Rooster_DAR Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 What do you women think about smoking? I will have a cigarrette or two when I'm out at a club drinking. It's a habit I need to get out of, but do women frown on this? Just want to know.
tikigods Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 I don't care much for smokers, I dated one once and I would never ever do it again even if its casual.
BareGoddess Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 I think it's kind of sexy. It wouldn't be a problem for me.
Author Rooster_DAR Posted December 3, 2006 Author Posted December 3, 2006 I think it's kind of sexy. It wouldn't be a problem for me. *Reads BareGoddess post while puffing on a cig*
BareGoddess Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 *Reads BareGoddess post while puffing on a cig* *Puffs on a cig while reading RD's post.
whichwayisup Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 *Reads BareGoddess post while puffing on a cig* *Puffs on a cig while reading RD's post. *Sits here ever so slightly jealous...(If I wanna smoke I go outside to do it as my hubby doesn't smoke)
dropdeadlegs Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 This is my little bit of knowledge on smoking and smokers. I know more men that are non-smokers dating/married to women smokers than vice versa. Most people stick to their own kind. I love smoking but quit six days ago. Not for my health, but for my wallet. It has been pretty easy, but I like to drink and that was a definite "trigger" for smoking, meaning I could smoke a whole pack in a club. My boyfriend still smokes and I will not leave him simply because I quit, and have no plans to leave him for any other reason. Yesterday when he kissed me passionately and for a long time right after smoking I did find it "unbecoming." Ex-smokers are worse than non-smokers on the subject of smokers in general. I think ex-smokers hate it because they secretly want to smoke for whatever reason (we all have one) but don't for another reason (again, we all have one, ex-smokers that is.) I suspect I will never find smoking so repulsive that I will not occasionally have one at a club while drinking, but if I can quit other than that, I will be pretty happy with myself. Any help, RD?
Author Rooster_DAR Posted December 3, 2006 Author Posted December 3, 2006 This is my little bit of knowledge on smoking and smokers. I know more men that are non-smokers dating/married to women smokers than vice versa. Most people stick to their own kind. I love smoking but quit six days ago. Not for my health, but for my wallet. It has been pretty easy, but I like to drink and that was a definite "trigger" for smoking, meaning I could smoke a whole pack in a club. My boyfriend still smokes and I will not leave him simply because I quit, and have no plans to leave him for any other reason. Yesterday when he kissed me passionately and for a long time right after smoking I did find it "unbecoming." Ex-smokers are worse than non-smokers on the subject of smokers in general. I think ex-smokers hate it because they secretly want to smoke for whatever reason (we all have one) but don't for another reason (again, we all have one, ex-smokers that is.) I suspect I will never find smoking so repulsive that I will not occasionally have one at a club while drinking, but if I can quit other than that, I will be pretty happy with myself. Any help, RD? I often wondered if some non smokers learned a hatred for it simply because it's such a hard addition to conquer. If you learn to downright hate it, it's probably much easier to quit. I do know that I quit for many many years and at that time the smell of it made me sick, but I don't think it ever stopped me from being attracted to someone just because they smoke a little. Thanks Excellent!
che_jesse Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 I even sound like a jerk to myself when I say this, but: I smoked a pack a day since I was 14, I'm 22 now and I quit 2 months ago. Before I would always tell people to shut up when they had a problem with my smoking or whatever, they don't like it and don't wanna go with me because of it? Pfft... whatever, there stupid, was my thinking. I ignored my bf at every turn when he said he didn't like it. After I quit... well... there is NOTHING I find more disgusting then the smell of cigarette smoke. I ask people to put there cigarettes out all the time. So to answer your question: I'm not single so it does not matter, but if I were, yes, smoking would certainly be a turn off for me.
dropdeadlegs Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 I even sound like a jerk to myself when I say this, but: I smoked a pack a day since I was 14, I'm 22 now and I quit 2 months ago. Before I would always tell people to shut up when they had a problem with my smoking or whatever, they don't like it and don't wanna go with me because of it? Not a jerk, but an ex-smoker for sure, even as the words flow now. Pfft... Okay that is my personal "I'll consider almost anything" word, but we are both female and I will overlook that term.... After I quit... well... there is NOTHING I find more disgusting then the smell of cigarette smoke. I ask people to put there cigarettes out all the time. So to answer your question: I'm not single so it does not matter, but if I were, yes, smoking would certainly be a turn off for me. Again, proof that ex-smokers are far worse and opinionated than non-smokers. So glad you quit two months ago. I have done far more damage to my lungs but still have hope due to the American Cancer Society info! It's never too late!
alphamale Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 women are so full of ****. I'm a regular smoker and most of women i've dated were not. Up front they would be like..."oh smoking is so gross, i'd never go out with a smoker." Next thing I'd be banging them. Plus...its actually easier to get chicks who smoke into the sack. Smokers tend to be risk-takers.
Antheia Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 Generally, I find people who refuse to light up even one cigarette when out drinking to be quite boring.
