looked so fragile and everyone would comment, more than normally. After about a year, I started to gain back the weight. Those new jeans didnt fit anymore and that made me slightly disappointed. I also felt the weight gain back and the first time in my entire life, I felt "fat". Fat? I was only gaining back 5-10lbs to my normal weight i've been my entire life. But I could feel the padding coming back. I realized then how dangerous and easily one can become aneroxic. The mind plays some ****ed up games. Dont do anything stupid like trying to maintain an unhealthy weight. Keep eating what you would normally eat. I assume you lost this weight unintentionally and probably due to some stressful event in your life? If so, dont worry about it. Keep eating, keep doing what you normally do. Eventually, the weight will come back. Dont be discouraged and try to prevent it from happening. Just let it happen. After a few months you'll feel normal again. Try not to buy too many new clothes at your current weight. All my new clothes, I had to get rid of. I cant fit into them, and that made me feel disappointed too, like I was "fat". But I knew better logically, and just gave those clothes away.
Sassy Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 The way i can tell if someone is too skinny is if they have sunken in cheeks and bones sticking out. You just don't look healthy when your too skinny. Think how Nicole Richie looks that is nasty. No one want to be next to a skeleton. That is an unhealthy weight for your height. I look at pictures when I was younger and was all about being skinny and I looked sick. I will never look that way again. It isn't good for your health to be underweight as well as overweight. I don't know if you remember Karen Carpenter she was beautiful and was a singer great voice. She thought she was fat and ended up dying from aneroxia. She had a record deal. What more could a person want . Being skinny was more important. If you continue to stay this thin it will mess with your heart . How have you lost this weight? Was it the healthy way ? Was it benging and purging ?
Guest Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 I had an EMT do my BMI and it was 16. This is VERY BAD. It's extremely unhealthy. I like my new look. I think everything looks better on, and my face has really thinned out nicely. Some one said I have "calista flockhart" arms....which creeped me out cause her arms are gross skinny, but I don't see mine like that. Believe what you're being told. YOU can't see how awful you look - you may have 'body dysmorphic disorder' meaning that what you 'see' in the mirror is not what everybody else sees. Given the recent New Scientist articles about senses and perception and vision (including true stories about blind people who can paint pictures and otherwise 'see') it makes sense that you might think you are seeing correctly but can be very wrong about that. In short, you look at the mirror and see 'beautiful' where everybody else sees 'eeeewww - bones'. Any advice? Is my weight too low for my hieght? Yes. MUCH too low. To the point where your body will start eating its own muscle (INCLUDING the heart) for energy. You MUST start eating. At first I wanted to gain my weight back, but now I want to keep my thin body as is..... No man wants to lie on a bag of bones. You'll look all skinny in your coffin, if that's what you want, and it should happen fairly soon if you keep this up. Understand that NOBODY thinks 'skinny' is attractive. Not skinny like you're becoming. And you're on the road to killing yourself. Soon.
IpAncA Posted December 7, 2006 Posted December 7, 2006 After about a year, I started to gain back the weight. Those new jeans didnt fit anymore and that made me slightly disappointed. I also felt the weight gain back and the first time in my entire life, I felt "fat". Fat? I was only gaining back 5-10lbs to my normal weight i've been my entire life. But I could feel the padding coming back. I realized then how dangerous and easily one can become aneroxic. The mind plays some ****ed up games. Thats what happend with me too. After I gained 20lbs from working out, must stuff did not fit right. So that was why I lost it all again. Now it fits. I will say that I do like the way that I look in the mirror. I mean you can see some bones but I like that look. I start freaking if I can't see any and then that makes me feel fat. So I maintain my weight how it is and keep it at that.
dgiirl Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 Thats what happend with me too. After I gained 20lbs from working out, must stuff did not fit right. So that was why I lost it all again. Now it fits. I will say that I do like the way that I look in the mirror. I mean you can see some bones but I like that look. I start freaking if I can't see any and then that makes me feel fat. So I maintain my weight how it is and keep it at that. Well, there's a difference between being naturally petite, and making yourself petite. I eat normal. I probably eat TOO much. But I'm petite and always have been. I dont watch what I eat. I dont prevent myself from enjoying fatty foods. I eat what I want, when I want, and dont pay much attention to my weight. And if I'm suppose to be 120lbs (which I personally think is absurb for me) to be considered normal weight, the only way I would ever reach that weight is if I ate cake and donuts all day every day. In which case, I will gain fat, and all of it will be on my ass. My top frame is petite, i have no boobs, and my arms and legs are and always have been bony. The only place I have mass is on my ass. And god knows, it dont need to be any bigger than it already is If you weight 104 lbs at 5'2 and you are eating normally without really paying attention to what you are eating, I personally wouldnt worry about it. However, if you are watching every mouth you eat, and constantly weighing yourself to make sure you stay at 104lbs then I'd say you have a problem. At your weight, stop obsessing over food and your weight and let nature take it's course. IpAncA, I also just realized that you gained weight from working out. So you didnt gain fat but muscle. Muscle is good, and you were probably in better shape than you were at a smaller weight. You probably were more tone, hence why everyone said you were looking better. For me, I've got no muscle and I'm not very tone, hence eating more is not necessarily the best thing for me. But if I exercise, I'll probably lose weight, unless I build muscle.
