bede86 Posted December 2, 2006 Posted December 2, 2006 About 6 weeks ago i met a girl through a girl that liked me, from the moment i saw her i was in love, id never felt this way about anyone before. Since we met she is now a part of my group of friends. At first i thought she liked me untill i found out she liked a friend of mine, he led her on for a week then gave her the flick coz he liked her friend who liked me, now he and the girl who use to like me are going out....crazy i no....so i went out baught some flowers and got the girl i liked a cd player for her car and when i told her how i felt she said "i love u as a friend and always will" i love her so much, the happiest part of my day is seeing her when we all go out and the saddest part is her leaving and going home . Her best friend who use to like me told me that she does secretly like me but is afraid of being hurt, she never said anything to her about it but she asures me she likes me coz she said shes known her 15 years and can tell these things....part of me hopes shes right but part of me feels shes telling me what i want to hear ....anyway now the girl i like thinks im over her and dont care anymore, but im not i love her still i only told her i was over her to get rid of the awkwardness she had around me....what do i do? ive been with girls before and had a few relationships but its never been like this for me ive never felt like this about anyone....im not gonna give up just yet coz if i do like in the past itl leave me feeling terrible. so any advice anyone can give me would be great, im just a desperate guy willing to try anything right now
LucreziaBorgia Posted December 2, 2006 Posted December 2, 2006 Her best friend who use to like me told me that she does secretly like me but is afraid of being hurt, she never said anything to her about it but she asures me she likes me coz she said shes known her 15 years and can tell these things.... Don't pin your hopes on the best friend being able to somehow 'tell' something based on no information. Listen to the girl - she told you point blank she only liked you as friends. Best to listen to it coming directly from the source rather than relying on shaky secondhand speculation.
luvtoto Posted December 2, 2006 Posted December 2, 2006 from the moment i saw her i was in love, id never felt this way about anyone before so i went out baught some flowers and got the girl i liked a cd player for her car i love her so much, the happiest part of my day is seeing her when we all go out and the saddest part is her leaving and going home . Her best friend who use to like me told me that she does secretly like me but is afraid of being hurt, she never said anything to her about it but she asures me she likes me coz she said shes known her 15 years and can tell these things....part of me hopes shes right but part of me feels shes telling me what i want to hear ive been with girls before and had a few relationships but its never been like this for me ive never felt like this about anyone....im not gonna give up just yet so any advice anyone can give me would be great, im just a desperate guy willing to try anything right now (((Shuuddeerrss to shake off the desperateness in your thread ))) Acting this way will surely make her literally run from you!! I am sorry,but her friend was just being nice and telling you what you wanted to hear.
Author bede86 Posted December 2, 2006 Author Posted December 2, 2006 should i just then be myself around her and be a friend to her and hope maybe she'l have a change of heart? should i ignore her and act like i dont give a damn? should i take an interest in other girls in order for her to be jelous? in the past ive moved on in situations like this and gotten over it but this time its just different..........i just dont know what to do.....
Kamille Posted December 2, 2006 Posted December 2, 2006 I think you should be yourself but focus on accepting that she said she did not like you that way. Meaning, you shouldn't hang on to the hope that she may eventually change her mind. Since you told her how you felt about her, the ball is now in her court. If she changes her mind, it's up to her to approach you. If you need time and space for yourself, to sort out your emotions and accept that she is not interested that way, you should take it. But I think you should avoid trying out strategies (ignoring her, making her jealous) in the hope that it will make her change her mind.
HeadlessZebra Posted December 2, 2006 Posted December 2, 2006 should i just then be myself around her and be a friend to her and hope maybe she'l have a change of heart? Might be a good idea, but you're risking a lot more heartache if you keep your hopes up. should i ignore her and act like i dont give a damn?Haha, no. You can smell sour grapes from a mile away. She'll just think you're a sore loser. should i take an interest in other girls in order for her to be jelous?That probably won't work. I know when guys I've shot down get a girlfriend, the only thing I think is "Aww, poor guy, well, at least somebody out there is willing to date him, hahaha."
Author bede86 Posted December 2, 2006 Author Posted December 2, 2006 maybe ill just be myself and see how that goes....some times i think she likes me the way we talk the way she smiles etc its hard to explain....i really dont know shes only 17 and im 20 so theres an age difference and her immaturity does show sometimes, she also covers up how she really feels about everythin in general....her friend says that she'l talk to her next week and see what she can do but i dont think that could help, i want her to like me for who i am i know that if she gave me a chance i could make her very happy. She suffers from depression also and takes medication for it and she has strange moods...we all got our faults i guess...despite all this i still like her heaps, to me shes perfect....not that that means anytin to anyone but me
Recommended Posts