2nd Chance meeting....where to meet?

[MeeDee23]

I'm about to meet up with my girlfriend/ex who said she needed space, but sounded like it was a breakup. Anyway, I think she really wants to talk about it and find out one way or another where we stand or tell me where she stands.

 

I want to be the strong confident person, so I want to tell her we should meet somewhere for this. Any ideas of the best place to go? I was thinking a coffee house and maybe take a walk after....but it might be too cold. What about a diner?

 

I can't make this a date and make her uncomfortable, but I want to make this a good situation so we can work things out.

 

Suggestions?

[jerbear]

what are your feelings to her? Want her back?

 

The dinner is a little to much, coffee is more simple. Forget the walk, keep it for another day.

[MeeDee23]

This idea might be really bold but I want to shoot it out there for feedback. One thing we neglected in our relationship is the passion....that flame that drives you crazy for the other person.

 

I was thinking about being assertive and telling her I will show up at her house and we can have that talk she wants to have. I feel like when we meet up she is going to explain her points, and I will be the best listener I can. But when I express to her how much stronger and confident I feel (trust me I do), I feel like things could really get emotional. Almost as if I would end up grabbing her hand, looking her in the eye and really showing her passionate I feel for her. This could lead to other things of course.....by way of emotional takeover.

 

This is just another way of thinking about displaying to her how much more in control and assertive I have become (which was my weakness before). I want to show her how much of a man I can be. I feel like taking her for coffee or on a "date" just goes back into the same old whimp mode that I was in before. Is this totally outlandish or is it something you all might support?