Nomad Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 Say you're in a bar or whatever, and you approach a girl. You flirt with her, try to kick some game, and she rejects you, nicely or not nicely. How to make a retreat with some dignity without just slinking away with your tail between your legs? This is something I've had a bit of a problem with.
shawn_68 Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 Your dignity can remain in tact by showing that you are not bothered with her rejection. "It was nice meeting you, Linda, take care." You then walk off into the sunset. Holding your head up high. Why? Because it's her loss.
Green Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 well this weekend I had some not so nice rejections and its especialy important to act like you dont even care when they reject you in a bitchy way. I walked up to a group of girls with my friend Friday said "Hi" and the girl turned to me and practicaly yelled "Couldnt you tell were not interested" I just smiled and walked away. I used to insult the girl but i like to think Ive grown up a bit.
Kamille Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 yup. smile and walk away. Say "nice to meet you" if appropriate. Their loss. ooh, side tip: when approaching women in bars, walk up to them and chat them up, chat for 2-4 minutes (no more), then leave. Later in the evening, come back and then ask for a dance/number/sex, whichever it is you are looking for. It protects you from looking desperate and boosts your 'intrigue' ratio.
gfto Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 If it's a rude/not-so-nice rejection, you can just smile and say, "hey, you don't have to be picky; I wasn't." Then, walk away.
someone2 Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 If it's a rude/not-so-nice rejection, you can just smile and say, "hey, you don't have to be picky; I wasn't." Then, walk away. LOL :D :D
Author Nomad Posted December 4, 2006 Author Posted December 4, 2006 well this weekend I had some not so nice rejections and its especialy important to act like you dont even care when they reject you in a bitchy way. I walked up to a group of girls with my friend Friday said "Hi" and the girl turned to me and practicaly yelled "Couldnt you tell were not interested" I just smiled and walked away. I used to insult the girl but i like to think Ive grown up a bit. Wow, that's really harsh. I don't think I would have been able to suppress saying something nasty to the girl in that case.
Guest Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 yup. smile and walk away. Say "nice to meet you" if appropriate. Their loss. ooh, side tip: when approaching women in bars, walk up to them and chat them up, chat for 2-4 minutes (no more), then leave. Later in the evening, come back and then ask for a dance/number/sex, whichever it is you are looking for. It protects you from looking desperate and boosts your 'intrigue' ratio. I'm definitely interested in this, but had a few questions. How does one know whether it is actually solely their loss and not also one's own? Is it normally the case that people spend extended periods of time in one given evening in the same bar, and do not instead go "club-hopping"? You mentioned "later in the evening". How much time should pass between one's initial approach and returning? Also, given your advice, what are some high-percentage, classy ways of directly approaching a woman and asking her on the spot for sex? Thanks in advance.
Green Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 I dont think there is a classy way of asking a woman for sex when you dont know her except from a bar that night. your better off acting like you just want her to come back to your place so you can hang out and talk. then when your hanging out at ur place put the moves on her and hope to god she doesnt stop.
Kamille Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 I'm definitely interested in this, but had a few questions. How does one know whether it is actually solely their loss and not also one's own? In these encounters you ususally have two-three minutes to make an impression. I have turned guys down and you know what, I always feel a bit guilty about it because really, two three minutes isn't enough time to give someone a chance. Especially when they're nervous. Usually, it's nothing about them per se. Rather, it's either I'm in an intense conversation with a friend, am already involved with someone else, etc etc. Sometimes it's because the approach was all wrong (for me). Sometimes its because the guy comes out sounding too desperate or like a clinger. Is it normally the case that people spend extended periods of time in one given evening in the same bar, and do not instead go "club-hopping"? You mentioned "later in the evening". How much time should pass between one's initial approach and returning? Well, there is a risk involved in this technique. So if the scene where you are is one of club-hopping, I would say wait about 30 minutes. Or, keep your eye on the candidate, and if you see her leaving, approach her with a smile and say, "leaving already"? If she is interested she will tell you where her and her group are going. I usually always go to the same bars and usually end up running into the same people over and over again. My favorite in this instance is to meet someone one week who will approach and "attack" the week after. But I'm a bit of a romantic. Way too many Jane Austen novels growing up. Also, given your advice, what are some high-percentage, classy ways of directly approaching a woman and asking her on the spot for sex? Take KMT's advice on this one. Asking her if she would like to come home with you is usually code for 'wanna have sex'. Don't be suprise if you do get turned down for this one. Don't let that get you down: immediately follow up with asking her for a date or her phone number (if that is what you want).
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