BARBGURL Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 This is a question for the guys!!! When you go out, lets say possibly to a bar, what do you look for in a woman? What do you find attractive? Is it all about the way she looks? Do you get a "vibe" from her? Do some women have an attitude that turns you off or does it not really matter? Is there a behavior that turns you on or off? If a hot blonde is sitting with an average girl, what gets your attention and why?
tanbark813 Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 Well looks are only part of it. She only has to be at least reasonably attractive. Her behavior and dress have a lot to do with it too. Personally, if she's obnoxious and/or stupid, then that's a huge turnoff to me. Or, similarly, if you can tell she's a Daddy's-little-princess type of girl. Attitude definitely plays a part. I like laid-back, down to earth girls. A girl who looks unique stands out a lot to me. That might be facial features, an interesting tattoo, what she's wearing, hairstyle, etc... I'm also big on girls who can sing since I love karaoke.
Spacecowboy79 Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 I think all it takes is a smile in my direction. I guess first of all, there is a "something" that sparks my interest. Her body language, the way she presents herself. When I say present I mean how is she dressed, is she having fun? Is she sitting in a corner people watching?? If that "something" occurs when I look at her, and if she reciprocates with a look back and a smile, then I take advantage and introduce myself.
Green Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 I just usualy hit on every atractive girl in the bar. what makes a girl attractive to me is Number one being in good physical shape, after that a nice face, Being Caucasion, and last but not least I love girls who are atleast 5'9 I like em tall so 5'11 is my favorite hight for a girl.
Pyro Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 Well looks are only part of it. She only has to be at least reasonably attractive. Her behavior and dress have a lot to do with it too. Personally, if she's obnoxious and/or stupid, then that's a huge turnoff to me. Or, similarly, if you can tell she's a Daddy's-little-princess type of girl. Attitude definitely plays a part. I like laid-back, down to earth girls. I second this, and of course she has to have one killer smile and a nice set of eyes, but I suppose that all goes with the attraction. She also has to have some indication that she likes to keep fit and stay active.
Author BARBGURL Posted December 4, 2006 Author Posted December 4, 2006 Thank you for the responses - I hope there will be more as well. I asked because I am wondering if I am, subconsciously, giving off an attitude of unapproachability.( Is that even a word? ) I am told that I have a great body ( I work out like crazy ), a beautiful smile, nice eyes, etc...... Yet I seem to repeatedly attract a**holes! The guys who walk in and think they can call out who they will be leaving with. That's not my style. I want the "good" guy to talk to me. Not just glance and then look away. I think I am very approachable. I'm a nice person. I laugh a lot and have a good time. I'm not a "princess". I was just wondering if maybe looks were not that important. Maybe I'm sending a message that I don't mean to send. I'm just frustrated.
Pyro Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 Thank you for the responses - I hope there will be more as well. I asked because I am wondering if I am, subconsciously, giving off an attitude of unapproachability.( Is that even a word? ) I am told that I have a great body ( I work out like crazy ), a beautiful smile, nice eyes, etc...... Yet I seem to repeatedly attract a**holes! The guys who walk in and think they can call out who they will be leaving with. That's not my style. I want the "good" guy to talk to me. Not just glance and then look away. I think I am very approachable. I'm a nice person. I laugh a lot and have a good time. I'm not a "princess". I was just wondering if maybe looks were not that important. Maybe I'm sending a message that I don't mean to send. I'm just frustrated. If you see a guy that seems nice and you are attracted to, then why not approach them? In my experience, I can be shy sometimes, but all the women that have come up to me first, turned out to be the better of the bunch.
tanbark813 Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 1. Are you quiet? I ask because I'm on the quiet side sometimes and I've inadvertantly given people the impression that I don't want to talk to them when that wasn't the case at all. 2. Have you tried approaching guys instead of just letting them do the approaching?
tdmce Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 I tend to go for girls that look 'approachable', if she looks at me and smiles or is just smiling and having a good time then usually that is a sign that the girl is at least friendly. Looks come into it too, but if I see a really hot girl and she is not smiling then I won't bother approaching her. Also a lot of guys find it harder to approach girls that are in groups, so maybe grab one girlfriend and stand close to some guys that you would like to meet. That way it would be easier for them to chat to you and also notice you. Good luck
Green Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 aproaching girls in groups sucks especialy when there are guys in that group because then its like is that guy with any of these girls? also big groups of girls are anoying to approach but heck I do it any way but still something to think about.
