Guest Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 she broke up with me saying that she wanted to be alone and experience life more like party all the time and stuff. me and her never really partied alot she liked to go to the movies and stuff and just hangin out together, l but now she wants to change i guess. We had been goin out for 3 years including 2 in high school where we spent almost everyminute together and because of that i didnt really have a lot of friends outside of her. we were great together spendin almost every minute with each other and now that she made this best friend at her new work she breaks up with me and says we need space, now im screwed because i did everything with her and the friends i had went away to college while i commute to a local one. Im goin to try nc with her but we were so close, best friends we would tell each other everything, i dunno since we were so close do u think that if she takes this time apart she will come back. i no she still loves me but she says she doesnt want to settle down right now. how long do u think before she could change her mind, cause i wanna marry this girl. After 3 years of spending everyday talkin and being with each other one day she just changes her mind. Now i feel so lonelyand non important because i have no friends to hang out with i did everythin with her, she was my best friend.is she just confused cause shes at the young age? will she come back? thanks for any help. also we are about the same age and i have no desire to take this time to expericene life, i love her, im so depressed and im guess im just babbling now but this is tough(both each other first loves+sexual experiences)
notmakingsense Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 Hey -- we've all been where you are at. You'll get through it, but it is going to be tough at first. First of all, DO NOT contact her. She is never going to come back to you unless you give her a chance to miss you. She won't miss you if you are still talking to her. Be sure she is always the one to initiate contact with you first. Second of all, get a life without her. Make friends and date casually if you can. This is the only thing that will truly build up your self-esteem. Besides, you won't be attractive to anybody if you don't have friends & activities outside of your relationship to them. Make sure you have your own life and interests outside of any woman you are with. This is important! Once you get a life, friends, activities, and obtain a happy feeling without having a GF, well guess what? Thats when GFs all of a sudden start materializing. There is nothing more attractive to a woman than a happy, independant, confident man with his own life and ambitions. Trust me. I know this totally sucks for you right now. But learn from all of us here on LS. Don't call her. Post here when you are feeling down and talk to anybody you can about it except her!
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