caring guy Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 Hi I go on this dating site & recently i got mailed by a girl. We chatted a lot & met for coffee, it all went well. She says she has had bad meets with guys off the site who just want to get her in bed! She's very stressed & anxious at the moment. She's Croatian & is worried about a visa problem as she wants to stay & work here. Apparently she's relying on someone she don't trust. I like her a lot. We've met 2-3 times, been running together & she says she will be ok when this issue is sorted, it's just on her mind. I'm showing i'm there for her & she says i'm great & can't understand why i'm single, she did this horoscope test, a European thing i think,as she wanted my birthdate & time etc! So, I want the relationship to progress, we are meting in week for coffee, she's had bad experiences off the website as i said & i'm showing i'm not like that, but on the other hand,i don't want to be seen as a 'friend'. Time i think will sort it, as she says, she will lighten up after. She will remain here whatever, as she has family here, just she wants it to be legitimate! Any advice, should i just carry on & see what happens. She's told me that she sees me as not like the others she's met! Good things come to those who wait i guess! cg
CaliGuy Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 Smells a little fishy to me, like she's trying to meet someone and get married just to stay where she is at. IMHO, this is not a good situation for you. I would really take it nice and slow and pay attention to the red flags.
Author caring guy Posted December 4, 2006 Author Posted December 4, 2006 I thought about this, she says she isn't into a relationship at the moment, but she contacted me via a dating site & wants to see me again! She says she can stay anyway as a visitor, as she has family here & they have been here nearly 40 years. I'd definately. I am taking it slow, i am attracted to her both physically & we have things in common. I haven't seen any red flags of yet, but i will notice them if they appear! cg
CaliGuy Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 I thought about this, she says she isn't into a relationship at the moment, but she contacted me via a dating site & wants to see me again! She says she can stay anyway as a visitor, as she has family here & they have been here nearly 40 years. I'd definately. I am taking it slow, i am attracted to her both physically & we have things in common. I haven't seen any red flags of yet, but i will notice them if they appear! cg Well as long as you are aware that it's a possibility and you are keeping that in the back of your mind as the relationship progresses, that's a good thing. Just remember to watch for a HEED any red flags. You don't need to go out of your way to impress her or do anything special. Just be YOU. If she likes you for who you are, great. If not, and she has ulterior motives, the red flags will appear and you can heed them and bolt before you get in too deep. Best of luck!
Author caring guy Posted December 4, 2006 Author Posted December 4, 2006 Yeh cheers, thats what i'm gonna do. I am into her, i am a cg as my username says & i'm there for her, but i'm not gonna be used! I know the red flag situation. I know she's pretty lonely here & only sees her workmates (3) & is rundown & stressed. I'm looking for a relationship & ok, if she wants that affection & is lonely, i'm up for it, i been there before! Being cg means i've offered to take her out or cook for her as she's not been eating properly & i have this caring nature, but nothing too extravagant! Cheers cg
2sunny Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 welcome back CaliGuy! hope your holiday season is good to you!
jenniferlm Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 Smells a little fishy to me, like she's trying to meet someone and get married just to stay where she is at. IMHO, this is not a good situation for you. I would really take it nice and slow and pay attention to the red flags. I agree. Ew. I would run away screaming from this one. There are plenty of girls in the world who won't dump their problems on you and complain about things in the first months of a relationship
Green Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 yeah shes complaining about other guys way to fast, watch out for her.
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