addicted2love Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 After 3 weeks I broke NC....I've composed several emails over the last 3 weeks but never sent any of them. This time I couldn't help myself. Every time I'm alone and not busy I start thinking about things I want to say to my exMM and then I type it all out. I wake up in the middle of the night wanting to talk to him but instead of calling I compose stupid emails that I don't send. I refuse to call him...at least I've got that going for me. Has anyone else been through this? Broken NC? What were the results? Good..bad? I'm just curioius. Does the desire to talk to someone you love ever go away? Does the curiousity of how they're doing ever end? I don't expect a response from him...the email didn't really ask any questions just told him the things I'm going to miss about him and that I hope he is happy. I didn't really even tell him how I was feeling...just that I would always love him. No "you hurt me bad" crap. Even though I wanted to tell him that. Am I nuts? A2L aka slave2love
bonehead Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 Setting up a different email account for yourself and just sending them to yourself? I found that it does help. I do that quite often, then after a while I will reread it and decide if I really want to send it. In your situation it might be a good way to fill the need without sending it to him.
oyster Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 I am guilty. I am the OM, she wanted to break up. 4 Days later she wanted to meet again
UCFKevin Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 If it deems necessary to be broken, I break it. Screw the rules. No one knows what's best for you but you. If you want to talk to someone, talk to them. You might feel weak or stupid or pained afterwards, but in time, retrospect will be everything. Hindsight is 20/20 and it's better to have talked about something you wanted to talk about instead of keeping it in and always having it on your conscience. And sometimes its best to just let things be. Sometimes there's nothing that can or should be said. You'll know when those times are. You'll know when you should say something important and when you shouldn't. Doubts about no contact mean you want to break the no contact. If you feel you should do it, then do it. Don't let anyone here tell you otherwise.
Marielle Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 You are really strong... I m embarrased to say I m one of those trying to NC-every week- specially on sundays (dunno why) But as the day continues and he calls me non stop, I start to become weak....by the afternoon after his calls stop, I start to be fed up of crying , not eating, I feel like dying!!! So basically I can t do it! At least not now, will do it when I m stronger. But if you think you can keep your posture, yes, it will pass...just keep busy
Author addicted2love Posted December 5, 2006 Author Posted December 5, 2006 Kevin, I totally agree. Would you mind reading the post "True love or bs" (that's me) and let me know if you have any insight? I'm at a total loss. I have so many unanswered questions and I need to have a conversation with my ex so badly...I've known my ex for 17 years and I just can't understand how he can go from "I'll never let you go" or "I can't quit you" to avoiding me without a single word...no explaination...nada...it's seriously driving me CRAZY. If you have a chance to read that post I would really be grateful! I really need a male point of view. Thanks A2L aka Slave2Love
Author addicted2love Posted December 5, 2006 Author Posted December 5, 2006 Marielle, I'd be weak too if my ex would contact me. I can't get him to respond to anything...that's the problem. I want/need to talk to mine....even if it's goodbye. Last thing he told me was that he wasn't done with me/us. That was three weeks ago and I haven't heard from him since! No email...nada...(long story) read the post "true love or bs" Good luck...time was the only thing that has ever helped me get over my ex before....never really got completely over him. But time made it hurt less. A2L
UCFKevin Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 Where is that post? All I can say is that when you truly believe you have nothing to say to him anymore, that's when it's over and you'll be able to move on. If you have nothing to say as a result of saying everything you have to say or need to, then fine. If it's nothing as a result of you realizing someone who could do something like that to you is not worth your time nor your emotions, then fine. Either outcome results in you moving on, so whatever you like more, do it.
Author addicted2love Posted December 5, 2006 Author Posted December 5, 2006 That post is on the OM/OW...probably on page 2 by now. Thanks again
Marielle Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 a2love, I understand completely, I would feel the same way... But in this case (I now remember your situation) I would not contact him. But I can tell you nothing is black or white...I don t think he just used you, I think there was a lot more, but who knows what i going on at home. Still he owes you an expLANATION. Give him time... Continuing NC would be your best bet.
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