Nezero Posted December 2, 2006 Posted December 2, 2006 Well I guess my story starts over a week ago. My friends and I went on Schoolies (end of year 12 holiday celebration type thing, similar to the USA's spring break). Now we randomly met with people who use to go to a school close to ours. Now one of thes girls, I took an interested into. I'll call her Sal. So her and some of her friends were leaving to go to another place on Tuesday morning. I was silly enough not to ask for a number the day before so I got up early and went around to their place in the morning. I got her number off one of friends (not exactly the way I planned it but apparently they asked Sal if it was okay). So I waited until she was up and had packed all her stuff and ask her if it was alright if I had her number. She said 'yeah its fine' and hugged me and we said our goodbyes. Now I've texted her a couple of times ie asking how Lorne (the place they went to ) is and when she's coming back. So everything seems good. Ideally I want to get to know her better by doing something with her but I can't asked her through text and I'm not a person that can talk for ages on the phone. The chances of me seeing her in person is quite slim. I know where she works but not when. What should I do?
bluescreenlife Posted December 2, 2006 Posted December 2, 2006 get into a relaxed and happy frame of mind by doing something you enjoy. Pick up the phone and dial her damn number. Just talk about random stuff for a while, ask her open-ended questions about herself. If it starts to get awkward excuse yourself and tell her you have something to do and what it is - better to have a shorter good conversation than a longer awkward one. If the conversation goes well (and pay attention to how well it goes, that should be an indicator of whether you want to ask her out, don't just go by looks) then tell her "I liked talking to you. Want to do it in person sometime?" and suggest something to do for a date.
Author Nezero Posted December 5, 2006 Author Posted December 5, 2006 [FONT=verdana, arial, helvetica][sIZE=2]I was thinking of maybe sending a text saying; 'Hey we should catch up some time. I'll give you a ring later' Now if she replyed for example 'Yeah that sounds great'. I'll ring her, if not I won't bother and let it go. What do you think?[/sIZE][/FONT]
thelipless Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 [FONT=verdana, arial, helvetica][sIZE=2]I was thinking of maybe sending a text saying; 'Hey we should catch up some time. I'll give you a ring later' Now if she replyed for example 'Yeah that sounds great'. I'll ring her, if not I won't bother and let it go. What do you think?[/sIZE][/FONT] thats perfect man, tell us the results
Author Nezero Posted December 13, 2006 Author Posted December 13, 2006 Okay for anyone interested I merely cause I like talking about my problems, here is what happened. So anyway I called her on the 7th and talked for a short while. Now after telling a friend he believes it sounded like she brushed me off. The conversation was essentially crappy small talk. She said she had to continue putting on makeup (graduation ball) so I said, "We should catch up sometime" and I can't remember if she did but I think she said "Yeah we should" or something like that. I asked her when she is free and she said 'I'm busy for the next three weeks' I replied 'Oh that's so long' And said she 'well i'll check with my mum and message you sometime' I said okay and said bye. Now the next day the 8th, the same friend lets say Dave went on a date with one of Sal's friends. Dave as the friend if Sal was interested and she replied something along the lines of no. So that was last week and I've started to move on but it stills annoys me. Unless my brain is stupid and thought she said 'Yeah we should' when I said we should catch up sometime or she said that to spare my feelings somewhat then I don't know. Now I'm not expecting her to message me but I'm tempted to say something jokingly to her in the immediate future like 'You weren't joking when you said you were busy' to see her response. Argh, I'm just a little annoyed I guess what I said was more friend like then date like eg I didn't say, Do you wanna see some film with me?' or something and she just brushed me off. Actually something that I do want a response in is should I really go by what my friend said that her friend said about me? I guess it does make sense if you look back and everything but I have no idea. Also this is more of a curiosity thing than anything but has anyone genuinely been busy for a period of time and so they had to forgo any meet ups of any kind? Well I guess thats the end of my rant.
Guest Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 maybe she's waiting for somebody that kewl i ask after she says no to that guy too lol wait a sex, er, sec - i can't damn i have no idea where she works, phone etc i guess i have to wait... no i have it i'll go back on that site where we do the Q and A and say i just came back to see if i scored...i mean if she graded the test and maybe see if she has the day off like me... hmmmm,,,its been a while though...i remember everything about but what if she's even more beautiful or there a radical a radical change, like she cut her hair short. probably highlight her face and if that's the case i better not look to deeply into those eyes that melted my heart by seeing in them her love.
Moresome Posted December 14, 2006 Posted December 14, 2006 Nezero: if you're not sure about accepting what your friend said, then perhaps asking people on the internet, who don't know any of you, will get you the answer you want to hear? I'm sorry, but I'm sure she would find someway of meeting with you, in the next 3 weeks, if she was keen. She would have messaged you confirming her interest, perhaps even flirting a little, if she did want to meet you, but was too busy. Imagine if you had somebody you wanted to meet, even as a friend, but was unable to do so for a while, you would reassure them, not be so vague. It doesn't take long to send a text. Her vagueness is probably an attempt to save your feelings, you're right about that. It takes a great deal of tact to clearly turn somebody down, without hurting them at all. It would have been less confusing if she'd been more direct with you, but, then, maybe she's hoping you will get the hint. Don't joke with her about being busy. I think you will make her feel uncomfortable, rather than get a positive reaction. This could put her right off you and make you look immature. Baring in mind the time of the year, I think it would be better to wait for the new year and then text her (once) and ask her if she's not so busy you're looking for a friend to go somewhere with. Unfortunately, everybody has people in the past that they wanted to go out with, but the feeling wasn't mutual. Don't let it get you down if this is the case. At least she is not going to date you out of sympathy or on a false pretense. You could learn a lot from this about how people behave. Perhaps you'll notice the differences between this and when a woman does like you
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