The Ex called after 2 months and 3 days after she unblocked me from MSN

[GivingUp]

Thank you all for ur responses I really appreciate it, she actually called me, she first called my friend to see if I changed my phone number but my friend said no. Then my friend asked if she was going back to me she said no. but that’s okay I guess. She also said to her friend don’t tell him when im coming back which I no is in 13 days. The ex said she has to call me to explain some things which pissed me off because I got my clouser .

 

so the ex called and asked how I was and everything saying she was sorry for the break up I responded and said no big deal we laughed and joked she told me she was spoiling her self and buying a lot of things seconded she said she has been eating to much sense we broke up and then said are we friends I said im cool with that. I acted like I didn’t give a S**** why is she opening old wounds and second why doesn’t she want to tell me when she is coming and why did she tell her friend not to tell me when she is.

 

I’m really confused is she trying to upset me or is she breaking the glass so when she gets back she can see what happens maybe she wants friendship or maybe she wants more what do u guys think

[WhiteKnight]

Difficult to say I have to admit. Whilst I can think of a couple of reasons behind it.

 

Woman have the tendency to play mind games with other people, I was kinda sick and tired of my ex-gf's doing that to me to be honest.

 

One of my ex's, an ex-fiancee of mine called me like 2 and a half months after I had betrayed her by telling the husband of her involvement with other men online. It was quite funny how she came back to me if you think of it. She unblocked me on msn, and any of the chat programs and started talking to me again.

 

Before that she ran back to me, yelling and abusing me over the phone to demand that I would act like a friend and I was like... "Meh..." and gave her my reason back.

 

Its funny how she made a few jokes from my relationship with her though, it did kinda pieved me off a little but I controlled myself and responded... "lol..." a lot. And strangely enough she did as well.

 

At some stages at the beginning of reviving a friendship between your ex-gf, I know that the 'past' will always hurt. Because despite of the fact that she wanted to be friends with you or vice versa, you will always have that pain somewhere. In truth, I don't usually care about an ex-gf who leaves me and used me, so that can be different.

 

However for your case GivingUp, just be careful of how she says things about the past. If you feel hurt about her bringing it up constantly, just respond... "That's all in the past, I don't like to be reminded of it too much but I'm glad we are friends still."

 

Sometimes whenever your ex-gf talks about you behind your back to another friend, sometimes it hurts but you have to consider that she might be getting things off her chest on what's bothering her or asking advice from your friend to help get back together as good friends. Like fixing the friendship up.

 

Like my ex-fiancee, she was talking to more than 5 people about me and seeking their support or advice on how to re-establish a good friendshp with me. I told all of my best mates to tell her... "All things will heal in due time but her actions of lies and deciet will open those wounds and push me further away from actually having a friendship with her though."

 

Something might develop in your second friendship with your ex-gf, anything is possible and a relationship might return but the chances of that happening can be way off. However my only suggestion is work things out in the friendship way and build a good friendship again. Always be honest, open minded (listener) and truthful to her.