sarah05 Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 Here we go: Okay I am 19 as I have stated in other forums and a sophomore in college. I have been dating my boyfriend for one year and 3 months. And this whole fiasco started 2 weeks ago. My boyfriend is into dragracing. His family owns a local track and he is surrounded by it. His car had been broken down for at least a year and was working on it when he had time. Well he finally finished it 2 weeks ago. He wanted to cruise it around town and I was ok with it. We went to this shop so he could show it off and well he said he would only be a minute and left me in the car. Ended up that he was gone for 45 minutes. I was so pissed because the guys he was talking to were friends of his and I had never met them before. That was kinda shady. So I bail out and say that my tummy hurts and to take me home. So he does and I wanted him to be considerate and stay because I was sick. But that didn't work out. He ended up leaving ad hung out with his friends all night. He said that he would come over to my apartment when he was done. (we dont' live together) He didn't come home until I called him and told him he needed to get his things. (clothes, pictures, gifts and a promise ring) He ran over here and was clueless. I told him that I don't like being placed on the backburner. He used to put me first. He told me I was his world. But he left without his stuff and said he needed to think. He comes back the next day and says that he wants a break. I'm upset and agree. What was supposed to be our break lated 2 days. We both crawled back and asked for forgiveness. We promised we would never do that again. We agreed that we would spent 1-2 days with our friends a week and the rest of the time with each other.(We only see each other at least 2 hours a day) Yesturday, he spent all day with is friends while I was at work. I wanted to come home and spend time with him. One of my friend's was going to go to her cousin's sweet 15 and I mentioned to him I was thinking of going. I never said I was going to definetly go. Well he made plans to go out and drink with is friends. It kinda hurt but I was going to get over it. I went to the sweet 15 and didn't really have fun because in the back of my mind I am wondering what he is doing. So I left and was going to catch up with another friend but decided to stay home and catch up on some things. I callled him to tell him I was going home and He said that he will be over in a little while. I have no clue what a little while would be but I left it alone. 2 hours later still no phone call and he didn't show up. I was upset. So I call him and he said not to wait up. Well what is a girl to think when thier significant other says not to wait up. It means he's up to no good. He show up 2 hours later and expects me to react normally. Like nothing ever happened. I am hispanic. We hispanic women don't forget anything anyone ever did to us. I just told him to leave and he did. We talk today actually just got done talking to him and he's expecting us to have another break anf he said it might not be mended until after Christmas. What am I supposed to do? He is supposed to give secret santa gifts for two of my family members on both my mom's and dad's side of the family. We already told my parent's and grandma that he will be over for Christmas Eve. Now he's talking about us just making up a story as to why either of us can't be there. I'm sorry but my family is not stupid and won't let him back into the family if he treats them like this. (agian we're hispanic) The funny thing is, is that we are in complelely differet points in out lives. He was the one that wanted to get married early on in our relationship and I told him that we were to young and needed to enjoy our lives. Now he wants space and to enjoy his life and I want to settle down. I am just confused. That is were the title of this post comes in. He told me that "If it's meant to be, it's meant to be." I don't want to have this break or break up and have 50 years between us until we can finally be together! He still wants us to talk on the phone but only once a day, He tells me his loves me also. What is up with all these emotions? Are all relationships this way? (Oh by the way, we are each other's first loves.) Please help!
LakesideDream Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 I can't understand what you are complaining about. You said that you told him that you were to young for a committed relationship, and wanted to: "be young, and wanted to enjoy your lives".... obviously he took it to heart. Sounds like he's behaving like a typical immature male. Don't complain, you didn't just give him permission, you suggested it. BTW, keeping a book of "perceived wrongs" is not a Hispanic thing, it is common to woman of every heritage. I would suggest you only write in yours using dissappearing ink. Keeping that kind of baggage will doom all your future relationships.
Author sarah05 Posted December 4, 2006 Author Posted December 4, 2006 He wanted to marry when we were dating for about 5 months. That kinda threw me off guard and my response was for us to enjoy out lives and be young. I want the commitment now. I want to settle down. But I don't want to wait forever just because he has things, like getting drunk with his friends, to do. I'm hoping I we can get through this so there won't be future relationships. Could jsut be my young naive thinking.
Trialbyfire Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 You're 19. Just relax. You should be out dating a million guys and having the time of your life. Don't let one immature boy ruin it for you.
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