Guest Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 Heres the story. Two guys claim to be in love with me. I am having a great deal of difficulty choosing. I have a difficult time making decisions because of my alcoholic upbringing. I sometimes doubt my own decisions. I feel as if I am in a stalemate. Any advice? Heres a description of the two: James - Very kind and compassionate, intellectual, sensitive, loving, trustworthy and loyal. Rather feminine in some ways. Very much in love and dedicated to me. Good friend and a strong spiritual compatibility. I always feel uplifted around him. I question the physical compatibility because I usually am left "unsatisfied." His build is smaller than mine and sometimes I am not as attracted as I could be. Also, the chemistry is not as strong. Don- Older than me by 15 years. Wild, crazy, fun. Talks on the phone for hours and drives up to see me on the drop of a dime if I ask. Tons of chemistry but I end up feeling drained the day after I see him. I love his masculine build and cocky arrogant personality. He has a great sense of humor. He also claims to love me and want to be with me. He has also been separated for four years and in the past has tried to lead me on so I am suspicious. Now, he claims to have changed and wants me to give him a chance again. Our passion is so strong I sometimes am scared that it is more an addiction than love. But, then I think isn't that wild passionate love what everyone looks for? The only problem is he drains my energy.
Storyrider Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 You mentioned negatives about both that could be deal breakers. The lack of physical chemistry with James and the feeling drained after being with Don. I don't know that I would want to commit to either of those situations long term if I were in your shoes. Also, regarding Don, fifteen years is a big age difference depending on your own age. Just b/c they both want you doesn't mean either is right for you. Maybe you should keep looking. Is there some reason you have to decide now?
NIKI 28 Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 Well let me just start with at least you have 2 guys wanting you (heehee). Anyhoo you have to go with the one that treats you right and who is there at the end of the day. I know sometimes us as females get caught up with the appearance of a guy which is o.k, BUT........ if they are really about you or about that cooca racha if ya know what I mean. What I'm trying to say girl you have to do interviews on these guys because if you don't you will end up picking out the wrong guy like I did and today he is my son's father and is not there for our son and oh by the way is back with his g-friend. I read up on when you said that he has been seperated for 4yrs or is that a divorce?? Get back with me on this because if he is just seperated you might want to hold back on that dude cause you've got to look at it like this the way he is doing his wife or g-friend is how he is going to treat you so think about it and maybe you might want to go with PEE WEE herman (sike) let me stop but naww maybe you should buy him some protein drinks or suggest that he lift some weights.
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