Picture Perfect Family... almost

[Guest]

My boss is the stereotypical Picture Perfect Family Guy. Three awesome kids in sports, nice house and career, wife was probably pretty but had a bad facelift and now looks sort of Joan Rivers-like, but anyway, she's on the reading committee at her son's private kindergarten, they do social things as a family and a couple, travel in the summer. In every respect this is the guy you see on Good Housekeeping magazine covers building pillow forts with his two sons.

 

So I *don't understand* why he keeps saying things like, "I need to get a younger wife" and "I'm going to trade her in for a newer model", he asked me out to dinner via email promising "it'll be fun" not 2 weeks after I started working there, and one day while all of us in the office were looking at the secretary's MySpace profile, he sits down to look and then sort of talking to himself says he really needs to meet someone new but doesn't know where to start, and asks us how to meet people online or in general, then stands up, stares at me for a bit and sighs, saying he really wants a 30 yr old wife (I'm 26). He is a fairly prominent person and so I understand why it would be very hard for him to find someone to date for fear it will turn into a huge gossip and damage his reputation. Still, he has SO much to lose I don't know how anyone could NOT be happy with everything he has.

 

If any guys have ANY insight into what this man is thinking *PLEASE SHARE*

 

I am confused

[kymberann]

Doesn't sound so "Picture Perfect" to me if he is outwardly making these comments at work!

 

I wouldn't be confused at all! In fact I would be very wary of a guy like this!

 

I guess you need to ask yourself what are your intentions with this guy. Did you go out to dinner? Do you want to proceed with more of a relationship?

What do you think is in it for you? Do you want to get caught up in the workplace drama/rumors?

Best.

[norajane]

Ew - gross! What an obvious troll your boss is!!

 

He's fishing...trying to lure you in with a vague mention of wanting a younger wife in the hopes that you might mentally picture yourself as his wife...and once he catches you, you'll just be a trophy mistress because he won't ever leave his wife.

 

Or he might mean it - he wants a younger trophy wife! But why would anyone want him when he's clearly capable of the most rude, obnoxious, disgusting behavior toward his wife and children???

[pureinheart]

In my work world, that is known as sexual harrassment. I know how flattering it is to have the boss pay attention to you, but in the long run, it could ruin your life.

 

The work place is like a "meat market" to some men, especially management because they have a reasonal amount of power....and this is how sexual harrassment became such a big deal in my work environment.

 

Be careful, k..... I tell you, these guys get on my last nerve

[pureinheart]

Ew - gross! What an obvious troll your boss is!!

 

He's fishing...trying to lure you in with a vague mention of wanting a younger wife in the hopes that you might mentally picture yourself as his wife...and once he catches you, you'll just be a trophy mistress because he won't ever leave his wife.

 

Or he might mean it - he wants a younger trophy wife! But why would anyone want him when he's clearly capable of the most rude, obnoxious, disgusting behavior toward his wife and children???

 

You are sooooo right.....all of it.....although the word that caught my eye and triggered some of the worst memories ever....TROPHY.....my blood is boiling...

 

In one relationship the trophy thing was really bad....and I totally missed it....guy takes me out, where he knows exGF will be, to use me to piss her off.....we continued to see each other.

 

I see him starring at really thin women, so I lost so much weight I looked pathetic...on and on it goes....

 

These TROPHY men project on to you what they want you to be....it is disgusting....

[frannie]

Hmm... well who cares what he's thinking... he's evidently not thinking with his big head, is he..?

 

The trouble with 'picture perfect' is it's all image and no substance. I pity his wife. Trying to keep up with his ridiculous demands and she's made a laughing stock by him and (presumably) the young dollies at work.

 

"was probably pretty once" happens to all of us, eventually...

[stillafool]

This guy isn't looking for a new wife he's looking for a fool. He know's damn well he's not going to leave his family. His reputation probably depends on him being a "perfect family man". I wouldn't waste my time wondering why he's doing what he's doing, asking what he's asking, etc. I'm sure just like his wife he was "probably pretty once" and never got over his youth. You know what they say "There's no fool like an old fool".

