cecil brown Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 Disregard all... I was going to ask about dealing with the confusion and hurt, but I realize I just need to leave my ex-GF alone and press on with my life, no matter how much it hurts.
Spinderella Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 Still, it doesnt hurt to talk about these things, and sometimes it helps. Just because we may know the answers, dealing with them alone, isn't always the easiest thing. Wish you good luck.
Author cecil brown Posted December 6, 2006 Author Posted December 6, 2006 Thanks for the encouragement Spinderella. The hardest part is accepting she's gone and not coming back. My head knows she's gone but my heart keeps holding out hope.
notmakingsense Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 Knowing that you need to leave her alone and move on is a huge first step in the right direction. It will be a loooooooong time before your heart follows your head. Only after focusing on yourself and the important things in your life (friends, family, your passions) for a while on your own will you finallly get to the point where your heart is ready to let go also. But it will happen. Just stick with it. We're here to help.
Author cecil brown Posted December 6, 2006 Author Posted December 6, 2006 The hardest thing is that while she was firm in her decision, I still fool myself into thinking she'll change her mind. After the breakup, we had a moment where she was affectionate, said she loved me and that she missed me. She seemed torn about what she was doing. But later she re-iterated the fact that she can't tell me there will ever be another us and she can't give me what I want right now. Very confusing. We have been through alot together and have always made it through. I guess that fools me into thinking she'll be back. Like I said, my head says press on, but little things like her showing of affection make my heart stay with her.
Spinderella Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 Thats why the end of relationships can be so confusing. Just because we no longer see a future, does not mean that all love is gone for the other person. Yes, you are right. All you can do is press on with life. No contact. In time things become easier. There are lots of people in this forum going through similar and it helps sometimes to come and vent here, or gather strength, or words of wisdom.
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