Author BARBGURL Posted December 5, 2006 Author Posted December 5, 2006 1. Are you quiet? I ask because I'm on the quiet side sometimes and I've inadvertantly given people the impression that I don't want to talk to them when that wasn't the case at all. 2. Have you tried approaching guys instead of just letting them do the approaching? Unfortunately, I am very shy. People that know me well don't believe this about me, but it is tue. I've had people tell me that before they got to know me they thought I was a snob or a bitch. I am just being misread. Some of my guy friends have told me that because of my looks and the fact that I am quiet, some men are intimidated or think it would be a waste of their time. That's sad to me. I would never be mean to anybody. I actually had one friend tell me that he'd had a crush on me since high school ( won't say how long ago that was!! ), but was afraid to ask me out. No, I don't generally approach men because, 1) I am shy and 2) I don't want to seem aggressive ( yet - )
tanbark813 Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 Unfortunately, I am very shy. People that know me well don't believe this about me, but it is tue. I've had people tell me that before they got to know me they thought I was a snob or a bitch. I am just being misread. Some of my guy friends have told me that because of my looks and the fact that I am quiet, some men are intimidated or think it would be a waste of their time. That's sad to me. I would never be mean to anybody. I actually had one friend tell me that he'd had a crush on me since high school ( won't say how long ago that was!! ), but was afraid to ask me out. No, I don't generally approach men because, 1) I am shy and 2) I don't want to seem aggressive ( yet - ) Ok, that makes sense. That's also why you get approached mostly by the aholes you described because they don't care if they get shot down. It might be hard but your best bet would probably be to get over your fear of doing the approaching. You don't necessarily have to be aggressive about it but I'm guessing you'll have decent results if you give it a shot.
UCFKevin Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 Looks get my attention. Personality keeps it. But if I'm out and I'm just checking out a girl or am drunk and trying to find someone foolish enough to tango with me, it'll probably just be looks. But personality also comes into play in looks. How she carries herself, how she talks, yadda yadda yadda...
moman Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 The first thing I notice is looks but it's really attitude that clinches the deal. Most of the time I will walk up and speak to a cute girl if there is not a guy sitting right next to her already talking. Once I have a couple drinks I generally forget about whether a guy is already there or not . Your problem is probably that most guys are used to the hot girls being snobs. I was just at a bar and this one attractive girl gave me a nonchalant look when I checked her out. Basically what I recevied was "I'm too good for you", almost to the point where I considered walking over there and telling her that girls like her are a dime a dozen. I seriously picked up a negative vibe from her. You should get a male friend to ask one of his friends to come to the bar and observe you. If you are giving off some kind of bad vibe he might pick up on it. BTW, you sound cute so good luck. Next time I'm at the bar and see a cutie there I'll certainly say "hi" because she may think just like you.
Crazy Cutie Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 Chances are girlie girl you could just be too cute and intimidating these poor men. You may appear way out of their league or assume you have a line of potential men that you are already considering. You could be awesome and they are just really REALLY scared... it happens
HeadlessZebra Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 Master the art of the smile-and-tiny-wave. It lets them know you're open and friendly without being too forward. Works like a charm, I swear. Zebra-tested, Zebra-approved. Just do it quickly and look away. Like you, I'm an attractive girl and apparently intimidate the good guys unless I do something to show that I'm not going to kick them in the shin if they approach. And I also am way too shy to ever just walk up to a guy and start talking. So we find a way around the dilemma, don't we. :-)
Author BARBGURL Posted December 5, 2006 Author Posted December 5, 2006 I'm not going to kick them in the shin if they approach. LOL:lmao: :lmao:
alphamale Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 Unfortunately, I am very shy. People that know me well don't believe this about me, but it is tue. I've had people tell me that before they got to know me they thought I was a snob or a bitch. I am just being misread. all good looking women say this exact same thing. I've heard it a million times. Now I just laugh
HeadlessZebra Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 all good looking women say this exact same thing. I've heard it a million times. Now I just laugh What do you mean? Do you mean we're lying and we really are kind of snobby? Or that we are usually saying the truth and guys are dumb for still thinking we're all stuck up?
