NIKI 28 Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 I just met this guy through my mother and we went on a date for the first time last weekend. Well anyways he has been coming over my house through out the week. I ask him what was his first thought when he seen me he was like wow who is the girl with the big head and that bothered me but I let it pass. Anyways we started to get touchy feely one day and he tells me later on that night I know something you don't know and I'm like what is that and he go tells me that one of my boobs are bigger than the other, so that totally made my self esteem low and he took it lightly and kept on talking like he didn't say anything wrong! I'm like dude what's up with that since we've be talking you have been bashing my looks and mind you I'm not a bad looking girl and he has said that I was pretty but he confuses me when he make little comments like that. We were suppose to go to a friends house this weekend but he cancel because he was going somewhere with his family and told me that this was already planned before he met me. I asked him when are we going out again and he says he doesn't know and I just told him I was leaving out and I haven't heard from him since.
alphamale Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 and I'm like what is that and he go tells me that one of my boobs are bigger than the other, thats a new one NIKI28....
Author NIKI 28 Posted December 3, 2006 Author Posted December 3, 2006 what is so funny about this alpha??
Antheia Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 Rule no 1: Stay away from guys that make you feel low about yourself in any way. Your boyfriend or potential boyfriend should make you feel like you are the most attractive girl in the world - do not settle for anything less. I have dated a guy for a couple of months that I was never really that into but was willing to give him a chance. He constantly made small comments that made me feel bad about myself (like how he prefers brown hair - I'm blonde, how I could stand to lose couple of pounds - dude, looked in the mirror lately?, he would show me a girl wearing some ugly top and said that that's what I should wear - I pride myself on having great fashion style, that was a huge insult). In the end, that killed it for me.
jenniferlm Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 he sounds like a really rude person to me. I'd call him up and tell him you're not interested in seeing him again due to him being an impolite person.
alphamale Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 he sounds like a really rude person to me. I'd call him up and tell him you're not interested in seeing him again due to him being an impolite person. but i thought girls like guys who make them feel bad sometimes.
jenniferlm Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 but i thought girls like guys who make them feel bad sometimes. heh heh not this one
Trialbyfire Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 Agreed. A guy who's going to insult you when you barely know him isn't worth it. Wouldn't you rather be with a guy who makes you feel good about yourself?
alphamale Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 Agreed. A guy who's going to insult you when you barely know him isn't worth it. Wouldn't you rather be with a guy who makes you feel good about yourself? ha ah ah you girls are so naive and idealistic its funny. girls like the bad boys who walk all over them and make them feel like dirt. gilrs don't like the nice boring guys who go to church and don't drink and get straight As
Antheia Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 ha ah ah you girls are so naive and idealistic its funny. girls like the bad boys who walk all over them and make them feel like dirt. gilrs don't like the nice boring guys who go to church and don't drink and get straight As Not really BUT it's bad boys and players who are pretty good at giving girls compliments (at least initially to make her feel good about herself and get her hooked). Player would never criticize girls appearance on first few dates. It's usually guys who are inexperinced that say what's on their mind exactly all the time.
Trialbyfire Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 I dunno. I like nice guys, if they're witty and intelligent. These three characteristics in one guy are irresistible. True, it's interesting to have an edge but that's less important than the other three.
Antheia Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 Well I like nice guys too. If they are witty, funny and intelleginet then I just go I don't even care about looks (much). As long as they are not too obssesive, clingy and don't let me walk all over them.
DanielMadr Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 it is one of an azzhole:D It is funny with those boobs. Because it is natural...all women have one boob bigger. Dont cry, we have one testicle lower than the second one ...you can tell him:D
Outcast Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 girls like the bad boys who walk all over them and make them feel like dirt. NO. THEY. DON'T. Are you ever going to stop singing this tired old song? :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:
Woggle Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 Some women are addicted to drama and I suggest men avoid these types at all costs but I think what is the case more often is that deep down women want a man that will protect and make them feel safe. Despite all the independnt I am woman hear me roar talk many women still fanticize about the knight in shining armor that will rescue them. A weak man who lets her walk all over him is not strong enough to protect her. On a subconcious level these women test men to see if they are strong enough and when men give in to every whim with no identity of their own they fail the test. Why do you think that many women find a man in uniform such as a cop or a firefighter so attractive? Bad boys are great at faking this strength and some women fall for it.
Author NIKI 28 Posted December 3, 2006 Author Posted December 3, 2006 ANtheia I can really agree with you when you said that maybe he is inexperience because I am 4 yrs older than he is and then on top of that he is in church!! Then later he turns around and says how pretty I am but anyways I am going to leave it alone because I haven't heard from him since Friday so can't miss what I really never had. I know he ask me about what happen to me and my son's father so I think I scared him off.
alphamale Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 NO. THEY. DON'T. Are you ever going to stop singing this tired old song? hi OUTCASt....how ya doing?