[che_jesse]

See, they meet someone, fall in love, start a family, then they get promoted to regenal bank manager, buy the boat, the fake boobs for there wife (whos are starting to sag now), maybe develop beans habit, buy a face lift for her, maybe for him as well.

 

During all of this there wife decideds that forced plastic surgeory and watching her husband rollin on the boat with his whores are not what she wants, tries to reason with him.

 

He decides he can just buy a new wife.

 

 

 

That is she must divorce him and take as much of the money as she possably can.

[Guest]

Poor woman who's married to such a shallow moron. Can you say 'midlife crisis'?

 

What a jerk! Why can't he be happy? Because he's a jerk.

 

Sometimes I think it's hilarious that people puzzle over things like this when the simple answer is 'that person is seriously screwed up'. There's no logic to be found, there are no reasons that make sense to uncover. It's just that he's a jerk.

[How I ended up Here]

What a pig!!!

 

I wish I met a guy like that, I would reel him get him hot and heavy, leave leave him high and dry and then I would proceed to blow his cover with his wife. jerks like him need a harsh wake up call.

 

 

What a jackass!

[pureinheart]

Poor woman who's married to such a shallow moron. Can you say 'midlife crisis'?

 

What a jerk! Why can't he be happy? Because he's a jerk.

 

Sometimes I think it's hilarious that people puzzle over things like this when the simple answer is 'that person is seriously screwed up'. There's no logic to be found, there are no reasons that make sense to uncover. It's just that he's a jerk.

 

You are soooo right Guest....the red flags are right there in the beginning, yet in the past I chose to ignore all of them.

[Guest]

But the fact remains that some people are very unhappy in their marriages even though it otherwise seems ideal

 

Princess Di and Prince Charles for example - it just looked so right from the outside, the beautiful young royal woman marrying the future king of England, both living in luxury, nice cars, events, vacations, beautiful photos together as a couple and family, etc. But if you really considered them as individuals it was clearly not compatible. And its not hard to forgive Pr. Charles for keeping in touch with Camilla, who may not have seemed like the "ideal" princess in the public eye, but is a much better match for him. So is Pr. Charles a horrible backstabbing creep and is Princess Di a shameless **** (insert word of choice for "cheating wife") or was it really and truly inevitable?

 

~~~~Despite how "perfect" things seem on the outside, how can you tell the difference between predatory womanizers and someone who is genuinely miserable in a non compatible marriage?

 

(in a perfect world men and women would break up before dating someone else, but when kids and alimony and visitation and all is factored in, I understand why someone would want to have a safe landing spot rather than just jumping into singlehood wilderness)

[Meaplus3]

But the fact remains that some people are very unhappy in their marriages even though it otherwise seems ideal

 

Princess Di and Prince Charles for example - it just looked so right from the outside, the beautiful young royal woman marrying the future king of England, both living in luxury, nice cars, events, vacations, beautiful photos together as a couple and family, etc. But if you really considered them as individuals it was clearly not compatible. And its not hard to forgive Pr. Charles for keeping in touch with Camilla, who may not have seemed like the "ideal" princess in the public eye, but is a much better match for him. So is Pr. Charles a horrible backstabbing creep and is Princess Di a shameless **** (insert word of choice for "cheating wife") or was it really and truly inevitable?

 

~~~~Despite how "perfect" things seem on the outside, how can you tell the difference between predatory womanizers and someone who is genuinely miserable in a non compatible marriage?

 

(in a perfect world men and women would break up before dating someone else, but when kids and alimony and visitation and all is factored in, I understand why someone would want to have a safe landing spot rather than just jumping into singlehood wilderness)

 

I hope I am responding correctly to your post here GUEST. CAUSE this post got me a tad bit HEATED UP! I think that people who make thing's look so darn perfect on the outside are the ones that are the MOST misserable on the inside meaning inside themselves and their marriage! So why do people like this stay in a marraige that is unhappy cause they are too worried about what it would look like to the rest of the of world if they got divorced! A certain stigma is attached here, not as prevelant as is was in the 50's and 60's but it's still there! Yes the finances the whole rest of the shaaabang as well!

 

I am very unhappy in my marriage right now, but my first thought was not about how it look's to other's but about how I feel and how my children feel! Look within!

 

AP