lindya Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 unfortuantely father christmas does not come since we are not christian any other ideas? Ask him if he can't make a special case for you. (sorry OP, I'll stop hijacking now. It's all alpha's fault!)
monkey00 Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 maybe the guy is obsessed, but it seems more like he's expecting an exclusive relationship already; gf material from you. You probably already know but you guys are on different pages, you want to test the waters and he wants exclusivity. maybe the talk would be appropriate
Trialbyfire Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 I'll also chime in my agreement that this guy is needy, clingy and completely smothering. Push back and tell him you need some space to breathe, otherwise he'll take over your life with his needs. Not a nice guy at all.
SmoochieFace Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 The thing that the guys here are talking about isn't 'love' but 'lust'. Of course, with their raging hormones, it's easy to see how they get the two confused...
tdmce Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 This guy has major insecurity issues which 'he' needs to deal with before he should be getting in a relationship. If he can't be happy having time to himself and letting you have some freedom then these issues are just going to get a lot worse. I'd tell him what you told us, that is his rushing things and needs to slow the train down, otherwise you will hop off! Good luck
crazy_grl Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 DRDimeMami, we haven't heard from you since your first post. Are you still around? Did you find any of this advice helpful?
Author DRDimeMami Posted December 17, 2006 Author Posted December 17, 2006 im here guys lol. just havent been online for a while. well things with this "nice guy" have been going kinda crazy lately. i dont even think its this whole nice guy thing anymore. maybe i dont like him at all because of the way he acts. he wanted to see me the other day but i told him i was busy and then my cell was dieing and i told him to call me later on so he said ok sure. after we hang up he texts me saying dont call me im not gonna call u anymore and dont ask me why. hes been having problems at work lately so im sure hes stressed out and then on top of that, i think he got mad because i said i cant see him. i want to see him but i just didnt want him over my house. i rather go out with him before him coming over and meeting my parents, considering i am a young lady. so anyway, i ignored his text and didnt write back assuming he got something up his ass cuz i havent done anything wrong to him. i get a text from my friend and she tells me for me to tell him that she is in church and that he called her private. he has this thing that when i dont answer my phone for whatever reason, he'll call my friend. and when they talk he complains to her about me. i know this because shes told me and ive been on the line. but anyway, i text him saying not to call her private and don't complain about me. he tells me he can call whoever he wants from his phone and that she is his friend as well and that im a thing from the past and he hates to say it but i was just a waste of time. so i got pissed and felt like cursing him out but i calmed down and told him not to talk to me anymore because i dont talk to people that think im a waste of time and to have a nice day. and hes like please do me that favor dont call me or text me or anything i dont need more problems than the ones i already have. so we havent spoken after that. i know hes a good guy and has good intentions but i feel like he has too much drama (job & family.. he had an argument with his aunt) for me to be dealing with. if i have to question myself about liking him, then maybe i dont like him, right? i dont know if i should continue speaking to him and put this behind me or just move on. because thats why i wasnt sure of my feelings.. im young i want to have fun and be single.. so thats why i wasnt sure if i wanted to be with him. its just too much.. well.. any advice would be nice. thanks.
pureinheart Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 I like nice guys, and it is the attention that does win my heart....what I have seen with some nice guys is after they do win your heart they step on it....the attention turns negative and abusive..... My definition of a nice guy is one who is not abusive, is not rude, is considerate and treats me like a lady....he would go to the ends of the earth for the relationship and me, I in turn do all of the above also....
bede86 Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 give the guy a chance, if he really loves you hes gonna treat u better than some ******* who ignores you....give the nice guy a chance worse comes to worse end it!
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