redcars Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 I know that sounds crazy, but how do you break up with someone that you love but you just know its not going work? and here is why i feel like that is the only solution. I have been dating someone for about 2 years but we cant move on with our lives because his ex wife is still bitter about their separation and blames me for this and has told thier children that I am the reason that he will never come back to them and now the kids want nothing to do with me. So now he juggles his weekends around me and my kids and then back to his kids. Its a sad sad senario that has been draining me all this time. So I think the best thing to do is let him go, I cant take the pain anymore he wont move in with us because his children wont come here so I have to ask myself what sort of a future do we have? I have told myself well this means the ex wins but then its not a game so what can I do. Im miserable. I have broken up with him in the past because of the situation but he messages me and calls just being nice and seeing if im ok and the end result is we always end up back in the same senario, he will drop in to see if im doing ok (which im always not) and he ends up staying. I have moved away from my family and have hardly made any friends here so my support is limited. How do I move on or fix it??
Spinderella Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 Maybe you should try looking at the whole situation differently. I dont know, but what is the alternative. Do you think you could easily find another decent guy, or would you be raising your kids with no support? This guy sounds decent, and it is just the situation, but, in time the situation will resolve itself, because these things usually do. Just an alternative perspective.
amaysngrace Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 I have told myself well this means the ex wins but then its not a game so what can I do. Im miserable. It very well may be a game to her. She's manipulating the situation. And it is working to her benefit. She has you all right where she wants you. I would ask your BF if he'd be willing to try to blend your families together. They wouldn't need to come to the house just yet, but maybe you and your kids could meet up with them somewhere when he has the kids. Then you would be pleasant and they could judge for themselves just how evil you are. I think it's very wrong of her, the exW, to use the children as pawn. Heck, her kids may like your attitude better than her's, who knows?
sarah05 Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 I agree with amaysgrace. Maybe his kids and yours can have like a get together with each other and grow a bond with them. As for the exW I would just let her be. If you strongly believe that the relationship will work, give it all your heart and hope your bf will do he same. Don't give his exW all the power to control your life. just my 2 cents.
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