Kamille Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 everyone, let's not forget that there are more than two types of guys out there: boys (sounds like that's what you were dealing with Nicki) nice (insecure) guys bad guys real men
Author NIKI 28 Posted December 3, 2006 Author Posted December 3, 2006 You know what Kamille because he was on the heavy side I think he was very insecure about himself so he had to bash my looks. I mean he is a very nice and funny guy but he went a little to the extreme when he did what he did. The thing is I was starting to really like him and I felt like he was liking me and I'm kind of hurting from this because eventhough we didn't do anything (sex) I'm starting to think it's me why guys aren't staying around. I'm just speechless right now, I talk to a friend today and she said well didn't you tell him that you weren't going to bother him anymore I was like well yeah but what happen to the fight when the guy comes running for who he loves or like you know what I mean. Hey get back with me on this
Kamille Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 You know what Kamille because he was on the heavy side I think he was very insecure about himself so he had to bash my looks. I mean he is a very nice and funny guy but he went a little to the extreme when he did what he did. Yeah, I've been with a guy (my ex actually) who could not give me a compliment without tempring it with a 'but': 'you're pretty but...' 'this meal is good but ...'. As if, if I felt too good about myself, I might leave him. Or as if he was in competition with me. So I think you're right in recognizing that his comments are a reflection of his issues. Please don't allow him to get to you. The thing is I was starting to really like him and I felt like he was liking me and I'm kind of hurting from this because eventhough we didn't do anything (sex) I'm starting to think it's me why guys aren't staying around. I'm just speechless right now, I talk to a friend today and she said well didn't you tell him that you weren't going to bother him anymore I was like well yeah but what happen to the fight when the guy comes running for who he loves or like you know what I mean. I know what you mean when you say you want a guy to put up a fight and come running. Yet I'm bothered by the fact that you verbalised "you want me, come and get me" (a totally noble sentiment that I think you should hang on too), by "I won't bother you anymore". I hope you see what I mean. Basically, what I'm saying is, you are worth it and you shouldn't settle for anyone who is not capable of recognizing that. So you shouldn't have to say 'I won't bother you anymore'. This guy was too insecure to be able to enjoy you as a beautiful complex unique woman. Don't internalize dating gone awry as indications that something is wrong with you. Meeting the right person is tricky, but remember, you only need one - the right one. Don't settle for any less.
norajane Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 he was like wow who is the girl with the big head YOu should have laughed and thanked him and told him that it's been proven that successful people have big heads. (It's true - look at some famous models and actors/actresses, politicians. You'll see that a lot of them have big heads.) Or you could have said that you'd prefer that to being a pinhead, like him. he tells me later on that night I know something you don't know and I'm like what is that and he go tells me that one of my boobs are bigger than the other Again you should have laughed at him and asked him what made him think he would know something about your body that you don't know? And then told him that his eyes are two different sizes (most people have something that's asymmetrical about them!) so that totally made my self esteem low I agree he was being an awkward, bumbling fool who knows nothing about wooing women, but why would any of this make your self-esteem low? I'm guessing your self-esteem isn't all that strong to begin with. No one can make you feel bad about yourself unless you allow them to.
Pyro Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 I just met this guy through my mother and we went on a date for the first time last weekend. Well anyways he has been coming over my house through out the week. I ask him what was his first thought when he seen me he was like wow who is the girl with the big head and that bothered me but I let it pass. Anyways we started to get touchy feely one day and he tells me later on that night I know something you don't know and I'm like what is that and he go tells me that one of my boobs are bigger than the other, so that totally made my self esteem low and he took it lightly and kept on talking like he didn't say anything wrong! I'm like dude what's up with that since we've be talking you have been bashing my looks and mind you I'm not a bad looking girl and he has said that I was pretty but he confuses me when he make little comments like that. We were suppose to go to a friends house this weekend but he cancel because he was going somewhere with his family and told me that this was already planned before he met me. I asked him when are we going out again and he says he doesn't know and I just told him I was leaving out and I haven't heard from him since. You have no reason for that sad face. Don't let this guy's comments get you down. Who the hell is he to say things like that? This guy sounds like a real prize, therefore his opinions are meaningless and hold no real value. You haven't heard from him? Thats good. Good riddence to him. If I were you, I would call him and officially break it off. Let him know that his comments had no affect on you whatsoever.
Trialbyfire Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 Ick, why do people equate niceness to weakness? I don't see it at all. It's easy to pretend strength but when things get tough in a relationship, to run away from it by dumping the other person. As I've stated in another thread. I like men, not boys.
Pyro Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 everyone, let's not forget that there are more than two types of guys out there: boys (sounds like that's what you were dealing with Nicki) nice (insecure) guys bad guys real men That sounds about right, but for the sake of not having any confusion, the jerk/badboy goes with bad guys. There is ahuge difference between being a jerk/badboy and being a real man.
Kamille Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 That sounds about right, but for the sake of not having any confusion, the jerk/badboy goes with bad guys. There is ahuge difference between being a jerk/badboy and being a real man. Absolutely! Thanks for making sure that point was clear Riddler.
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