Kelso Posted December 2, 2006 Posted December 2, 2006 Hello everyone - I was wondering about a relationship breakup and thinking of the girl. For the first 2 weeks I thought about her constantly. When I woke up, when I fell asleep, when I was sleeping and when I was awake. As time has passed, I have realized that it probably wasn't meant to be for us. Although I really care for this girl, I believe that breaking up was the best thing for us to do. As I see it, we probably would have broken up in the future, and then I believe it's better to do it just now, instead of later when the pain would definetly be more. However - as I said, for the first weeks I thought about her constantly. I was obsessing over her every minute of my life and I was unable to get anything done during the day. Now I don't think about her all day - but she pops into my mind every 10-15 minutes. Just some memory...and I just smile and go on with what I'm doing. It really bothers me and I'm getting sick of her popping up in my mind like this. It's really annoying, because I have given up all chance to get her back (mostly because I don't want to). How can I think so much of someone and often feel sad over a relationship that I don't want to continue? Do you have any advises for me how I can start living my life without thinking of her 100 times a day (although I'm not obsessing with her )
BannaBee57 Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 I don't know if this will help you, but it gave me a little bit of relief. Get slightly interested in someone new. You don't have to persue anything or try to date them. Just acknowledge to yourself that this other person is cute and might be fun to hang out with or get to know better. That way you are making yourself see that there are other people out there and your ex wasn't the be all and end all. When she pops into your head try thinking about something you like about this new person and allow yourself to fantasize a bit. I'm in the same boat as you, honey. I know what it's like to have everything remind you of that person. Right now I still can't make myself stop thinking that he will realise he's an idiot and come back to me even though it's been over 4 months...so at least you're a step ahead of that
82knightrider Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 lmao ! I feel the same way . Since she left ive been just keeping busy.Detail your car,your engine,hang with friends ,exercise,write down goals of things you want to buy or do.Even if there out of reach right now at least youll have someting to strive for.Drop any bad habits you have cold turkey
82knightrider Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 I don't know if this will help you, but it gave me a little bit of relief. Get slightly interested in someone new. You don't have to persue anything or try to date them. Just acknowledge to yourself that this other person is cute and might be fun to hang out with or get to know better. That way you are making yourself see that there are other people out there and your ex wasn't the be all and end all. When she pops into your head try thinking about something you like about this new person and allow yourself to fantasize a bit. Now that I think about it,my girl was fantasizing about my friend at the end of the relationship.arghhhhh lol Good advice.
Lei Posted December 4, 2006 Posted December 4, 2006 Oh men! I think we're the same. How about knowing of someone for almost 2 years? And having a good friendship with her? But deep inside you, you like her so much just like you. Same with you, I'm afraid of hurts that's why I just keep it inside me. Just like you, popping her into my head. But not like you, I feel so damn for I'm becoming jealous for all the things she's doing. She's beautiful that's why many guys attracted to her in our school. She's smart and jolly - always have a smile. We've became close last year (3nd yr higschool) but now she's too busy just like an artist and a fan. Would you be my exchange conversation pal about this matter?
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