alphamale Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 What do you mean? Do you mean we're lying and we really are kind of snobby? Or that we are usually saying the truth and guys are dumb for still thinking we're all stuck up? that you guys are snobby. women know exactly what is going on around them at all times. they are 10x smarter and more perceptive than men are with these issues.
tanbark813 Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 To clear things up, guys aren't "intimidated" by women. Big Foot is intimidating. A 6'8", 350 lb biker with a shaved head and white power tattoos is initimidating. A woman is not. It has more to do with what moman was talking about with regard to attitude but in this case it's perceived attitude. Guys are generally the pursuers. Sometimes a guy approaches a girl in the bar and she's very friendly. Sometimes she's a snobby bitch. After many, many approaches--both failed and otherwise--the guy starts to focus on the ones who seem approachable and avoid the ones who seem unapproachable. It's just common sense. So if you're a woman and are not being approached, it's most likely that you put out an unapproachable vibe whether you mean to or not. As other posters have already touched upon: a smile goes a long way.
alphamale Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 So if you're a woman and are not being approached, it's most likely that you put out an unapproachable vibe whether you mean to or not. Yeah so get rid of the frown and the blouse that says "All men suck!" As other posters have already touched upon: a smile goes a long way. very very few women smile at any stranger, especially at a bar. unless he looks like christian bale.
tanbark813 Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 Yeah so get rid of the frown and the blouse that says "All men suck!" Exactly. Just recently I was hanging out at the bars with this girl I was dating. It was her birthday so there was a group there. At one point a bunch of the girls started man-bashing like crazy. But at the same time they were also complaining about how they can't find any decent guys. Gee, I wonder why??? very very few women smile at any stranger, especially at a bar. unless he looks like christian bale. Not true. As soon as I get done singing the ladies are all smiles.
DanielMadr Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 This is a question for the guys!!! When you go out, lets say possibly to a bar, what do you look for in a woman? What do you find attractive? Is it all about the way she looks? Do you get a "vibe" from her? Do some women have an attitude that turns you off or does it not really matter? Is there a behavior that turns you on or off? If a hot blonde is sitting with an average girl, what gets your attention and why? Looks mix with attitude. When positive attitude (positive, honest smile, laid back, cool) radiates FINE. When negative attitude (negativity, arrogance, aggresive insecurity, aloofness etc.) radiates it is called bitch shield. Girls that are really the best ones are confident and playfull...and good looking. They dont try to be confident, they just are. Some try too hard to appear confident and they come of as angry bitches. Stop seeking approval. Stop guessing if you are hot or not (at least not so much). Be comfortable in your skin. When you see yourself through eyes of strange people, you become insecure emotional wreck. Dont become Attention Addict (wh0re)
DanielMadr Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 Master the art of the smile-and-tiny-wave. It lets them know you're open and friendly without being too forward. Works like a charm, I swear. Zebra-tested, Zebra-approved. Just do it quickly and look away. Like you, I'm an attractive girl and apparently intimidate the good guys unless I do something to show that I'm not going to kick them in the shin if they approach. And I also am way too shy to ever just walk up to a guy and start talking. So we find a way around the dilemma, don't we. :-) Im not saying you are not attractive.....the zebra picture is yummy. But Id like to say, that big turn off for me is, when I walk up to a girl (sometimes for innocent reasons) and she gives me the look 'OH, I know you want me, silly boy'. It is bad. But worse is, when not so good looking girl is imitating this behaviour 'Im so hot, everyone wants me', 'Im too good for most of guys'.....I mean they cant fool us....we have eyes....and they do their situation worse. They repel 90% of guys....becausethey dont look so goood and they have horrible attitude.
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