burning 4 revenge Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 Stop hanging out with him and believe me you'll become infatuated with someone else. It may take a little while, but it will happen. Those feelings...those butterflies....they're inside of you. He doesn't project them onto you, they are internal and it is what's in your mind that stimulates them. As a wiser voice than myself on this board has stated before, it's simply boring not having a crush. And when the object of affection disapears from your life, most likely you'll replace it (and I use a word like it purposefully) to stimulate those same feelings.
Author Antheia Posted December 4, 2006 Author Posted December 4, 2006 Thanks Burning, note: I have edited my original post as I was too scared that someone who knows me will see it and put two and two together.
magichands Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 Thanks Burning, note: I have edited my original post as I was too scared that someone who knows me will see it and put two and two together. I read it before you crossed it out. I'm sorry that I can't exactly relate to your "friend's" deleted story, but someone said to me that I have always had my ex on a pedestal. I think that people who are perfect probably reside on pedestals, so I don't see that I have a problem... BUT, to get to my question... Is this person "unavoidably" in your "friend's" life?
magichands Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 As a wiser voice than myself on this board has stated before, What a brown-nose! Haha. Maybe I'm just jealous that I don't have an oracular presence.
burning 4 revenge Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 What a brown-nose! Haha. Maybe I'm just jealous that I don't have an oracular presence.No, you're first instinct is right (although I prefer the phrase suck up... brownose just has connotations)
Author Antheia Posted December 4, 2006 Author Posted December 4, 2006 Is this person "unavoidably" in your "friend's" life? Yes, unfortunately, "friend" has to see him on daily basis, so it's not a simple choice to hang out with him or not. "Friend" will have somehow to learn to deal with the crush and the daily presence of object of their affection that they can never have. The question is how to do it with minimal hurt.
magichands Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 No, you're first instinct is right (although I prefer the phrase suck up... brownose just has connotations) How about sycophant? I think you need to experiment more. You only live twice.
Author Antheia Posted December 4, 2006 Author Posted December 4, 2006 BTW brownnose made me feel too. Just the mental image of it UGH.
magichands Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 has to see him on daily basis, Tough one. I think you're basically screwed. I have learned to quite enjoy being a tortured soul, though.
magichands Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 BTW brownnose made me feel too. Just the mental image of it UGH. Maybe you can use this to your advantage.
Author Antheia Posted December 4, 2006 Author Posted December 4, 2006 Tough one. I think you're basically screwed. I have learned to quite enjoy being a tortured soul, though. Same here, to some extent. I actually feel that melanchony is strangely comforting. I'm not very comfortable with being happy.
magichands Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 Same here, to some extent. I actually feel that melanchony is strangely comforting. I'm not very comfortable with being happy. Has it occurred to you? You know, that "perfect dude" is the unattainable goal - manufactured by your mind to stay miserable? No one can measure up to him, so what's the point of "settling" for second best? Actually, I'm way off-base there. I bet he has really cute buns.
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