katarina774 Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 My ex and I broke up over a week ago after a year 1/2 together however the past few months had been really rocky. When we first got together he was planning on moving to another state. I kept this in mind and tried to not get too attached. Later on he told me he wasn't moving bc of me. It was so weird, one night just as we are about to fall asleep he ask me, Do you want to marry me someday, well the next day after I came home from work he called me and told me that he had some good news and some bad news, he had gotten a great job bad news it was out of state, I was so shocked he didn't kiddingly mention me coming with him but I knew he was just kidding. We didn't even have a real goodbye before he moved bc we were fighting over his move. Well we were having a hard time but broke up last week, even when we use to fight he would still call me every night and I have always been use to talking to my ex every night before I went to bed. Today made 8 days since we talked last. I thought I was doing so good and then for some crazy reason I called him this morning. He didn't answer and I didn't leave a message but of course my # popped up in missed calls. argh I was so mad and disappointed in myself. Well approximately 30 minutes later my cell phone started ringing it was him, I just panicked and I didn't answer it, my friend was there but she didn't know I had tried calling him earlier. She was yelling at me to answer it bc she knew i wanted to talk to him. By the time I decided to pick up it was too late. Then immediately it started ringing again. I did answer it. He had actually worked on a laptop for me here while back and told me it needed a new battery, well stupid me started rattling off about how I bought a new battery and it still will not charge, etc. etc. and ask him what else it could be? He ask me if that is why I had called earlier and I said yes. I am such a big idiot, we talked for about 45 minutes and then I told him I needed to get back to work. I didn't ask him any personal questions and I didn't tell him how I really felt, etc. but he did ask me some personal questions and I couldn't lie, I actually did go on a date last night, it just made me miss him even more. However I told him everything was going great. I was upset after I got off the phone bc he didn't mention anything about missing me or anything. So go ahead everyone tell me how stupid and pathetic I am.
All_Cried_Out22 Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 i dont think ur stupid or even pathetic its jus the way things ended between you guys and personally the part with getting married one day i know it had u thinking about jus being happy with him,i know that you're upset but more hurt and i myself is going through a situation but i think its worst in my case cause the guy i was dating for 2 1/2 years proposed to me infront of my mom and broke it off,then he decided to jus work on the relationship and then he decided that its really over and we should just be friends and i've been trying nc and its very hard but i think you should try your best and take this time to think about u and what u really want in ur life
silentalways Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 jebus, that sounded like a great conversation. no past stuff, u both treated each other with honesty and respect, both were excited by the 'call' and its natural for an ex to be curious if the other is dating - all u have to remember is that u are not a couple anymore - so u CAN DATE u know! and the fact u told him that is huge. big brownie trust points fer u - well done. hey, if my ex wasn't dating now after all this time i would think she simply hasn't met someone worthy of her yet. and one more thing, when someone asks a personal question - u don't have to reply because u have yer own life now.
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