mac007 Posted December 2, 2006 Posted December 2, 2006 hi, my ex and i work in the same place. it has been 3 months since the break up. we talk on and off for a minute here and there, but just work related. however, yesterday, we were leaving at the same time. i held the elevator door for her, and she tossed her hair towards me, just like turning around. we talked briefly in the elevator. i then said to her have a nice weekend, and she said to me you too. can anybody help me to interpet the women tossing her hair while adjusting herself. she knew i saw. i am a little slow on the body language. she really is waiting for me to talk to her again.
Trialbyfire Posted December 2, 2006 Posted December 2, 2006 If you mean that she was adjusting herself while putting her coat on or taking it off, etc., if you have long hair, you have to toss it to get it out of your collar. I have long hair down to my waist and it's a constant pain. Even when I'm driving, I have to keep tossing it so it doesn't get trapped behind me.
VandGsMom Posted December 2, 2006 Posted December 2, 2006 While adjusting herself?? As in, like a brastrap? If that is the case, she is probably just gauging your interest. Maybe for some purpose, maybe just in the I-am-woman-hear-me-roar type way... What was it that you two talked about in the elevator??
luvtoto Posted December 2, 2006 Posted December 2, 2006 hi, my ex and i work in the same place. it has been 3 months since the break up. we talk on and off for a minute here and there, but just work related. however, yesterday, we were leaving at the same time. i held the elevator door for her, and she tossed her hair towards me, just like turning around. we talked briefly in the elevator. i then said to her have a nice weekend, and she said to me you too. can anybody help me to interpet the women tossing her hair while adjusting herself. she knew i saw. i am a little slow on the body language. she really is waiting for me to talk to her again. Touching/tossing your hair in public, means "hey, notice me!" I learned that somewhere.
mac007 Posted December 2, 2006 Posted December 2, 2006 i said to her that i used to exit the back door and now i will exit the front way. i think it is a sign now to use the front door because they are painting the back exit. she also adjusted her purse above her shoulder.
Trialbyfire Posted December 2, 2006 Posted December 2, 2006 i said to her that i used to exit the back door and now i will exit the front way. i think it is a sign now to use the front door because they are painting the back exit. she also adjusted her purse above her shoulder. Purse straps are a hazard to long hair... Don't read too much into the hair tossing in this situation. Did she give off other signs like lingering glances, flirtatiously dropping her eyes or blushing? Also, whether most women know they do this or not, if there's an attractive guy around, most women will arch their backs a bit, thus improving on nature's T&A...
luvtoto Posted December 2, 2006 Posted December 2, 2006 i said to her that i used to exit the back door and now i will exit the front way. That sounded dirty!
mac007 Posted December 2, 2006 Posted December 2, 2006 well, i didn't say it in a mean tone. i only confirmed what she alredy knew, and i kind of gave her the heads up as to i will be leaving the back door. i am taking the steps to make us talk again, and she is receptive to it. i don't know why she is going slow, it has been 3 months. maybe i am going slow also but we both want to talk to each other, but it doesn't seem right yet. we are both waiting for the right time.
luvtoto Posted December 2, 2006 Posted December 2, 2006 well, i didn't say it in a mean tone. I know. I was just joking. In my opinion, if somebody comes around me that I don't want to talk too, I will stand still and not move a muscle. Hoping to turn invisible or something. Just standing there quiet like a mouse, hoping that they will pass on by and leave me alone. She, however, didn't. She did the hair toss and bra adjustment.
IpAncA Posted December 2, 2006 Posted December 2, 2006 I think your reading to much into this. I didn't know that adjusting your hair and purse meant something. I do that all the time and I'm not trying to get attention. Maybe she is, I don't know. You mentioned that she was your ex. Why do you want to get back together. Do you think she does too?
luvtoto Posted December 2, 2006 Posted December 2, 2006 I didn't know that adjusting your hair and purse meant something. I do that all the time and I'm not trying to get attention. Well, I am just giving my two cents on the matter at hand. Take it or leave it.
IpAncA Posted December 2, 2006 Posted December 2, 2006 Wow! I was talking to the person who started this thread. I didn't know that guys took that as a sign.
luvtoto Posted December 2, 2006 Posted December 2, 2006 Wow! I was talking to the person who started this thread. I didn't know that guys took that as a sign. Sorry.
westernxer Posted December 2, 2006 Posted December 2, 2006 It means you're hypersensitive after the breakup.
luvtoto Posted December 2, 2006 Posted December 2, 2006 but we both want to talk to each other, but it doesn't seem right yet. we are both waiting for the right time. How do you know this? What other signs has she given you besides just brief talking in the hall? How do you know that she is also waiting for the right time to talk to you? She did seem flirtatious with the hair toss..but, be careful not to read too much into it. I would think she would want to remian friends with you. She seems to enjoy talking to you. Hell...the last time I saw my X, he came up behind me and tickled my ribs. When I turned around, he had a smile from ear to ear. Yet, I've learned from getting burned over and over by him, to just walk on by and not to read into why he does those things to me. Reading into a person's every move for a sign...will drive you nuts!
mac007 Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 true, i don't want to read too much into this. This is one reason why i did everything to avoide her. maybe i will just continue to use the backdoor to exit. i don't want to be involved with her again. but, working in the same place and dating. i don't recommend. well, she told me lately that she hasn't been smiling lately one time. she was going through her own situaion. this is why we ended it. "Hoping to turn invisible or something. Just standing there quiet like a mouse, hoping that they will pass on by and leave me alone." you know when i walked by her, she was there quiet yesterday. This is all about body language between me and her. i want to emphasize we work in the same place and no else knows this in the work place.
IpAncA Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 If you want nothing to happen then just go around your work day and leave it at that. And if she wants to get back together then tell her no. Plain and simple.
mac007 Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 IpAncA true. good point. she knows i completely ignore her. Is this wrong to just ignore her? It is not in my character to ignore people. i usually just greet people in the morning and that is it, but this is different. i don't even want to walk past her office. i think by ignoring her she notices me even more. i could do this with an ex-gilfriend because we don't work in the same place, but now it is new waters for me. i want to close this off with her. but everytime, i do this by chance we happen to bump into each other. it is not anybody's fault. it just happens in the workplace, running into each other. i even told her that i am looking for a new job. i guess i am looking for validation to cut her completely out of my life.
IpAncA Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 That's what happends when you date other people in the workplace that doesn't work out. Your going to be seeing her no matter what. There is nothing wrong with just saying hello or goodbye. You don't have to strike up a converstation. I think your going to drive yourself nuts if you just keep ignoring her and trying to avoid her everytime you see her. You'll end up spending most of the day trying to figure out ways to avoid her and making the workplace an uncomfortable place to work as it is doing to you know. If you feel you should get another job then do it. Just know that next time don't date anyone that you work with. Why? Because your a good example as to what happends when it goes wrong. Please don't take offense to this but it is true. Good Luck and relax.
mac007 Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 Thanks for the info. i guess it is those little hello and goodbye. i guess we are both proud because sometimes we wait to see if the other peson says hi first. it is dumb because we wait for the other person to say hi or say bye. and when we say hi sometimes automatically it will start into a conversation. then we realize that we are talking then we kind of stop. to top things off she also is the receptionist, and she is always at the front.
IpAncA Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 Well just because you break up doesn't mean that you can't at least be friends. At least for works sake you both could put that behind you and try to work together. Some people are better off as friends then with each other and still manage to get along and not let their past interfer. Sounds like she is feeling akward too.
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