MeeDee23 Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 My g/f broke up with me 2 weeks ago because she needed "space and time to re-evaluate our relationship". Never a good thing to hear this, I know. Also, because she is in law school and right now she needs to devote her life to final exams during this crucial period. She told me she was unhappy and seemed bored with our relationship (which is going on 3 years). We haven't had any contact because all I want is for her to do well on exams. After some real self-reflection and finding out who I am and what "we" were, I feel so much stronger and confident in myself and so badly just want to show her the NEW ME. The me that isn't someone you can walk all over, but someone who stands his ground and is damn confident, and is able to give so much more than he ever had previously in the relationship. I know one big thing was the passion that you must have for each other....or that flame to want to be with that other person. It seemed to go dormant after we had fallen into this sub-conscious "comfort zone". Right now, though, I feel so alive and passionate that I could make her wildest dreams come true. I have fantasies and hopes of an intimate relationship with her that would drive her wild. I see things that I never even thought of before and just want to show her how much more of a man I have become because of this whole experience.....both physically and mentally. I've read so much advice on this forum as well as many suggested websites. I still think the best thing to do is wait until she is done exams and see if she contacts me (which I think she will). I'm just worried she'll make her mind up on me before I can show her the NEW me. I'm doing my best to stay positive and improve myself every day, but the waiting is the hardest part. I just need to do what I can for myself in the mean time. Any advice on where to take it from here?
HeadlessZebra Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 "Mommy, I ate my dinner, can I have dessert now?" "No, you didn't eat your dinner, all you ate was three spoonfuls of your mashed potatoes." "But I'm full now!!! I WANT MY DESSERT! Pleeeeeeaaaassssse???" See where I'm going with this? You may feel a temporary surge of passion, but with only two weeks of it, as soon as you get back with her it'll take just another two weeks to settle right back into the old routine. That's aside from whatever other issues may lurk behind her request for space. I'm not opening up that can of worms.
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