Pyro Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 I have learned that just about anyone is capable of cheating. I also learned that it is not a good idea to depend on having a relationship and have your whole world revolve around that one person because with a snap of a finger, that relationship could be over. Basically, I learned not to rely on someone else to help me get through the day. That job is primarily up to me.
norajane Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 Ooo! I like that question. For me, I had hoped, but LS confirmed it for me, that men can still love and want (in all ways) their SO even if they look at porn and/or check other women out. I had no idea how many women felt that porn threatened relationships; that so many women worry that men who look at porn don't love and want their SO's.... I was also shocked to learn how many women feel insulted or angry or disgusted that their SO's masturbate.
hotgurl Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 I had no idea how many women felt that porn threatened relationships; that so many women worry that men who look at porn don't love and want their SO's.... I was also shocked to learn how many women feel insulted or angry or disgusted that their SO's masturbate. ditto on that one. I was also shocked to learn how many men put up with sexless relationship. And how long they put up with it amazes me. Also the fact the a lot of women just don't get how important sex is to men. It buggles the mind.
ilmw Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 Me, too. I had no idea that men were so deep with their feelings. I seriously thought that they never talked about how they felt. It was an eye-opener. Well... i think the guys who cannot or will not express there feelings would probably not be on LS in the first place.. ... ... Have to admit though that... I have learned a lot about what woman worry about... and how they see things... (from reading so many ladies points of view) rather refreshing.... Good thread... makes yah think..eh??
dgiirl Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 I have learned that just about anyone is capable of cheating. I also learned that it is not a good idea to depend on having a relationship and have your whole world revolve around that one person because with a snap of a finger, that relationship could be over. Basically, I learned not to rely on someone else to help me get through the day. That job is primarily up to me. I've learned this too. And that I'm 100% responsible for my own happiness. I also learned that a lot of men have the same insecurities, arrogance and character traits/flaws as women. That the stereotypical traits of one gender can equally apply to the opposite gender. And most importantly, that a lot of men do NOT think like my ex. Which gives me hope of finding the right person for me in the future.
SmoochieFace Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 LS has taught me to be extremely grateful for the relationship I have with my GF. Reading the threads here makes me realise just how fortunate I am in that aspect of life.
Author luvtoto Posted December 4, 2006 Author Posted December 4, 2006 And most importantly, that a lot of men do NOT think like my ex. Which gives me hope of finding the right person for me in the future. Yea...what she said!
alphamale Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 What is one thing about the opposite sex that you had no idea about until you became a member of Loveshack? well I alway THOUGHT women were full of krap....now after LS i KNOW they are full of krap
blind_otter Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 In sum, I see an awful lot of people who cause themselves misery because they insist on believing things that have no factual basis and that are simply not true or real. (And no, this has nothing to do with religion or faith). Well for the most part we all cause our own misery. Nothing outside of you causes issues, just your reaction to them. A lot of people have faulty cognitions about their feelings states. It's an epidemic, IMO, and part of the process of being human and growing, learning, and changing. It's fallacious to assume that adulthood confers mystical abilities to understand yourself. Quite to the contrary, adulthood makes it just more confusing with more serious repurcissions for **** ups.
Green Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 When I first came to LS I was a virgin 22 year old posting about how for once in my life I was going to start trying. Go on dates with girls, get laid and all that Jazz. A few weeks later I had acomplished all the stuff I had set out to od. Girls said I couldnt just go from virgin to stud in such a short amount of time yet I did. How did I do it I read between the lines. Girls on this site often are full of crap but it was easy to spot and even easier to learn from. Now I'm 22 and kicking ass keep them lessons a comming.
bab Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 I learned that there are actually men out there that actually hate the majority of women. This I'm still having trouble accepting. I learned that many men would rather play games so that they can get laid rather than be themselves and find someone that complements their true personality. About both sexes, I see so many people are constantly paranoid about infidelity, and don't seem to see anything wrong with constantly trying to find out if their SO is being faithful. And porn seems to be a way bigger issue for women than I ever though possible. Hmmm....all these are negatives. I wonder what that says about me?
Green Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 Hmmm....all these are negatives. I wonder what that says about me? that you see the glass as half empty
bab Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 that you see the glass as half empty Maybe, but on the other hand, all these things suprised me, so maybe I expected all the good that I see/hear on LS, therefore they don't fall into the "what I've learned" category, and hence I'm actually an optimist?
Green Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 Maybe, but on the other hand, all these things suprised me, so maybe I expected all the good that I see/hear on LS, therefore they don't fall into the "what I've learned" category, and hence I'm actually an optimist? Good point, but back to your original post I dont know any male posters on here who hate women. I for one love women, and Alpha male just enjoys being bluntly honest about the way he feels but I know he loves women too.
laRubiaBonita Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 i have learned different ways people interpret the same thing, and it amazes me!
alphamale Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 I for one love women, and Alpha male just enjoys being bluntly honest about the way he feels but I know he loves women too. I love women so much I want to figure out how they operate...although I probably never will
bab Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 I for one love women, and Alpha male just enjoys being bluntly honest about the way he feels but I know he loves women too. I wasn't refering to either of you in my OP. Alpha generally amuses me to no end about his opinions on women, and I generally roll my eyes, but it's always done with a smile! :bunny:
Pyro Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 I love women so much I want to figure out how they operate...although I probably never will For starters, don't think so negatively about them.
Green Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 For starters, don't think so negatively about them. cmon he doesnt he calls them on stuff that happens but some women choose to pertend like what are you talking about a girl who likes guys who treat them bad, What are you talking about a girl who likes a guy who money is no object for, wha wha what are you talking about a girl who tries to control a guy
Pyro Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 cmon he doesnt he calls them on stuff that happens but some women choose to pertend like what are you talking about a girl who likes guys who treat them bad, What are you talking about a girl who likes a guy who money is no object for, wha wha what are you talking about a girl who tries to control a guy No offense, but it is really difficult to understand what you wrote. If you have read enough of his past posts, you will see just how negative he is. He even claims that when I get married, eventually my wife will screw me out of my money and all these other rotten things, just because he had a bad experience with marriage. He generalizes and assumes way too much about them. He has met some women who have lied to him, therefore ALL women are liars, and so forth. But I suppose I just fed his ego by even posting all of this.
Yamaha Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 I've learned that MM must be the best lovers in the world ( according to many LS women ).
BareGoddess Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 I've learned that MM must be the best lovers in the world ( according to many LS women ). Yes, and I've learned that most are the BEST fathers too. Who knew?
Tony T Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 Great thread... I never had any idea that so many people cheated...and how they took those sorts of relationships so seriously....when most of the time one is using the other. It's really pitiful how many people will fight to the end to defend their involvement with a married person...and how they force themselves to believe there's actually a happy ending. People work hard to fool themselves where love is concerned. Oh, well...life is like a box of chocolates.....
Tony T Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 I love women so much I want to figure out how they operate...although I probably never will Don't pull our legs...you HAD to know the latter long before you found LS!
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