Star Gazer Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 or is "out of sight, out of mind" more like it? In your experience, when a couple who's totally into one another and excited about exploring the relationship finds themselves forced to spend time apart for a week or two - due to vacations, business trips, things of that sort - and with very little, if any contact, does that time apart generally bring them closer, keep them the same, or pull them apart? And when on vacation, should you even bother calling the person you're dating just to say hello (just one time), or does calling while you're on a vacation, supposed to be having a wonderful time, etc., make you look weird?
alphamale Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 In your experience, when a couple who's totally into one another and excited about exploring the relationship finds themselves forced to spend time apart for a week or two - due to vacations, business trips, things of that sort - and with very little, if any contact, does that time apart generally bring them closer, keep them the same, or pull them apart? it depends....its actually a good test of the relationship and what its made of... And when on vacation, should you even bother calling the person you're dating just to say hello (just one time), or does calling while you're on a vacation, supposed to be having a wonderful time, etc., make you look weird? once again it depends on many things....how long you've been dating, the state of the relationship, etc... If I've been dating someone for a month or two I probably wouldn't call them if I went out of town. If it got more seriuos after a few more months then I would call them.
Author Star Gazer Posted December 4, 2006 Author Posted December 4, 2006 it depends....its actually a good test of the relationship and what its made of... How is it a test though?
Pyro Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 How is it a test though? A test to see if the time apart will push you two closer or push you two apart.
Pyro Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 or is "out of sight, out of mind" more like it? In your experience, when a couple who's totally into one another and excited about exploring the relationship finds themselves forced to spend time apart for a week or two - due to vacations, business trips, things of that sort - and with very little, if any contact, does that time apart generally bring them closer, keep them the same, or pull them apart? And when on vacation, should you even bother calling the person you're dating just to say hello (just one time), or does calling while you're on a vacation, supposed to be having a wonderful time, etc., make you look weird? I think that it depends just how much time apart there is. If its in excess, I wouldn't stay involved with the person because you would hardly ever see them, but that is just me. I don't see anything weird with calling the person while away. It shows that you are thinking about them when you are away.
jenniferlm Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 well maybe distance makes the heart grow fonder..but it also makes it forget...
alphamale Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 well maybe distance makes the heart grow fonder..but it also makes it forget... well JENNIFERLM....it depends what going on in the "distance". For example if I'm off in the "distance" 800 miles away from some women I just started dating a month ago and some hot blonde with a smokin' bod shows up at the hotel bar and she's giving me the eyeball....
Mary3 Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 well JENNIFERLM....it depends what going on in the "distance". For example if I'm off in the "distance" 800 miles away from some women I just started dating a month ago and some hot blonde with a smokin' bod shows up at the hotel bar and she's giving me the eyeball.... Why can't she be a hot asian girl ?
Walk Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 SG: A few years ago I started dating my bf and two months later he left for a 3 week training program for his job. We kept the lines of communication open, called and talked when either of us needed to. Didn't worry about whether it was going to look "needy" because neither of us are needy people. What's your normal m.o. now? Do you two only talk once a week now, or do you call each other every night? I'd use that as the guildline for what would be acceptable. Have a little faith in life. Keep the lines of communication open with him, be true to who you are, and stay positive. If after two weeks away, one or both of you finds that the relationship isn't working, then you've found out early and saved both of you time. But keep a positive outlook on this, and things will turn out well.
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