IpAncA Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 If you weight 104 lbs at 5'2 and you are eating normally without really paying attention to what you are eating, I personally wouldnt worry about it. However, if you are watching every mouth you eat, and constantly weighing yourself to make sure you stay at 104lbs then I'd say you have a problem. At your weight, stop obsessing over food and your weight and let nature take it's course. IpAncA, I also just realized that you gained weight from working out. So you didnt gain fat but muscle. Muscle is good, and you were probably in better shape than you were at a smaller weight. You probably were more tone, hence why everyone said you were looking better. For me, I've got no muscle and I'm not very tone, hence eating more is not necessarily the best thing for me. But if I exercise, I'll probably lose weight, unless I build muscle. O no! I will NOT let nature take its course on this. no no no. I sort of obsess over it but not really to the point of weighing myself. I used to do that but I got rid of the scale so I can't anymore. I try to eat healthy but once in a while it doesn't hurt to go to the other side. I have a small frame. I can't help it. Just the way I am. O yeah I was in better shape and toned up. I was ok until I had to wear tighter clothes and then my jeans didn't fit right. That's when I stopped going to the gym. I still do running/walking about 3 times a week but thats it. My H has mentioned to me that he liked me like that. Shoot the other day he metioned it again. We were talking about someone on TV and he slipped out about how he liked my arms toned and such and I was like "they still are just smaller." He might of well just said that he hates the way I look now. O well he'll get over it.
amaysngrace Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 I would say if you like looking at your back and seeing your ribs show, you have a problem. Or, if you have pictures of ultra-skinny body parts around to compare yourself to, again - a problem. If when you eat next to nothing but still feel fat, problem. If you have a need to exercise majorly before you can get on with daily routines, problem. If you weigh yourself daily, sometimes multiple times and let the number on the scale affect your mood, that's a problem. If this sounds like you, you have an eating disorder and should make an appointment with a psychotherapist to find out why. Most likely you have an even bigger PROBLEM. Good Luck.
Heavenseventeen Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 People seem to feel that if you're underweight due to your metabolism, since you've been young, it's alright, but if you starve/don't eat as much as others, etc then it's unhealthy. Just like with obesity, I think it's unhealthy whether you've been like naturally or not.
dgiirl Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 People seem to feel that if you're underweight due to your metabolism, since you've been young, it's alright, but if you starve/don't eat as much as others, etc then it's unhealthy. Just like with obesity, I think it's unhealthy whether you've been like naturally or not. Very interesting perspective. However, I disagree. I eat a LOT. Most people are astonished at how much I actually do eat. When people actually take a look at how much i really DO eat, they tell me I eat TOO much lol. So how do you expect me to gain weight? Keep eating more and more just so I fit into a "healthy" weight? I dont think that's healthy. The weight will not go onto my arms nor legs nor chest. It's only going to go on my ass, which if anything, I need to eat less, or work out more. So I disagree with that, and I disagree with people who tell others to eat more. Why? I'm not obsessed with my weight, i'm not obsessed with the scale and I dont count calories. I eat when, what and as much as I want. I have a good healthy relationship with food. I use it for nutrition, not for anything else. I dont turn to food when I'm depressed or sad or feel unloved. I dont turn to food when I have low self esteem. I use food for what it's purpose is, to live. Nothing else.
norajane Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 Very interesting perspective. However, I disagree. I eat a LOT. Most people are astonished at how much I actually do eat. When people actually take a look at how much i really DO eat, they tell me I eat TOO much lol. So how do you expect me to gain weight? Keep eating more and more just so I fit into a "healthy" weight? I dont think that's healthy. The weight will not go onto my arms nor legs nor chest. It's only going to go on my ass, which if anything, I need to eat less, or work out more. So I disagree with that, and I disagree with people who tell others to eat more. Why? I'm not obsessed with my weight, i'm not obsessed with the scale and I dont count calories. I eat when, what and as much as I want. I have a good healthy relationship with food. I use it for nutrition, not for anything else. I dont turn to food when I'm depressed or sad or feel unloved. I dont turn to food when I have low self esteem. I use food for what it's purpose is, to live. Nothing else. You gain weight through exercise then, not eating. Lifts weights and gain muscle mass - healthier and heavier.
melodymatters Posted December 9, 2006 Posted December 9, 2006 Your body will usually " tell" you when you are too thin : You stop menstruating. Just reading all these comments and having been a former anorexic who is still a thin person 20 yrs later, I can see how we woman are STILL f*cked up, re: our weight. I often buy pants in the childrens dept, but that hasn't stopped BF's during fights from calling me " fat". and if my regular clothes ( I'm 40 and have been wearing the same size 0-2 since I was 16) get tight, I feel fat. anyway, if your menstrual periods become irregular or stop altogether, you are too thin and putting your health in danger.
amaysngrace Posted December 9, 2006 Posted December 9, 2006 Your body will usually " tell" you when you are too thin : You stop menstruating. Just reading all these comments and having been a former anorexic who is still a thin person 20 yrs later, I can see how we woman are STILL f*cked up, re: our weight. How's that going Melody? I too suffered w/ ED but now I just have 'disordered eating'. It's hard to raise my kids sometimes because my eating habits are sooo screwed up. You?
melodymatters Posted December 9, 2006 Posted December 9, 2006 well, I eat what I want nowadays, but i HATE the feeling of being " full" so I always stop before then. ( which is why I prob am STILL thin, but not a true ED anymore) also from my anorexia days, I lost all taste for starches, cheese doodles, etc, and am still honestly most "attracted" to lean protiens, veggies and fruit. oh....and beer LOL
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