Guest Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 I have heard numerous times that girls like a confidant man, they don't want a really shy man or a person who can barely talk. They want someone who can control themselves in a conversation and act as they are comfortable. Well, recently, I have noticed that two of my best friends are able to talk freely with the girl I like. She talks with them a good deal, and I can see she could be interested in them a little bit. This is where I lack, Confidence, I am a person who is extremely shy around this girl. I cannot talk to her. It is such a simple task, but I am too nervous to do so. I want to become more confidant, and hold myself to a level that is appealing to her. What can I do to bolster my confidence? Make her interested, she talks to guys that are extremely nerdy and has dated a few guy that IMO is rather weird. Yet, I am a jock, and cannot talk to her. Should I make direct eye contact and smile whenever I see her in the hallway, then if I see her around, possibly go up and start conversation? What can I do to make myself seem more appealing in terms of confidence? Any help is appreciated.
tdmce Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 Start small, next time you walk pass her in the hallway, simply say hi and keep walking unless she looks like she would stop to talk. Keep doing this and then she will start to take notice of you, then you have to get the balls up and go and say hi. But by this stage you have already been saying hi, try and put things into perspective too, she is only human.
Crazy Cutie Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 Talk to her and if you can try and get her into a conversation. As a woman I can say that women love to talk about themselves. After a few good conversations you should know all that you need to know about her. Maybe after talking to you she may like you and getting to know her a little bit better you will know how to show interest in her.
Spinderella Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 Do what you are good at. If you are a quiet type, then that isn't unappealing, some shy guys can be irresistable. I think if you are really shy then trying to be chatty will come across as false and trying too hard. As long as you come across with a sort of confidence, with whatever you are doing then it doesn't matter so much what you do. You can be shy but not come off as eager to please, or you can be shy and try too hard to be like the other guys and seem too eager to please.
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