Author Rooster_DAR Posted December 3, 2006 Author Posted December 3, 2006 For the tenth time, I need to buy a ticket to the land down under.
alphamale Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 Generally, I find people who refuse to light up even one cigarette when out drinking to be quite boring. thats true ANTHEIA....people who never smoke or drink are totally boring wallflowers.
burning 4 revenge Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 thats true ANTHEIA....people who never smoke or drink are totally boring wallflowers. i think that my addictions to alcohol and nicotine have made me boring and not less if i was a distance runner and in that sort of shape, with that sort of energy, i'd be far more productive and less boring and better at sex
Author Rooster_DAR Posted December 3, 2006 Author Posted December 3, 2006 i think that my addictions to alcohol and nicotine have made me boring and not less if i was a distance runner and in that sort of shape, with that sort of energy, i'd be far more productive and less boring and better at sex Good point.
alphamale Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 if i was a distance runner and in that sort of shape, with that sort of energy, i'd be far more productive and less boring i see a lot more hot chicks hanging out with chain-smoking alcoholic bad boys than healthy and boring long-distance runners...
Antheia Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 Burning, I meant people who absolutely refuse to light up a cigarette (or have a drink) under any circumstances acting like one cigarette or one drink will kill them. I'm not talking about ex addicts here.
BabyPhoenix Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 What do you women think about smoking? I think it is pretty much gross. Disgusting. Your clothes smell, your breath smells, and its a general annoyance to the people around you. And I am an asthmatic, so it doesn't exactly help matters that way either. If I met a potential mate who was a full time smoker, it would definitely be a deal breaker. I will have a cigarrette or two when I'm out at a club drinking. It's a habit I need to get out of, but do women frown on this? Just want to know. I don't really mind this as much. I would not have a problem with my mate doing that - the few occassional cigarettes, joints, beers etc. Any sort of occassional, non addiction thing is fine with me. However, if it were the first time I laid eyes on him and he was smoking, it would be a complete turn-off and I would dismiss him automatically.
Guest Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 It's gross. STINKS. Smoke breath is vile. Smoke on clothes is disgusting. Here's a thought for the gentlemen who smoke; smoking restricts blood flow. It can cause circulation issues. Now you all know how you get your stiffies, right? I can't fathom a man who'd even want to smoke, given that fact and given how much men love their penii. B4R you are doing yourself NO favors.
tangerine trees Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 i actually really like the smell of smoke. and smokers. and smoking.
serial muse Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 i've dated smokers before (i'm a non-smoker) and i don't absolutely hate it as a personal trait or anything. i guess it's not a deal-breaker for me, but it's sure not my favorite thing. i'd classify my feelings about it as tolerant, but that can tip over into strong annoyance, depending on how sensitive i'm feeling to smell at the time. which is the sticking point for me - the main thing i hate about smoking is the staleness of the smell, which sometimes can make me a bit nauseous. i'm smell-sensitive, i suppose. i don't particularly enjoy kissing a smoker, but whatever, i can handle that if i really like the guy - and if he's thoughtful about it and tries to ameliorate the taste with breath mints or something, i do appreciate it. but the thing is, mostly i hate when i end up smelling like smoke - my hair, my clothes. it smells worse after a day, too, after soaking deep into the fabric. or my hair follicles. seriously, blech. it takes multiple shampoos to get it out after one night at a bar, and it can also take a while for some types of clothing to air out enough to remove the scent. i recall that back in the 70s and 80s, taking a plane trip could be pretty frustrating in that way. nothing like having everything you own smell like a wet ashtray after three hours in a tiny room with no control over the atmosphere and no way to leave. now that was annoying. so, dating a smoker long-term? i might have to resign myself to smelling that way all the time. so that's the thing that's pretty unappealing, i have to admit. one guy i dated who smoked always went outside to do it. without fail. which was really thoughtful of him, and i appreciated it no end. but in a long-term relationship, it just feels wrong for a loved one to feel obligated to go outside in the cold multiple times a day! (and cracking a window DOES NOT work.) so basically, it seems easier to just date nonsmokers. but on the other hand, i don't think that would necessarily keep me from dating someone i felt drawn to. i guess it'd have to work itself out. that was a really long answer to your question. oh, and by the way, yes, i've personally tried cigarettes (also cigars). but it just didn't take as a habit. never quite saw the appeal. >shrug<
Pyro Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 Most people stick to their own kind. This is what I noticed as well. I actually got one of my ex's to quit smoking, cold turkey when we started dating. I never said anything or asked her, all I told her was that I don't smoke.
IpAncA Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 I personally find it a turnoff. My H used to but was in the process of trying to quit while we were dating so it didn't really matter to me that he did. I have seen too that it's more common that smokers tend to be with smokers and same the other way.
Adunaphel Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 Plus...its actually easier to get chicks who smoke into the sack. Smokers tend to be risk-takers. You better be very far away when they get out of the sack, though. Risk-takers tendo to be more temperamental.
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